Elementary school students were asked by instructors to slap each other, how many babies did "alternative education" pit?

A recent news shocked me, seeing the child's red and swollen face, I felt distressed across the screen!

A primary school in Hubei Province organized students to go to a certain institution for military training. During the military training, the instructor asked eight of the students to kneel and slap each other hundreds of times. When fanning each other, they also heard the sound of hitting their faces, and some students were directly beaten with nosebleeds. What's even more infuriating is that the children are crying after the fight, but the instructor is actually laughing!

Parents fried the pot in the group, and they all said that if we spend money and don't say, the child is tired, the key is to let the child be beaten? It is said that the officers involved have been dismissed and the public security department has intervened in the investigation.

A few days ago, my husband talked about when he went to school, all the classmates were asked by the teacher to slap each other, and I firmly said that it was because the times were different, and now that people are highly educated, they will not use such rough methods.

Unexpectedly, I was slapped in the face so quickly. It turns out that the means are brutal regardless of age and regardless of region! I would like to know what is the purpose of organizing military training for primary school students, is it to let children learn how to carry beatings?

This reminds me that in recent years, many parents have paid for their children to receive "alternative education", hoping that their children can change their appearance. I don't know if parents have investigated, are these methods reliable?

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In the name of education, just to earn high tuition fees

In the past two years, after the discipline training courses were hit by dimensionality reduction, other training courses of various names have sprung up.

I saw a video on the Internet, an education and counseling institution launched a teaching material, there are a variety of memorization methods, for example, the numbers 1-100 each represent a special code, through the code to associate a certain idiom or thirty-six counts.

In the video, the teacher said this: 0 is shaped like an egg, so the word egg can be associated, 2 is shaped like a duck, so it is associated with a duck, 32 homophony is a fan, you can think of Zhuge Liang holding a fan, and further think of the empty city plan.

32 and the empty city plan is so connected? This strange way is also drunk, the Chinese text is broad and profound, not placed in the context of the article, linked with numbers, and encoded Chinese characters? Fortunately, authoritative education experts stood up in time, otherwise I don't know how many parents would have entered the pit.

The previous children's version of the script kill and escape room also attracted many people, and the game content was mainly to answer subject knowledge or solve mysterious problems when passing levels. The propaganda posters are plastered with the resumes of "famous teachers", claiming that they are all former New Oriental teachers.

Such games are often expensive, and it is not necessary to take the children for fun occasionally, and don't think so much about learning through them. The state rectifies discipline training everywhere, you change your coat and make this out, is that the child's parents are involved again?

Zhihu a netizen shared her experience of raising a baby, and she signed up for N training courses for her children. First of all, in the Chinese Studies Enlightenment Class, the content taught by the teacher was "The Inner Canon of the Yellow Emperor", the child was ignorant and memorized a few sentences, as well as a simple health preservation method, and after a year all forgot about it, only remembering that garlic is good for the body.

Later, because the child could not jump rope, he signed up for a jump rope training class, so that the child learned to jump rope. However, if you don't sign up for class and keep practicing for a while, won't the child also be? Dozens of children in our community, I didn't see a single jump rope learned by applying for class.

What she regretted the most was that she signed up for the children's weight loss class, and the child lost more than ten pounds, but fell into stomach problems. Various classes reported back and forth, and she realized that she reported in the wrong direction, spent money and delayed time, and it turned out that what needed to learn and change the most was herself.

In the past, my eyes were always staring at the dazzling advertisements of training courses outside, and the whole person became anxious, feeling that if I didn't sign up for a few classes for my child, I couldn't keep up with the trend, so I would delay his good life.

Later, through various channels of communication and understanding, I knew how important it is for parents to have a clear understanding, and the propaganda that seems very tempting is often behind the huge chain of interests, many of which are flashy and cannot bring real changes to children.

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Does deliberate character education really work?

The Chongqing Evening News once published a set of photos, densely packed with people on the playground, zoomed in, it turned out that hundreds of children were washing their parents' feet, and suddenly there was a sense of déjà vu of factory batch production machines.

Washing feet is originally a private matter, and it is placed in front of the public, and the cameras around it click at each other, can children cultivate a sense of gratitude? There are deep doubts about this.

Close your eyes and imagine that the introverted child shyly lowers his head and wishes to end sooner, the outgoing naughty child looks around and smiles hehe, and the parent sitting on the stool is estimated to be sitting on pins and needles. I guess that at this time, parents and children should be extremely consistent, and it is too embarrassing to complete the task quickly.

A netizen shared that in the past, a teacher gave a sensational speech throughout the whole process, and the whole class cried without crying alone, and his father scolded him for having no conscience. When the so-called teacher took out the book to sell, Dad decisively bought it for him to see, and as a result, he threw it directly into the corner and fell into ashes. This is probably the real voice of children.

I remember that Wang Xiaobo wrote in "The Silent Majority" that when he went to Yunnan to cut the queue, he should have eaten plantain tree hearts, taro flowers, and pumpkin flowers, but in order to match the theme of bitter rice, he ate plantain trees, taro stalks, and pumpkin vines, and everyone ate retching. Later, he said in the article: "I don't feel that this is education, I only think it is torturing people." ”

That's right, many children can't bear the pain and get tired, and maybe they can't see any gratitude at the moment, but can this kind of unilateral performance to the other party's so-called "gratitude" and "suffering" immediately shape a person?

Gratitude is a very natural emotion, a child with love, dignity and awe in his heart, suffering is also the result of his active choice, not using coercive and hypocritical means to carry out moral kidnapping, so that the child has a sense of guilt or rebellion.

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Righteous people first correct themselves, and teaching by example is greater than preaching

In such a fast-paced era, some parents even hope to speed up education, have not had patience to accompany for more than ten years, and when they realize that their child's personality is wrong, they hurriedly find a psychologist, hoping that the other party will become a big change.

Sorry, the hospital can only ensure that the child is treated, which is better than no treatment, but it cannot make the child's inner gloom or restlessness completely disappear, and he will be lively and cheerful and love school.

Since I had children, I have been reminding myself not to be a nagging didactic parent, because I have heard too many big principles since I was a child, and I still haven't lived this life well, at least not in the worldly sense.

On the issue of educating children, I have always believed that righteous people come before themselves, and teaching by example is greater than words. If you want your child to be polite, you can't see your neighbor with a strained face; If you want your child to enjoy reading, you also have to take the initiative to pick up the book; If you want your child to be filial, you must first examine your attitude towards your parents.

Psychologist Li Meijin told a case in her speech: a parent said that he had never deliberately educated his son, but the child knew how to learn independently, was very polite to people, usually did not have to worry about it, and he could basically handle his own affairs.

And this parent is a teacher, conscientious in his work, he also likes to read and learn, his life routine is also very regular, he is kind and optimistic, and his child is naturally affected in the subtle.

Italian psychologists have done such an experiment: let the gorilla peel peanuts, the mirror neurons in its cerebral cortex will be activated, and the little gorilla who saw this scene, the neurons were also activated. This experiment shows that there is a physiological basis for teaching by example over teaching, and that children's earliest learning must be imitation learning.

Therefore, the matter of character education really cannot be rushed, it is not a simple enrollment in a class, a few classes can be formed. Parents have to accompany their children to grow up slowly, cultivate themselves, set an example for their children, and create a benign growth environment. Later, the child realized little by little from the details of life.

Chen Ming said this paragraph in "Strange Words", and encouraged all parents:

The best thing we can give our child is to give him/her a garden, give him/her nourishment and space, you are free and open, you are flourishing, you are unique, you are alone, I applaud you.

No matter what kind of self you live, as long as you are within the basic framework of morality, law, public order and good customs, I will be happy for you.