The feelings between men and women are very delicate. How to judge whether a man really likes you or is "playing with you", there are actually several places that are obvious.
Men who love you will always think of giving for you, while men who don't love you will pay more attention to these places in you.
First: Pay attention to your appearance
Men are visual animals, and a woman who is good-looking can naturally attract men's eyes. Men who truly love you don't just focus on your appearance, but also care more about how you feel with you.
And those men who just want to "play" with you, when you pass away with a red face, will kick you away, without any friendship.
Men who are with you because of their beauty will also leave you because of burnout.
For women, the real youth and beauty are not so many years, just like a flower, the flowering period is very short. A man who only pays attention to your appearance is often superficial, and the reason they fall in love with you is often because they are attracted to your appearance. When your skin has wrinkles and your figure slowly deforms, it will ruthlessly abandon you.
I have a friend next to me, 25 years old with a guy who spent four years back and forth. For the first two years, the man was enthusiastic and proactive with her, and he was eager to be with her twenty-four hours a day. After two years, the enthusiasm was obviously weakened, and it seemed that he was going to be thirty years old, and his friend proposed to get married.
The other party procrastinated and did not make an obvious reply. Soon after, he married a female student who had just graduated under the arrangement of his family.
Beauty is a woman's capital, but sometimes it is also a kind of annoyance. The more beautiful you are, the more suitors you have, and the more you don't know what kind of person you should choose.
Men look for beautiful women, more often than not, to satisfy their vanity. He sees you as a capital to show off, and his beauty as a symbol of his own success, which is not love, but just a playful mentality.
Second: Pay attention to your pockets
In fact, when men and women interact, men are more realistic than women. What women want, they tend to say on their own initiative. Men, on the other hand, are careful in their hearts. How many houses you have, how many savings you have, whether your parents have pensions, these things will be calculated in his heart.
A male friend next to me. Talked to a girlfriend for three years. I asked him, "When are you going to get married?" ”
He said: "At present, I have no intention of getting married, her family is in the countryside, her parents do not have pensions, plus her job is unstable, it is okay to fall in love, and marriage must be considered practically." ”
After listening to this passage of his words, for some reason, suddenly this girl was not worth it. In fact, in the marriage market, this is the reality. While you are picking others, others are also picking you.
A man who just wants to play with you will often consider how much money he has spent on you, what he has paid, and whether this payment is worth it.
There is also a kind of man, with a woman, who is trying to squeeze more out of each other. This type of man often disguises himself as a warm man, not only speaking sweet words, but also constantly showing a loyal and caring appearance in front of you. The ultimate goal is to get money from you.
Third: Focus on your resources
A woman, the more resources she has, the more ambitious men around her. Not only women, but men also want to cross classes through love or marriage.
Men who just play with you always want to get more resources from you and use you as a springboard to realize their dreams.
Once your purpose is achieved, it will kick you out without mercy.
Often this type of man has a pure purpose, will use different methods to approach you, let you slowly fall in love with him, and then help him achieve his life goals.
When men want to "play" with you, they will say anything sweet. And after the relationship ends, anything hurtful is done.
You are just a tool of his, just a pawn in his life. He never took you to heart and never really fell in love with you, what he loved most was himself.
Women in love, often have a relatively low IQ, will be trapped in men's rhetoric can not extricate themselves. But you have to understand that a man only cares about whether you have money or not, whether you are beautiful enough, whether you can help her have better resources, then it means that he does not love you.
Love, though sweet, is also a glass of poisonous wine. The more you fall into the trap of feelings, the more obsessed you are with the other person, and the more you can't see his essence.
I especially like a passage that Venus teacher said:
When my daughter grows up, I will tell her that if a man is upset that you squeeze the bus, complains that you don't eat on time, keeps reminding you to drink less and hurt your body, tells you to go home from work on a rainy day to pay attention to safety, and sends funny text messages when you are sick, please ignore him!
Then be with the guy who can drive you, be sick with you, take you to dinner, pick you up after work.
Indeed it is. Love is action, simple and plain. Two people in love don't need any sweet words, and they don't need the sea oath mountain alliance.
Men who just play, give you passion, give you a heartbeat, draw you a pie. And the man who truly loves you gives you warmth, gives you care, and gives you the most authentic companionship and care.
Throughout our lives, we are just counting the chai, rice, oil and salt with the people we love, and enjoying the blossoms and falls together.