In the era of materialization, interests are always the supreme topic.
Many people say that it is difficult to get married now, and it is difficult for an ordinary family to get married with hundreds of thousands of dowries and millions of houses, but the social trend is so that most people can only go with the flow and are forced to bear a heavy debt burden. Without these basic conditions, it is difficult to obtain the approval of the other family, and it is naturally difficult to obtain the opportunity to marry.
Over time, people's hearts of comparison have become heavier and heavier, some people have shown off how much bride price they received when they got married, and some people praised how big a house they bought when they got married. Over time, this deformed form of marriage relationship has planted the seeds of mustard for modern marriage.
People have desires, which we must admit, but now there are always some people who greedily impose desires on others, just such irrational behavior, and in the end, they may find that the ugly is still themselves.
The 40-year-old woman went on a blind date and asked the other party to buy a house for her son
Perhaps today's extremely open society makes couples who originally take into account the eyes of others more unscrupulous, so divorce has become a very common thing, and China's divorce rate has increased year by year, and there has been sufficient data support. The occurrence of large-scale divorce incidents has also produced a large number of single mothers or single fathers. Some people may give up their fantasies about love and put all their enthusiasm on raising children, but others try to find a trace of human warmth in loneliness.
The protagonist of this story is called Li Jing, because of the discord with her husband, she has been divorced for more than ten years, and when she divorced, because of her husband's disregard, her son eventually followed her life, that is to say, Li Jing has been a single mother for a long time.
After the divorce, Li Jing has been doing her best to give her son a better life, but she is also trying to make the biggest wonderful in ordinary days. Because she has no academic qualifications, she has been working in a small factory after the divorce, and her monthly salary is about 3,000 yuan, so that she can barely support the daily life of mother and son. But as the son grows up, new problems naturally begin to arise, the son needs to get married, and marriage naturally requires a new house, and the current house price is sky-high for any ordinary person, not to mention for this single mother with limited salary.
In order to realize the ideal of buying a house for her son, Ms. Li Jing thought of remarrying, after all, marriage requires a bride price, etc., in Ms. Li's place, it naturally becomes a condition for buying a house for her son, and this is the only condition for her to get married.
Soon, Ms. Li welcomed her blind date, Mr. Wang. At this time, Mr. Wang is 55 years old, after the breakup of the previous relationship, he has been living with his daughter, and now that his daughter has become a family, he can also start to pursue his own life, so he came out on a blind date. At this time, Mr. Wang's salary per month was about 4,000 yuan, because his daughter had already started a family, so the money was basically accumulated by Mr. Wang.
To say that Mr. Wang's life is indeed a model of a standard good man, no smoking, no drinking, no bad habits, and no misconduct in life, of course, Mr. Wang also has some of his own hobbies, that is, he has a lot of research on motorcycles. When he and Ms. Li Jing met for the first time, he showed off to her a motorcycle he bought for 20,000 yuan, which was very proud.
As for Ms. Li Jing, she is not interested in motorcycles at all, because it has nothing to do with her life. At this time, she is most concerned about whether Mr. Wang can meet his requirements for buying a house.
Therefore, Ms. Li Jing did not chat too much gossip, but directly asked Mr. Wang: "Are you willing to buy a house for my son?" My son is going to start a family after graduating from college and doesn't have a house yet. ”
This sentence made Mr. Wang, who had just been showing off his 10,000-yuan motorcycle, quickly calm down, and in the face of the question raised by Ms. Li Jing, Mr. Wang replied: "It takes half or six hundred thousand to buy a house, who has the ability?" I have a house in the countryside, and if you want, we can go back to the countryside to live. ”
For Mr. Wang's answer, Li Jing is naturally very dissatisfied, after all, she herself is from the countryside, and there are several reasons why the young people now return to the countryside, and it is definitely necessary to have a house in the city to marry a daughter-in-law, and the current rural girls are also very realistic. In desperation, Ms. Li Jing also began to complain at this time, saying that she brought up her son alone, and now facing the critical period of her son's life, what she can do is to try her best to reduce the pressure on him, especially if he can't afford to buy a house after graduation, or can only rely on his mother to reduce pressure on him.
Seeing such a situation, Mr. Wang naturally had difficulty understanding why Ms. Li Jing did not go to her ex-husband to solve the house problem for her son, but relied on the new object to spend money to buy a house. In desperation, Mr. Wang quickly said that he had something to do and left first.
Ms. Li Jing's first blind date naturally ended like this, and the result was also very clear.
Then look for a blind date
The first blind date failed, and Ms. Li Jing began her new blind date career.
This time, the blind date agent introduced Ms. Li to a man two years younger than her, who worked as a security guard in an entertainment venue and earned about 7,000 yuan per month.
The man, Zhang Bo, also had a divorced experience. Because she worked in other places, she and her wife always got together less and more, and eventually the two went to the point of divorce, and the daughters of the two were also carried by Zhang Bo himself. However, because of the particularity of Zhang Bo's work, most of the working hours are at night, and it is difficult to take care of her daughter during the day, so her daughter is put to her sister-in-law to take care of her.
However, for a long time to trouble his sister-in-law's family, not only will the sister-in-law's family be dissatisfied, but Zhang Bo himself is too unwilling to go, so he chose to come out on a blind date, in order to be able to find a virtuous woman and take care of his daughter.
The first time the two met, Li Jing was very satisfied with the middle-aged man in front of him, after all, Zhang Bo's figure was very standard, and there was also a sense of heroism, which was very popular with women. At this time, Ms. Li Jing did not care about many, after all, she was already an elderly person, so she boldly asked Zhang Bo how he felt about himself, and zhang Bo also began to tense up inside, after all, he himself was a person who was not good at words, so he could only answer: "The first time you meet, which can be determined, you need to slowly contact." ”
Seeing that Zhang Bo was a little nervous, Ms. Li Jing also tried to make herself look calm, so she chose another way to understand each other. Because they all came on a blind date and had divorced experiences, Li Jing asked him what specific requirements he had.
At this time, Zhang Bo also began to enter the normal conversation, he said that he could not give his 9-year-old daughter a sound home because of divorce, so this time he hoped to find a mother for his daughter to help take care of her daughter.
Hearing this, Li Jing's heart has begun to retreat, because in her opinion, the 9-year-old daughter still needs to spend a lot of time to cultivate, but she is still someone else's child, and she can't educate loudly, so that she can take care of this child step by step every day, she still can't accept it.
But the unhappiness in her heart still can't be shown like this, so she tentatively asked, "Can you accept my conditions?" It's about buying a house for my son, who is in college. ”
At this time, after Zhang Bo listened, he also shook his head helplessly, indicating that he did not have this ability. It is true that buying a house is a rather difficult thing for ordinary people, and if there is such spare money, they may have been able to settle down a long time ago.
Ms. Li Jing's second blind date ended in failure. In the face of the results of two failures, Li Jing said that she just wanted her son to live a little better, and there were no too many requirements, and now the young marriage is not all about a room? And his own son can also give each other a pension in the future, why is no one accepting this condition?
In the face of Ms. Li Jing's thoughts, some netizens also expressed their opinions.
Some netizens said: "You can say it all, just ask you a word, do you resist beating?" ”
Some netizens also proposed: "Big sister, these years of light long skin forget the long IQ." ”
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Indeed, Ms. Li Jing's idea is also a little too simple, why should others pay for her son, not to mention whether others have this ability, that is, after buying a house, there is no guarantee that Ms. Li can get along with others, so after the divorce, what should the house do? Therefore, there are some problems with Ms. Li's own ideas, but Ms. Li does not think so.
epilogue
People want to live a better life, nothing more than to make themselves stronger, rather than looking for the so-called dependence, after all, most of this dependence is unreliable, the most important thing is to make themselves self-reliant.
If Ms. Li Jing in the text wants to buy a house for her son, she may as well rely on her own ability to accumulate, rather than relying on marriage to give others constraints. If the son really needs to buy a house, and is not in a hurry to buy now, you may wish to wait for the son to graduate, after having the ability to make money, the son's savings plus Ms. Li's savings may be able to buy a house of his choice, rather than buying a house as a condition for marrying himself, if it is only a materialized need, then where is the meaning of marriage?
We understand Ms. Li Jing's helplessness as a single mother, but she must learn some basic truths, otherwise she can only make herself a joke in other people's population, and even be looked down upon by others, so it is a complete failure of life.
Houses, cars and huge gifts have indeed become a must-have for most families to get married, but if it is really a marriage relationship established on such material conditions, will it really last a long time? In the days of their fathers, although their lives were very poor, they were the envy of most people above marriage.
Dear readers, do you think that Ms. Li's request to buy a house during the blind date is reasonable?