Dear parents, I don't know if you noticed that at the "ministerial channel" of this year's two sessions, When answering reporters' questions, Chen Baosheng, minister of education, mentioned family education many times, of which Minister Chen Baosheng talked about the problem of "advanced education" that parents are both concerned about and a little disturbed.
In fact, around us, many children are forced by parents to "rush" all the way, such as learning primary school knowledge at the kindergarten stage, and parents have prepared junior high school textbooks before they have graduated from primary school.
Minister Chen Baosheng mentioned in response to a reporter's question at the "Ministerial Channel": "A blank piece of paper for students should be handed over to the teacher, who will draw the latest and most beautiful pictures. Before this, the left and right, the child was drawn in a variety of ways, which would affect the healthy growth of the child. Therefore, we must strictly prohibit this kind of thing from happening. ”
Today, I will talk to you about the harm caused by "advanced education" to children, in the primary and secondary school stage, what habits are more important than academic performance?
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"Advanced education" has led to children's boredom, and this mother regrets it
There is such a friend who is a mother, her own personality is originally very strong, this is not, and listen to the so-called "do not let the child lose at the starting line", to the child out of a lot of problems. In 3 years, it took nearly 100,000 yuan to enroll the children in seven or eight training classes, and completed the second grade of primary school courses when the children were 5 years old.
When my friend chatted with me, he said that when he first started the first grade, the child's grades were very good, and he felt that the teachers were very simple, but in the second and third grades, the grades slowly declined, and the children changed from the top students in the class to the middle students, and gradually began to be bored with school, did not write homework, and wandered in class.
In the process of communicating with the teacher, she gradually realized that when the child was in the first grade, because he had learned these knowledge, he was better than other children in terms of grades, but precisely because he had mastered these contents, it was easier to lose his mind in class, and he lacked interest in learning, and gradually developed the bad habit of not paying attention to lectures.
In the second grade, the child's "old ben" has been eaten, because the desire to learn is not strong, the learning habits are not good, and it feels more and more difficult. This friend told me that I really regretted my original decision, and I knew that it was better to let my child go to primary school and then follow the teacher's teaching progress and learn step by step.
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There are many parents who have the intention of "ahead"
In fact, in life, such parents are really not in the minority. In November last year, the resume of a 5-year-old boy in Shanghai was on the hot search, making many adults lament. He had read "ten thousand books" and knew thousands of words at a young age; he also traveled "ten thousand miles", traveled all over the country, and traveled abroad.
In addition to these, he is more interested in a wide range of hobbies, literature and history, art, mathematics, sports and other talents, it is understood that the child's parents are high-achieving students graduated from Fudan University, children from a young age are required to be "blue out of the blue and better than blue."
Educational methods vary, we will not talk about it for the time being, but in recent years, the educational concept of "let children win on the starting line" has been accepted by many parents, allowing children to memorize poems at the age of 1, play the piano at the age of 2, learn programming at the age of 4, learn the Olympic number at the age of 6, eager to train children to become "prodigies", eager to blink children become super geniuses. However, parents do not know that such an education method is not necessarily effective.
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The pursuit of "prodigies" makes them forget the consequences of "pulling up seedlings and fueling growth"
Children develop their own laws, and breaking them is often counterproductive.
Children are still in childhood, let them learn the content that can be contacted after a few years prematurely, which cannot promote the physical and mental development of children, but will lead to children's loss of freshness of knowledge after entering primary school, resulting in boredom, which directly affects children's lifelong learning interest.
Some experts said that the education method of cultivating "genius" and letting children act one step ahead of others at the starting line is mostly due to the anxiety of parents.
In a reporter interview, a child said: "It is my parents who want me to go to the United States, so they signed me up for an English course." "Maybe the child has not yet reached the age of learning English, or may not have developed an interest, but the parents who blindly compare themselves do not care about this at all."
My cousin's little nephew recently had an extra chess interest class, and the reason was only that a child in the class signed up for a chess class. In the words of my cousin, "Other people's children are learning, and their own children have nothing to do, that's not okay!" ”
In educating children, countless parents are pushed away, and "other people's children" have become the source of their anxiety. But they forget that every child is unique, and every child needs to be taught according to their aptitude, and even more needs to be taught according to the time.
A writer once said that learning is not just hard work, but children who go far are mostly because of love. Follow the nature of the child, what age to learn what knowledge, the child will grow up on his own.
Educator Chen Heqin said: "Let the children explore and discover on their own." The knowledge sought is the true knowledge, and the discovered world is the real world. ”
Yeah, what is forced into the child's mouth, he will not, and he can't swallow it at all. There are no parents under the sky who do not love their children, and no parents do not want their children to be healthy and happy, but do not let the wrong educational methods deprive children of happiness and destroy their children's health.
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It is more important for children to have these habits than academic performance
In fact, in childhood, it is much more important for children to have these habits and abilities than academic performance.
Good living habits
The cultivation of good living habits is very important for a person's whole life, and efforts should be made to let children develop good living habits during childhood. Living habits include work and rest habits, hygiene habits, civilized and polite habits, etc. Children develop correct living habits in the early stages, and the learning and life will be much simpler later.
Many parents feel that their children are still young, neglect the cultivation of these good habits, and think that these are small things, and it is not too late for children to ask for them when they grow up. But is that really the case?
In teaching, we often see children who have gone to junior high school or are lost, will not clean up their learning tools, and the desktop is messy... Good habits are not formed from an early age, which are difficult to correct when they grow up, and these bad habits will even accompany the child for a lifetime.
It is a good habit of being happy to read from an early age
Nowadays, people are increasingly convinced that learning should be a lifelong thing. The basis of lifelong learning is to have the habit of reading and spontaneously draw nourishment from various books.
Now the children's book market is much more prosperous than before, a variety of good books emerge in an endless stream, the concept of parent-child reading has become more and more deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and many parents have begun to practice on the road of parenting.
It is much easier to develop the habit of reading in childhood than it is to cultivate it again in adulthood, and it will be easier to find the joy of reading in non-utilitarian reading. When something is fun, it's not far from becoming a habit.
Good anti-frustration habits
In the process of children's growth, it is inevitable to encounter difficulties and setbacks, for which children will usually use crying, making trouble, playing temper to face, as parents, should help children correctly understand setbacks through positive guidance, so that children understand: encountering setbacks is a very normal thing, as long as we face bravely, all difficulties will disappear.
Parents can use stories and videos to cultivate their children's resistance to setbacks, and through a vivid image of "inspirational" stories, children can correctly view setbacks, thereby enhancing children's psychological endurance, so as to develop good anti-frustration habits.
Strong intellectual curiosity and study habits
Curiosity and self-motivation means having an intrinsic desire for the learning of knowledge, which, in our words, is "love to learn." Only when children "love to learn" can they "learn well" and continue to maintain good grades.
As a parent, in the childhood stage of children's growth, it is undoubtedly very beneficial to pay attention to stimulating children's curiosity and interest in learning.
Have a certain good habit of independent survival
Many children grow up under the careful care of their parents, have too much dependence on their parents, and once they leave the umbrella of their parents, they are overwhelmed.
How can children learn to live independently? Parents should cultivate from eating, drinking, sleeping, playing and other routines; they should also learn to take care of themselves, sort out their internal affairs, and have certain self-care ability; more importantly, cultivate children's safety awareness and self-protection ability in schools, nature, society, and public places.
Dear parents, life is a long journey, education is slowly watered, in the process of children's growth, remember a sentence of Long Yingtai - children, you take your time.
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