After a betrayed marriage, how to rebuild trust in feelings
After the betrayal of the marriage, the relationship between the husband and wife has a rift, and the only criterion for saving the marriage is to "rebuild trust"
Couples can establish the basis of their feelings for each other, mainly because the couple has good trust, if the husband and wife are suspicious of each other.
No matter what you do, husband and wife are not accustomed to each other, which shows that your emotional foundation is very weak, then you must lack communication.
Do you know? How is the trust between husband and wife established?
Communication between husband and wife, not bragging between colleagues, nor like a child, just coaxing is good.
Couples want to build trust between each other.
It is to talk in the true sense of the heart, to understand the real thoughts of the other party, so as to narrow the distance between each other. It is very important to communicate with each other calmly.
Generally, couples with good feelings have established a certain emotional foundation and will not easily betray each other.
Therefore, betrayal is often the lack of the foundation of communication, and many men just can't put down their faces to have a heart-to-heart exchange with the women around them.
Thinking that men are heaven, that a family is the master of men, and that women have no room to speak.
Your wife originally wanted to have a heart-to-heart conversation with you, but your friend said that you have a strict wife.
You say it yourself, what to build the foundation of your feelings, you lack communication and conversation every day.
What the other party takes and establishes trust with you, there is no trust between husband and wife, and after a long time, there will be marital betrayal,
In fact, the hardest hit area of betrayal is that the trust between husband and wife cannot be established.
first.
Why is trust the key to repairing feelings?
Trust is like building a house, the foundation is not solid, no matter how beautiful your house is, it is an empty shell, such a marriage can not stand any test.
Husbands and wives must learn to build trust between each other in order to make love more stable.
Why does the man marry his daughter-in-law? It is to enter into a relationship with her and form a family. In the larger, contribute to the birth of a second child in the country.
To a lesser extent, it is the need for self-interest, which can rely on each other in the relationship, and there will be a partner and you in the future, and you will not be lonely and lonely for a lifetime.
The wife is made up of two people who are related to each other, because they have become a family in love, so in the face of love, do not let the other party be sensitive and suspicious, and must give the other party a sufficient sense of security.
A woman's sense of security comes from the trust that men build,
Trust is the cornerstone of repairing feelings and cannot be shaken in the slightest.
Otherwise, once the marriage encounters betrayal, the first thing that will be broken is trust, so if the husband and wife want the feelings to continue to heat up, they must trust each other, communicate with each other, and do not leave a little opportunity for betrayal.
second.
After the betrayal, how can couples rebuild trust?
Trust is made up of emotions and reason
Emotion is the foundation of trust, and only a rational attitude can build lasting trust.
Encountering betrayal is an emotional foundation that has not been cultivated well, and if you want eternal marital feelings, you must rebuild good trust.
Husband and wife rebuilding the letter is not as simple as repentance, after the betrayal occurs, because the couple's character has been estranged,
You have to start getting to know each other again, you have to start building trust again.
Because after the betrayal occurs, the emotional foundation between each other has been shaken, even if you repent, it does not mean that you will treat the feelings with your heart, forgive you, and do not necessarily control yourself not to betray the feelings.
Husband and wife are the most trustworthy people, no matter what they encounter, they can suffer together, even if you do it wrong, you must be brave to face the communication and get each other's forgiveness in time.
This is the first step in rebuilding trust.
Maintain a good attitude to communicate, timely deliver information between husband and wife, accept mutual trust, and reach consensus.
In this way, the rift of betrayal can be effectively repaired.
The second step in rebuilding trust:
People's biggest enemy is themselves, before rebuilding trust, we must find ourselves, under the temptation of beautiful women and handsome men, effectively control ourselves, let ourselves have a better ability to awaken, let betrayal always become history, which is the key link in rebuilding trust.
Although some people have won the forgiveness of the other party, you must know that forgiving the betrayal of the lover, the heart is always an indelible scar, although you choose to re-accept the other party, but there is always a threshold that is difficult to pass.
If you want to return to your original feelings, you must accept the trust of the other party and convince yourself of your own opinion.
Let your feelings re-establish new trust, although you feel wronged, if the other party will give you a new self, I think you can regulate your emotions and give your partner the opportunity to build trust again.
I know that the other party has betrayed you, and I always feel that I can't let go of those pains for the rest of my life.
In the face of the feelings of the lover, the emotions deep inside. He will make himself awake at times, sometimes like an angry bird, but sometimes feel as if he has forgiven him, but he cannot convince himself.
If you want to establish the feelings between husband and wife, you must now change your cognition and re-regulate your emotions, only by letting yourself have no emotions, can you let the broken feelings heat up quickly.
Let the happy future overcome the unhappy past, and only by letting go of the history of betrayal can you build good trust.
The third step in rebuilding trust:
Husbands and wives are originally the same forest birds, and they can't fly separately.
There are many women who, after having children, are afraid that they will quarrel with their husbands, let their husbands sleep in a room alone, take their children by themselves, how hard they are, and they can't make their husbands work hard.
Originally this was a good idea, but the reality is a joke with you, for a long time, some men have weak control ability, at this time is the most prone to betrayal.
Husbands and wives are in common hardships, and at this critical time, no one can do without anyone.
You must know that the inner synchronization is on the basis of external synchronization, and the husband and wife try to achieve difficulties and happiness, try to reach an agreement on the living habits, and narrow the inner distance between the two people.
Only when there is zero distance between the heart and the heart, can the husband and wife establish good trust, so that they can share hardships and hardships.
The damage caused by betrayal will change over time, and slowly everything will be forgotten,
The degree of trust between husband and wife will also slowly heat up with each other's communication and mutual trust.
Editor's Note.
Before repairing the relationship, you have not seriously considered that you will start a new life in the future,
Instead of not separating for the sake of certain interests, feelings must be the willingness of both parties to last forever.
Trust is a willing repair, not forcing oneself.
You need to know exactly what you want.
You have to let yourself know that to continue with him, you must re-establish love and trust, think first. Then select.
It is to choose to convince yourself to trust the other party, if you choose to trust him in your heart, this is just some of the concerns in your heart.
But after you choose to rebuild trust, you will unconsciously eliminate your concerns while trusting each other.
As long as the forgiven person truly returns to the family and starts a good life again, betrayal will become history.
Repairing trust is a long process, although he has betrayed, but since you have chosen to repair feelings, but you must remember that a happy life will replace the unhappy past, you must know how to let go, you will have a new beginning in the future, and a new beginning will allow you to re-encounter happiness.