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01. Preface
In our lifetime, we will meet many people, strangers who pass by, passers-by with a little bit of friendship, and a partner who will accompany us throughout our lives. In the face of different people, the way of speaking is naturally different.
Democritus said, "Words are shadows of action." ”
Whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not can be seen from the speech.
When husband and wife get along, it is inevitable that quarrels and contradictions will arise. If you are two people with good feelings, you know how to restrain your temper when you are angry, and you will not say anything that hurts each other's self-esteem.
Feelings are the most unbearable to wear and tear.
Two people get along, if they do not carefully maintain their feelings on weekdays, it is easy to dislike each other in the trivialities of life, so that feelings go to a dead end.
After middle age, no matter how good the husband and wife's feelings are, don't say "three words".
02, no matter how angry, don't say something that hurts the other person's self-esteem
Interaction between people, dignity, is a person's bottom line.
Primchan said: "The most important thing for a person is dignity. ”
In the TV series "Love Is Delicious", Xia Meng was recognized by the company through her own efforts. The company promoted her to vice president and became the boss of her boyfriend Wang Jichong, and his income was several times that of him.
The two people have been in love for eight years, which has also experienced many contradictions, and the video of the quarrel between the two people when they work from home was put on the Internet, which became the fuse of the emotional breakdown.
Wang Jichong angrily accused Xia Meng of not having the appearance of a woman, which caused her to have a lot of body anxiety; and Xia Meng's career limelight overshadowed Wang Jichong, frustrating his self-esteem as a man.
When they were angry, they said a lot of things that hurt each other's dignity. Eventually, it leads to a breakdown in feelings.
Two people together, there will always be some stumbling.
Life will be smooth sailing, but what we have to remember is that no matter how angry you are, you don't say anything that hurts each other's self-esteem, and you use your heart to maintain each other's feelings, and love can flow for a long time.
The better the relationship between husband and wife, the more they know how to speak decently and know how to maintain the dignity of their lover.
Guarding the bottom line of the lover is a way of love.
Husband and wife get along, the most important thing is mutual respect, in the relationship can be done equally, in order to make the feelings continue to heat up.
03, no matter how disappointed, don't easily say breakup
The more words about breakup and divorce, the other party will also lose confidence in the relationship.
In fast-food life, people think that many things come and go quickly. Food, goods, clothes... Even love.
In modern people's minds, fast-food love is becoming more and more frequent, and it is perfectly normal to divide and merge. But underneath this fast-food love, there are wounded hearts.
If, because of a disappointment, because of a despair, it is easy to say that the words of breaking up, it is easy to lead to the breakdown of love, resulting in two people centrifugal.
In a relationship, when one person breaks up or divorces too much, the other person will slowly believe it. As a result, some wrong decisions may be made because of impulsiveness and gambling.
Between husband and wife, the way two people talk determines the warmth of feelings between each other.
When two people are together, no matter how disappointed they are, do not easily impulsively say something hurtful to the lover, such as a breakup, such as divorce.
Because if you say too much, the other party's heart will gradually be disappointed, and eventually it will be cool.
In love with each other, we must learn to take good care of each other and pour love with our hearts. In this way, love can grow into a towering tree.
04, no matter how dissatisfied, do not say "dirty words" to the other party
Life is intertwined with bitterness and pleasure. In the ordinary life, there will always be some things that make your mood fluctuate. In particular, two people on the road to each other, there is conflict and friction.
Two people in love, no matter how dissatisfied with each other, please learn to control emotions, do not say "dirty words" to each other, do not insult each other's personality.
Aurelius said: "If you feel uncomfortable with anything around you, it's caused by your feelings, not the things themselves." With the adjustment of feelings, you can be uplifted at any moment. ”
A lot of times, things aren't as bad as you think they are, and in fact you can't control your emotions and make things worse.
Life won't be smooth sailing, but no matter how dissatisfied we are with life, what we need to do is control our emotions.
Husband and wife are partners on the road of life, comrades-in-arms, and more importantly, rely on each other. In the future, there are still many storms that need to be faced by two people together, and many difficulties need to be overcome together.
When you are dissatisfied in your heart, you must learn to calm down. Actively communicate with the other party and let the other person know how you feel, instead of ignoring the other party to blame and humiliate the other party.
No matter how dissatisfied you are, don't pick the hardest words to hurt each other.
The better the feelings of the couple, the more they know how to control their emotions, find a suitable way to release their dissatisfaction, and be kind to the lovers around them.
05. Summary
Whether the husband and wife have a good relationship can be seen from the way the two people "talk".
Two people with good feelings for husband and wife know how to speak decently, know how to speak well, and know how to speak with their hearts.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Only love can make us full of hope and disappointment so thoroughly." ”
When two people are together, their original intention must be to look at each other, but why do they go their separate ways in the end many times? In fact, the result of this is often the words blurted out by two people in getting along.
Speaking decently, speaking well, is a way to manage love.
Speaking is a science. To be a person, you must first learn to speak. What can not be said, when the point is reached, these are all things that need to be well explored.
Love needs respect, it needs affirmation, and it needs decency and understanding.
No matter how good the couple's feelings are, they must also know how to speak well when they get along, give each other enough respect and tolerance, and jointly water the flower of love.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.