If you had the choice, would you be willing to give your hard-earned money to your brother to buy a house?
I think that if I had the choice, I believe that no one would be willing to do this mother-in-law CASH machine. But the reality is often more helpless, the harsh rebuke of parents, the moral kidnapping of parents, will eventually force the daughter to submit and compromise.
The writer ShiYi once said: The root cause of disputes in multi-child families is not the love of brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents. Because parents are unjust, there are many estrangements and contradictions between brothers and sisters.
In fact, the eccentricity of parents and the disputes of children are ultimately because of money. As "Parasite" says, money is an iron that irons all the folds of life.
01, three brothers and sisters, but the parents are only partial to their sons
Zhang Qiao did not expect that he and his sister had been a fu ge demon for several years before marriage, and now everyone has become a family and have children, but he still can't get rid of the fu ge devil and subsidize the doom of his mother's family.
Zhang Qiao has three children in the family, the elder brother is the eldest, and the only son in the family, who has been deeply loved by his parents since childhood. Although Zhang Qiao and his sister are the youngest children in the family, the parents' attention and full body and mind are all poured into the brother's body.
However, the more spoiled the child is, the more he grows up to achieve nothing. The same goes for my brother. Even if his parents tried their best to provide him with schooling and personal training for his brother, his brother was not the material for reading at all. After graduating from junior high school, my brother decided not to go to school and play at home.
His parents could not control him, and they could only follow his preferences. It's just a brother who is idle, and when he has no money, he asks his parents for it, and his parents are always obedient. Later, after Zhang Qiao and his sister worked, they also became a cash cow for their parents to adopt their sons.
The parents ran out of money and looked for the Zhang Qiao sisters; the brother wanted to buy a house and get married, and the parents looked for two daughters. Even if the brother-in-law later got married and had a job, the mortgage and the parents' pension still fell on the heads of the Zhang Qiao sisters, so that one of them would bear the mortgage and the other would have adoptive parents.
02, the brother and sister-in-law want to change the big house, the parents are righteous: they have two sisters, one person 100,000
After the Zhang Qiao sisters got married and started a family, their parents still did not let them go. But where the mother's family is a little windy, the parents are sick, especially where they need to spend money, the Zhang Qiao sisters are always the first to bear the brunt and act as the wrongdoers. The brother-in-law hid behind her parents, proud and enjoyed her success.
Zhang Qiao and his sister also thought of resisting, but their resistance, for their parents, is undoubtedly rebellious and filial piety. In front of their relatives and friends, the parents spread the insults of the sisters for their filial piety, and in the end, the sisters had to compromise because of their conscience and filial piety.
This time, the brother-in-law took advantage of the fact that the family had a second child, and the house where he lived was too small, and he needed to change a large house as a reason, so he once again asked his parents to take out 200,000 yuan to help him replace the big house. In order to achieve the goal, the brother-in-law also said that it was really not possible, and he borrowed 200,000 yuan with his two sisters first, and then slowly repaid it when he worked to earn money.
As a result, the sisters have not yet spoken, but the parents have said bluntly, no need to borrow, their two sisters, one person 100,000, just enough for 200,000. When a family talks about money, it is too foreign, and brothers and sisters should help each other.
The parents' understated words took the two sisters' efforts for granted. According to the past custom, after receiving instructions from their parents, the sisters had to find a way to scrape together 100,000 yuan regardless of whether their respective husbands and in-laws wanted to or not.
03, the sisters have severed ties with their parents
But this time, the parents' righteousness and brother-in-law's sitting enjoyed their success, so that the sisters were disgusted to the extreme. When the brother-in-law bought a house for the first time, the sisters were not yet married, and under the order of their parents, they hollowed out their respective salaries to buy a house for them. Now that the brother-in-law has to change the house again, and the parents have started their calculations, it is really endless.
Thinking of their respective families, thinking of the divorce proposed by their respective husbands, the sisters will not pay anymore this time. The brother-in-law herself has the ability to pay for the house, and she has no ability to nest in the old house, not to mention, the sisters also rent a house and have not bought a house.
But the sisters' decision annoyed their parents. Their parents accused them of filial piety, and said that the sisters did not help their brothers and sisters-in-law buy a house, and they wanted to come back after this mother-in-law.
Listening to their parents' harsh words, the sisters were disheartened. It turns out that no matter how much you have paid for your mother's family, once you can't meet the requirements of your mother's family, you will be tied up by your parents and scolded for filial piety.
The sisters looked at each other, their hearts were fierce, and they broke off relations with their parents, and claimed that the housework of their brothers and sisters-in-law in the future had nothing to do with them. If parents insist on favoring their brothers and sisters-in-law and preferring sons to daughters to the end, then the love of parents and daughters is also the end.
There is a classic line in the movie "The Godfather": Softness without boundaries will only make the other party inch; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants.
It is precisely because the Zhang Qiao sisters are too soft and compromised that they will let their parents gain inches, and they have also become the mother's cash cow, endlessly filling the deficit of the mother's family.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Zhang Qiao's two sisters in breaking off relations with their parents?
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