Every year at the 315 party, some non-compliant, illegal products or enterprises will be picked out, and I did not expect that the products that were pulled out this time were actually young primary school students.
When we were in school, we all knew that there were always some stationery shops and snack shops near the school, and these shops were very popular with children, and their pocket money was basically spent in these places.
Those black-hearted merchants have seen this business opportunity, and they have attacked these immature primary school students and sold them "gambling" products to indulge them.
One of them is a game of dragon ball draws, 1 yuan 1 time, in less than 2 minutes, you can make the child's 10 pieces of pocket money gone. Worryingly, these children are still having fun and think that it is only a matter of luck that they can't draw.
In fact, these products are controlled by merchants for prizes and winning rates, they are using some popular cartoon images and prizes to make primary school students fall deeper and deeper.
In addition, there is a game of philatelic gameplay, the routine is deeper, a reporter spent 80 yuan to buy a full-page card for testing, there are a total of 80 lottery tickets, all disassembled, there are 320 cartoon images, but how can not collect any winning combination, each combination is a difference.
Of course, we know about these scams, but how can these students know that they will only spend money again and again to challenge their luck, and again and again with expectations, they will be deceived again and again.
In fact, don't say children, even adults will have these gambler mentality, and the merchant takes advantage of this weakness of human nature to defraud children of money.
According to the reporter's investigation, some primary school students not only use their own pocket money to draw lottery, some also borrow money from classmates, and even steal parents' money, in order to draw these so-called prizes.
This is already suspected of "gambling", not only allowing children to spend more and more money, but also making them gradually become "small gamblers", so you say that these merchants should not be punished.
As parents, we must hate these unscrupulous merchants, but we can't stop these people, even if this time is exposed and punished, they may change other forms and other goods to deceive children in the future, so how should we parents guard against it.
What can parents do?
Many parents can't pick up and drop off their children from class every day, and most of the children in primary or junior high school have gone to and from school by themselves, and we can't monitor their every move, so we have to rely on the daily situation of the children to judge whether they are "recruited".
1, the child will not suddenly use a lot of money
Generally, children who go to primary school will have some pocket money, which may be obtained by doing housework or praise every day, or it may be fixed by parents, no matter what form, parents can roughly estimate how much money their children have.
If at a certain time, the child asks you for money for various reasons, such as what you want to buy, or if you don't have enough money, etc., and the frequency is large, the amount is large, and the parents have to keep an extra eye at this time.
2. Hide things all day
Children in elementary school will begin to have their own privacy, do not want parents to see their things, and it is not recommended that parents go through their children's rooms or private items such as diaries.
But if parents find that their children are sneaky all day, mysterious, or pay special attention to certain things, a certain box, etc., there may be some cattiness in it, and parents need to pay attention to it in time.
3. The grades change greatly
If the child's grades have been relatively stable, but a certain period of sudden performance changes a lot, but in daily life the parents did not find any problems, you ask the child, he can not answer a so natural, then the parents should consider what is the cause.
4, emotional changes are large
Generally children participate in those lottery will be at the end of school, if you find that the child is sometimes in a particularly low mood at night, sometimes the mood is particularly happy, you ask him, but he is not willing to tell you, then it is necessary to pay attention.
Parents can initially judge whether they have encountered anything through the above performance of their children, and if their performance attracts your attention, what should they do next?
What parents should do
1. Communicate with your child
Every child wants to have their own privacy, when you perceive the child's abnormality, do not directly question the child, so that not only can not ask the real situation, but also let the child feel that you do not respect him, do not believe him, if the child is innocent, it may also make the child disgusted with you, it is difficult to repair the relationship in the future.
At the beginning, we can communicate with the child in a more relaxed and pleasant environment, understand his recent campus life, what friends he has made, whether he has encountered anything happy, and when the child trusts you, he is willing to reveal more information to you.
At this time, you can learn more information from the conversation with him and judge whether the child has encountered anything.
2. Understand the situation from the mouth of the parents of the students
If you can't understand the reasons for their recent grades or emotional changes from your child's mouth, you can also communicate with other parents in the class to understand the child's situation from the side.
Children in a class will always mention to you which children they are friends with, parents can usually keep in touch with their parents, from time to time to talk to them about what the children have recently paid attention to, so as to better understand the needs of children, know their inner thoughts.
3. Understand the situation from the teacher's mouth
If the child's situation has seriously affected the academic performance, then the parent should understand with the teacher about his daily situation at school, whether he usually bullied others or was bullied by others, whether something bad happened, because the teacher has more time to contact the child, and they will get more information from you.
If the teacher does not know the reason, parents can also ask the teacher to pay more attention to the child's dynamics during this time, and what situation can be notified to you in time.
4. Intervene if the situation is serious
If parents already know that their children have this "addiction" situation, or know the reason, then you can talk to your children first, clarify your attitude with them, and tell your children about the principles behind these games.
In addition, you can also inform the teacher of this situation, although the teacher does not have the right to directly intervene in the sale of the shop, but can warn and remind the children in the school, playing a warning role.
If it still does not work, parents can complain to the relevant departments online or by phone, report it, and let the qualified person manage these things.
summary
On the way to the growth of children, they will experience all kinds of temptations, we can not lock them at home, hold them in the palm of our hands, let them completely isolate all harmful people and things, what we can do is to detect the child's situation in time and help them in time.
If you handle these things well, in fact, it is a growth for the child, and it is also an opportunity for you to promote the parent-child relationship, so don't be afraid of problems, there are always more ways than difficulties.