"There are many men chasing me, divorce and rush to marry" After divorce, she understands: chasing you does not necessarily want to marry you

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I once read a post online:

A married woman in her 30s, not low in appearance, high enough emotional intelligence, married her husband for many years, because she pursues a free life, so she has not had children.

Women are especially heterosexual, and there are more friends around men than women, and she can talk to all men. Many men will talk to her when they have something on their minds, many parties also call her together, and even a few male friends lament that if only they could be with her forever in this life.

Although the woman enjoys this feeling of the stars holding the moon, it has caused her husband to be greatly dissatisfied, often complaining that she ignores the family, and the two often quarrel over this matter, quarreling and quarreling, and the feelings are gone.

Later, the woman filed for divorce, she thought she had so many suitors, why hang from a tree! Abandoning her husband's tree, she will be able to have a bigger forest!

When divorcing, women do not forget to show off with their husbands: "There are many men chasing me, and divorce rushes to marry!" Without you I will find better! ”

However, after years of divorce, the woman is still alone and has not found a suitable partner. There have been men who have indicated that they want to pursue her, but none of them want to marry her home.

She became the popular lover of many men.

Finally, the woman finally understood: a man chasing you is not necessarily to marry you.

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The story of the crow and the fox has already given us too many warnings:

The crow clings to a piece of meat and falls on the tree, and the fox under the tree covets the meat in the crow's mouth, and in order to take it for himself, the cunning fox praises the crow's singing voice, saying that she has the most beautiful and moving voice in the world, and praises the crow to the sky.

Finally the crow rose triumphantly, and at the urging of the fox, he intended to sing. As soon as he opened his mouth, the flesh in his mouth fell, and the fox under the tree immediately grabbed the meat and ran. The crow was dumbfounded.

Some women are like crows in fables, unable to withstand the little good words and kindness of men with ulterior motives.

Being praised by men a few times, being shown by men several times, mistakenly thinking that people are interested in themselves, they are quickly lost in unrealistic fantasies, thinking that they are full of charm.

In fact, this is just some men's routine, behind the routine hides ulterior motives, or to entertain you, entertain you, find fun for you, or to pick up oil, take advantage, take advantage of opportunities to gain benefits.

In short, probably for all sorts of reasons, not to love you, not to marry you home.

The bus on the street, once it arrives at the station, many people rush to get on the bus.

Private cars on the street, even if they stop on the side of the road for half a day, none of the passers-by dare to open the door directly.

In the end, those who snatched the bus did not drive the bus home; and the private car that no one dared to touch was driven home by the owner.

So when you're flattered or vigorously pursued by some men, don't mistake it for love, or maybe it's because you make them feel "cheap", so cheap that any man thinks he is entitled to pursue you and deserves you.

In the world of feelings, intentions are important, and brains are more important.

3.

Remember that there is such a passage in "Huan Zhu Ge Ge":

The emperor took a few brothers to hunt, shot a deer but released it, and did not take it away as a trophy.

Because the hunt is not about whether the prey is captured in the end, but about the fun of chasing during the hunt.

Men are different from women, women care about the result, everything likes to ask an answer, so many women all their lives are asking men: Do you love me or not!

Men, on the other hand, only care about the process, not the result. Many times, they pursue women, not really to marry women home and live a good life with her.

On the contrary, they are most afraid that women will finally confess and cry and want to get married. What they really enjoy is the process of pursuit, and the sense of excitement and satisfaction that comes with this pursuit.

Women who are too easy to conquer will make them feel bored, let alone marry home! Only those women who can't get it can make them either depressed, or angry, or unwilling, and they will never forget it.

Some time ago, the Wang Sicong and Sun Yining incident was in full swing.

Wang Sicong is known as the "national husband", both wealth and popularity are beyond reach, the girlfriends around him have changed one after another, but never married one of the women home.

Only Sun Yining became an exception, and she became a woman that Wang Sicong could not get by virtue of her own pride. In the exposed chat records of the two, Wang Sicong is both greasy and humble: Let me love you well, okay? Let me live with you, okay?

A woman that men can get casually, in men's hearts, often means that it is not unique enough, not rare enough.

So women should never think that the more men around them, the more men who love themselves. The more casual you are, the more respected and cherished you are in the eyes of men.

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One of the criteria for a woman to measure whether she is attractive or not is not how many men she has experienced in her life, but how many men you wish to accompany you throughout your life.

Countless women around men do not necessarily live happily.

I have a distant niece, majoring in civil engineering during college, and there were 45 people in the class that year, she was one of only two girls, and the rest were all boys.

Whenever someone asks about her major, they deliberately joke: "This major is good, don't worry about finding a boyfriend!" "But strangely enough, the niece and the girl never fell in love during college.

The niece said that the boys in the class usually spoiled them, and they were not allowed to do heavy work, but they were helpless and their appearance was not high, although the monks were more porridge and less, four years of college, their two "porridges" were not taken away.

She said she had no regrets. Because love and marriage are a very serious thing, you can't just grab a casual love affair because there are more boys around.

Today, her niece, who has graduated from college for many years, has already harvested her own happiness.

Women must know how to cherish themselves, cherish feelings, and withstand the temptation of the surrounding environment, only in this way, in the end, they deserve better happiness.

Never let this mountain look at the height of the mountain, uncertain, tossing and turning, and finally getting nothing.

The human heart is not enough for the snake to swallow the elephant, and the world is full of mantis to catch cicadas.

Only women who learn to be satisfied and know how to cherish can often have more happiness in the end.