Author| Zhang Weifei
Head | "Mind Task Force"
Sources | the possibility of growth
Children's emotions are changeable, so that many parents in the face of children's crying, emotional, tantrums are helpless, to adolescence, children have a lot of their own secrets, so that parents feel that it is always difficult to understand their children, into the child's heart.
The growing up possible editorial team recently wants to recommend a movie about family education - "Mind Task Force", a film known as a child psychology textbook, which shows the originally difficult to understand knowledge of child psychology in an anthropomorphic way, and also allows parents to feel the changes in emotional psychology more intuitively and help children better accept emotions.
The protagonist of the story, Riley, is an optimistic 11-year-old girl who lives with her parents in beautiful Minnesota, has good friends, loves hockey, and her life is full of joy, and all this is the result of the division of labor and cooperation of Riley's brain system.
In the control center of Riley's brain, there are five characters—happy, worried, disgusted, angry, and afraid. In Riley's infancy, the brain is controlled only by Lele alone, and as the baby continues to contact the world, the ability to perceive emotions also increases, and the emotions of anger, disgust, fear, and sadness are gradually produced.
Riley's memories of every life become a glowing ball into the brain, yellow for happiness, blue for melancholy, and purple fear, green disgust, and red anger. Among them, Lele is the dominant controller, she will make Riley smile every day to face everything, strictly control the worried actions, so Riley's main life emotion is happy.
In Riley's brain, there is a core memory area that holds her important node memories, and under Lele's management, the balls in the core memory area are yellow.
The islands controlled by the core memories are Naughty Island, Family Island, Friendship Island, Hockey Island, and Honesty Island, and the qualities shaped by these beautiful memories constitute the personality of this little girl Riley, and when she encounters difficulties, she can mobilize these memories at any time to restore her confidence.
#1
Do children need melancholy emotions as they grow up?
In the film, worry is a controversial existence, and at the beginning, Lele introduced the five emotional managers and said: "I don't know what the role of worry is." Lele hopes that Riley's life has always been happy, and that worry will only make Riley sad.
The original peaceful life was changed by the move of the Riley family, because of the change of her father's job, Riley came to San Francisco with her parents from Minnesota, leaving the familiar partners, the ice hockey team she loved and the original big yard, Riley felt uncomfortable with everything in San Francisco, the dark and dilapidated living environment made her miss the beautiful courtyard of Minnesota, her father's work was busier, just played with her for a while and left, San Francisco and hometown eating habits are also different, Riley went out to buy pizza and bought the broccoli pizza she hated the most, and in an unfamiliar environment, Riley felt extremely sad.
Lele tried everything to mobilize Riley's happy emotions and played the yellow happy memory ball, but the touch of worry made the memory ball turn blue, and everyone was shocked and worried and blamed themselves.
Riley also showed fear and sadness in the self-introduction session of the new school, originally she thought of the happy hockey memory in her hometown, but as the memory ball changed color, Riley became sad when she remembered this memory.
In reality, Riley lost her core memory and happiness and worries, and became more depressed, Riley was always alone in school, unable to integrate into other classmates, and in the ice hockey selection, because she lost the memory of ice hockey, she failed to play hockey well. At home, he often quarrels with his parents.
In the course of the dispute between Lele and Sorrow, the core memory ball left its original position, and Riley's personality island composed of memory was all gray. In order to protect the core memory of happiness, Lele accidentally reached the depths of memory with worry and left the brain control center.
And the joys and worries trapped in the depths of memory are also trying to overcome difficulties and return to the control area of the brain with core memories. Lele and Melancholy watched Riley's changes, powerless. Sorrow also blames herself for thinking that she is completely useless, she will only make everything worse, and it is precisely because she touches the memory ball that Riley becomes melancholy, causing Lele to leave the control center, Riley can no longer be happy, and Sorrow is therefore reluctant to return to the brain control center.
Lele originally thought that worry was negative and should not exist, and the only ice hockey memory she saw about Riley was the yellow that represented happiness, and it was the touch of worry that made the memory ball change color. But when Le Le was trapped in the depths of her memory, she suddenly found that the memory ball originally had blue, and this whole complete memory was: Riley did not play well in the hockey selection, and she was sad, her parents came to comfort her because they saw Riley's sadness, and the friends also threw her high.
The complete memory has joys and sorrows, not because of the touch of worry, but Lele has always thought that the memory ball has only one color.
Le Le understood that blindly suppressing emotions and maintaining happiness is not a normal emotion, and the child's emotions need to be vented. When Lele and Sorrow return to the Brain Control Center, Lele tells Sorrow that Riley needs her now.
Under the control of worry, Riley finally vented the melancholy and grievances in her heart, releasing her suppressed emotions in the arms of her parents.
Only when all emotions work together can children better adapt to the environment and grow up physically and mentally, and Riley's core memory has changed from a single yellow representing happiness to a colorful color.
#2
How do emotions get out of control step by step in parent-child communication?
In the film, when Riley has just lost her happiness and worry, her emotions are chaotic, and the remaining anger, disgust, and fear of the console are proposed to play Lele to control Riley's emotions, just like many people are obviously unhappy, but they force a smile, in the process, there is a fierce conflict between Riley and her parents.
The personalities of people who are dominated by different emotions are different, such as Riley, the dominant personality is Lele, and her personality is sunny and cheerful. The dominant person in riley's mother's brain control area is sad, so her mother's personality is delicate and observant, and her control area first discovers that Riley is wrong.
Riley, who was dominated by boredom, showed impatient disgust, and this micro-expression was immediately noticed by Riley's mother.
Riley's father's dominant personality in the control area is anger, so the father is more impulsive, more majestic, and treats his daughter harshly.
Riley, dominated by fury, showed impatience.
This immediately angered the father, the father and daughter broke out into a fierce quarrel, and the anger in the brain control center of the two was fighting.
The angry quarrel caused Riley to rush upstairs and lie alone in the dark room, and when anger was dominant between parents and children, any communication did not work.
Unlike anger, at the end of the film, the sadness allows Riley to tell the sadness in her heart, and such sadness allows Riley and her parents to comfort each other and heal each other in the form of hugs and touches.
#3
The film's counselor talks about the handling of grief in The Mind Agent
The setting of this film uses a wealth of psychological knowledge, but also allows parents to better understand how their children's thinking is, and can be more scientifically raised.
Behind "Brain Agents", there are two famous psychologists and micro-expression experts as consultants, Paul Ekma, the protagonist of the American drama "Lie to Me", and Dacher Keltner, a psychology professor at the University of California, Berkeley.
In an interview with The New York Times, Paul Ekma and Dacher Keltne mentioned that there are three scientific questions at the heart of the film: How do emotions manage stream of consciousness? How do emotions color our past memories? What is the emotional world of an 11-year-old girl?
Scientific studies have found that from this age, the intensity and frequency of positive emotions begin to decline dramatically. Each person's personality is defined by specific emotions, which shapes how each person perceives the world, expresses himself, and responds to others.
"The Brains is a movie about what loss and sadness can gain. Riley left friends and her home in Minnesota. More acutely, she had entered the prepubertal stage, which made her begin to say goodbye to childhood. The worries are seen as a drag, a character that Lele has been trying to drag away from Riley's consciousness.
In fact, studies have found that grief is associated with important physiological arousals that activate the body's feedback on loss. In the film, the melancholy looks earthy and unappetizing. But in real life, more often than not, one person's grief will allow her to get comfort and help from others. ”
Many people, like Lele, can't understand the worries at the beginning, and they will think that "it would be better if there were no worries", "there is a lot of worry", "all blame worries for producing melancholy memories". Like most of us think, sad emotions are negative, negative, and shouldn't exist, we just have positive emotions.
Under Lele's strong control over her worries, Riley does not feel the slightest sadness, which makes the child's emotions suppressed, and she does not know how to express her sadness, so she cannot relieve her own pressure. Once you lose the ability to perceive joys and sorrows, it may lead to certain psychological problems, especially when Riley arrives in an unfamiliar environment, and she cannot adapt.
But in the film, melancholy plays a decisive role in helping Riley return to normal mood later in life, and melancholy gradually takes control of Riley's thinking about the changes in her current life, adding blue to Riley's memories in Minnesota at the end.
Paul Ekma and Dacher Keltner said: "Scientific research has found that our feelings now shape our memories of the past. This is an important function of the film's melancholy: she guides Riley through what changes she is going through and what she has lost, which creates a stage for Riley to build a new personality. ”
Brains offers a new approach to grief, at its core: embracing grief, letting it unfold, and patiently dealing with the emotional struggles of prepubertal children. Grief allows us to recognize what has been lost (such as childhood) and allow the whole family, including children and parents, to reap what they have received: the cornerstone of the stage for a new future self.
References: The New York Times: The Science of 'INSIDE OUT'