When it comes to children's education, every parent can't get around it. Unlike some Buddhist parents, the more highly educated parents are, the more advanced their children's education is, and even violate the laws of teaching, allowing children to learn the knowledge of middle school or university.
Dr. Tiger Dad let his children learn to count high, and the court's ruling came
According to media reports, Mr. Mao of Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, is a doctoral father, known as "Tiger Dad", he has a pair of children, of which the 5-year-old daughter Xiao Jia (pseudonym) is still in kindergarten, and the 7-year-old son Xiaoming (pseudonym) is still in the first grade.
Such a young child, supposedly carefree, can enjoy a good childhood under the knees of their parents. But the Ph.D.'s father's approach to education was radical, directly allowing the two children to learn about middle school and college, including esoteric knowledge such as "high numbers".
The two children were forced by their fathers to study until late at night, and sometimes, the father would abuse and beat his children. The mother was very distressed, advised the father not to force the child to study ahead, the school teachers, the staff of the women's federation also intervened, but the doctor's father could not listen, thinking that this was his own "housework" and did not need others to intervene.
In desperation, the mother applied to the court: it was forbidden for the respondent Mao to insult the applicant and the applicant's children Xiaoming and Xiao Jia; the respondent Mao was prohibited from restricting the personal freedom of the applicant and the applicant's children.
After visiting and investigating, the court made a ruling under the circumstances of conclusive evidence: The respondent Mao X is prohibited from committing domestic violence against Zheng X, Xiao Ming, Xiao Jia and their related close relatives.
What mistakes did this Ph.D. "Tiger Dad" make?
When I saw this information, I was really surprised that a father with a high degree of education violated the common sense of education and made several obvious mistakes on the issue of his children's education.
First of all, six or seven-year-old children, the understanding of the world is still ignorant, the understanding of the outside world is also very intuitive.
This tiger father ignores the young age of his children, regardless of the fact that the children do not have good logical thinking ability, and directly forces the children to be difficult to "high numbers", this way of seedling promotion can not help children improve their learning ability, will only hit their enthusiasm for learning.
You know, children's learning is also gradual, so difficult, will make them feel that learning is difficult, lose interest in learning.
Secondly, the abuse or beating of children, although they do not cause physical harm to children, are also "domestic violence", and parents can educate their children inappropriately, and school teachers and women's federation staff can advise.
Allowing this kind of behavior will have a serious impact on the child's body and mind, and the inconsistencies between husband and wife in educating their children will also affect the feelings of the two people, resulting in a disharmonious relationship.
This tiger father can not listen to the advice of others, feel that how to educate children is his own "housework", it seems a little extreme, sometimes, other people's kind advice and advice, listening to it is no loss, and the society has the responsibility to supervise the parents' education of their children.
Third, the education of children, parents can not say a word. Both mom and dad are the first guardians of their children, and moms have a responsibility to speak up on their children's upbringing and education. The tiger father ignored his wife's advice and showed disrespect for his wife.
Educating children in advance does not help children win at the starting line, which is contrary to common sense.
Violating the laws of teaching is blamed
Tiger Dad let children of several years old learn high numbers, this kind of practice that violates the laws of teaching, not only is it banned by the court, netizens learn of this situation, but also accuse the doctor's father of doing it.
Some netizens said that the original doctor's father was also anxious, otherwise he would not have forced the child like this, and they all began to pull up seedlings and grow, eager to become. Some netizens replied that he was really either anxious or a desire to dominate from above. Some netizens said that parents always impose their own ideas on their children, which is also domestic violence.
It can be seen that netizens do not agree with the practice of this doctor's father. It is also reasonable for everyone to have such a view.
Children who are only six or seven years old, what do they know? It is very good to be able to grow up happily and grow up healthily, but this tiger father has imposed his will on the child, whether the child can learn it or not, he violates the teaching rules in a way that is accused by netizens of not being wronged.
Unlike the father, the child's mother's practice of fighting for the child's personal safety protection has been recognized by netizens, who think that she is good.
Advanced education is not advisable
Hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of every parent. Some parents hope that their children can win at the starting line and educate their children ahead of time on the issue of their children's education, which is not advisable.
Why? As a parent, you must also learn to think from the perspective of your child, and ask yourself, what knowledge is what six- and seven-year-old children should learn? Should be simple knowledge that matches their age.
Many college students have poor grasp of such profound knowledge as "high numbers", not to mention children who have no learning foundation.
The child's education should indeed start from an early age, but this "tiger father" insults the child, and the way of advanced education is doomed to failure, and it will be criticized by others, which will cause physical, mental and intellectual harm to the child.
To put it mildly, there is a problem with parents' educational concepts, and to put it more seriously, it is "domestic violence", which is illegal.
epilogue
Every parent may want their child to become a genius and grow up. However, violating the rules of teaching and educating children ahead of time may cause more harm to them than the achievements of children.
Why does one's learning have to go through the processes of kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school, and college? Because, at what age, children should learn the knowledge in line with their age group, their intelligence and logical thinking ability can keep up, there will be no pressure and burden, learning is a gradual process, parents can not rush to achieve.
Topic: Jiangsu doctor "Tiger Dad" let children learn high numbers, what do you think?
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