In this world's most romantic feeling is love, love has many forms, there are days and nights of companionship, there is only one eye to accompany a lifetime. Not all love can go into marriage as desired. But as long as it is a partner who decides to go to marriage together, it must be full of expectations for the future life.
Unlike today's free love, in ancient China, most people married as arranged marriages, and many of them did not even see each other before marriage. In ancient China, there is such a sentence to describe the relationship between husband and wife, called "one day husband and wife hundred days". These two "days" are not the time as everyone understands them.
This saying comes from the Qing Dynasty Zhiwei novel "Liaozhai Zhiyi". There is a legend in the book that there was a xiucai in Yongping County, who was young and literary, and was very upright and well-respected in the local area.
At that time, the County Commandery of Yongping County was very arrogant, bullying men and women everywhere, and committing evil deeds. Once he tortured and killed a scholar, which caused dissatisfaction among local readers, and they jointly wrote a letter to report, including this talent.
Xiucai's wife was a little frightened by her husband's behavior, and she was afraid that her husband would be retaliated against by the county order. Things did not go well, and the petition they jointly reported failed to reach the Son of Heaven at all.
There were people in the imperial court who not only stopped the petition, but also got the list of readers who sued him. He hunted down the readers based on the list, and in this case, Xiucai had to hurry to pack up his things and go out to hide.
He fled all night, walking for dozens of miles in a row, because he was too hurried, he did not care where the front was, and when he arrived at a place where there was no shop in front of the village, because he was too tired after a long day of walking, he wanted to hurry to find someone to rest. As he walked, he found a house in an open space, and an old woman stood in front of the door, and there was no one else around, so he hurried forward to meet the old lady, hoping to spend the night here.
The old woman told him that he could spend the night here, but there was a young lady in her own family, hoping that he would not disturb the young lady, and Xiucai agreed as soon as she took a bite. Xiucai stayed here for several days, during which he saw the young lady of the old woman's population, this lady looked like a heavenly immortal and had a wonderful temperament.
In the past few days of getting along, the young lady has also seen Xiucai's literary talent, and gradually the two people have fallen in love. After that, the young lady told him that she was not actually a human woman, but a "fox fairy" who had cultivated the Tao, and Xiucai said that it was nothing, and he thought that he would not be able to return home for a while and a half anyway, so he was with the young lady, and the two of them lived a sweet and happy life for three years.
As time passed, he gradually missed his wife and children who were far away, so he told the young lady what had happened, hoping to go home to visit her relatives, and the young lady was disappointed, thinking that his sweet words were all lies.
Xiucai said, "One day husband and wife hundred days", how did I lie to you? When I go home, I will always remember your kindness and will never forget you. When the young lady had finished listening, she let him go.
Back home, Xiu cai saw his wife who had not been seen for three years and cried with joy. Speaking of these three years of experience, Xiucai also explained his and his wife's affairs, and his wife was very unhappy after learning about it, saying that you had another woman outside, so you forgot me.
Xiucai said, "You will always be my wife, and besides, the young lady is actually a fox, a demon, and it is against the ethics of heaven and earth for the two of them to be together." It's just her kindness to me, which I can't forget in my life. ”
Only to see Xiucai's wife's face pale, at this time he found that everything was an illusion, and the small home in his eyes slowly turned into smoke and dissipated. He couldn't run out of the lady's house at all, and the wife in front of him was actually changed by the lady.
The young lady sadly said that she had seen through Xiucai's true thoughts and knew that Xiucai's heart had never loved herself. However, she also said that she was very pleased that Xiucai did not forget her kindness, so she chose to send Xiucai home.
From this story, we can have a more comprehensive understanding of this sentence. The first word "day" in this sentence refers to what we think of as a day, but the second japanese word is not actually like this, and in some literary works, this word is pronounced as mi, looking for the meaning.
Roughly speaking, even if we are only a husband and wife for one day, then we will have 100 days of grace, and even if we are separated in the future, we will use 100 methods to find each other. There is also a saying that. "Day" means the number of days, but "hundred" is an imaginary number that refers to a long period of time.
In general, it is extremely difficult to get married, marriage is not only love, but also contains family affection, maintaining marriage requires wisdom and compromise, but in fact, what is most needed is love in the final analysis.