Today's young people may be somewhat scornful of the marriage of the door, thinking that as long as they love each other, they can be happy.
But the marriage in the hit drama "Heart House" is a lesson in reality that has been nakedly taught us.
In the play, three pairs of marriages with wrong doors, life after marriage, none of the current pairs are happy and happy, Xiaoqin and Gu Lei, Ge Yue and Gu Xin, Qingyu and Shi Yuan, a pair of complex.
The "mother-child marriage" between Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei ended in tragedy, which is somewhat lamentable.
Ge Yue and Gu Xin's loveless marriage (referring to the man) full of lies, needless to say, the end must be unhappy and dispersed.
But Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan seem to love each other, why is life a mess after marriage? Constantly making small contradictions and feeling suspicious, living in caution and discomfort all day, not at all like two mouths, the audience is also very depressed.
The biggest knot in Gu Qingyu's life after the marriage of Shi Yuanshan is not the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who is not right at the door and the relationship is bad, but the inferiority and pressure brought about by the weakness of women and men.
In recent years, the marriage of strong women and weak men has always been a hot topic of marriage, whether it is ordinary people or celebrities, more and more examples of tragic endings make people feel a little sad.
This time, "Heart Residence" once again focused on the marriage of strong women and weak men, and once again deeply exposed the problems and setbacks in the marriage of Strong Women and Weak Men with Gu Qingyu Shiyuan, which caused heated discussion among netizens and aroused people's thoughts.
How far can the love that is not right at the door go, and it is still a strong woman and a weak man.
It just so happens that the two episodes of "Heart Residence" episodes 17 and 18 spend a lot of time telling about Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's married life. You can see the screenwriter's mind, family and marriage are not wrong.
The front is attracted by the life of Feng Xiaoqin's chicken-feathered but grounded housewife, and the middle is attracted by the life after the marriage of Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's strong and weak men.
When the two of you and I go in both directions, it is indeed quite sweet, but it is also quite heart-wrenching when there is an awkwardness.
TV dramas always like unclear misunderstandings, but this drama is very direct in the face of problems.
The way to solve the problem is to communicate in time, gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan's background conditions are very different, including three views, the feelings of the two sides will make people wonder whether they can go to the end, which is also one of the biggest attractions for me.
Back to the beginning, why do two people who seem to love each other and think about each other fall into the dilemma of the wedding? Maybe they were wrong in the first place.
One marries ideals, one marries dignity.
What Gu Qingyu can't forget is the beauty and thoughts in his memories, all of which were like when he was young, not shi yuan now. So even if they are together now, they can't go back to their past feelings, let alone find their former selves. That's right!
Gu Qingyu loved the white moonlight of his childhood, the white shirt and glasses of Sven Shiyuan. But what about Shi Yuan today, because the mother in the family road is saddled with millions of foreign debts, living a life without dignity and hope at the bottom, living like an ant.
For this point, Shi Yuan also saw it thoroughly, so in order not to disappoint Gu Qingyu, he did not hesitate to do property notarization before marriage, and worked hard to earn money after marriage, in order to try to make himself worthy of this strong woman's wife.
However, in order to protect Shi Yuan's self-esteem, Gu Qingyu not only tried to find ways to throw money to please, but also had to make concessions everywhere, and everything he did was also for Shi Yuan, but the more he did, the more he could not get the other party's understanding, which was counterproductive.
Giving up the big money that loves him deeply, turning his head to pursue the white moonlight of pleasing himself, is Gu Qingyu wrong?
From Gu Qingyu's standpoint, yes.
After a woman has money, a house and a car, why can't she choose to follow her heart and choose someone she likes at the moment or has always liked!
Those who can have confidence do not have to consider whether the other party is poor or rich, they can put aside material conditions to make decisions, and it is good to give themselves the opportunity to choose freely.
Leaving aside for the moment whether it is appropriate in the end, how many people can get married and get rid of the material. Then a man can buy a house and send a car to a woman for money, but a woman can't give it?
In the final analysis, people who do not understand Gu Qingyu still have inherent gender biases.
Gu Qingyu's mistake is that he is too humble in this marriage, and every time he can take out his infinite kindness to forgive the other party, but he does not know that it will only push this marriage into the abyss.
Maybe she just married her own ideals, not life.
If two people have a smooth life and love from the age of teenagers, have not been separated, and married and have children like most ordinary people and live an ordinary life, what will it be like?
She regretted the youth that had been missed in each other's lives in those years. Yes, in fact, she does not love the male protagonist much.
Shi Yuan's love is not also Gu Qingyu, but more of himself.
People have no house and no car in middle age, and they are also burdened with millions of foreign debts, and Shi Yuan, who has suffered such a situation, feels that he has failed.
He failed so much that he felt that he didn't live like a person, and lived without the dignity of no one.
In order to earn money to pay off debts, he did not hesitate to face all the jobs that could earn money, did not hesitate to lose the face of men, to take on the private work of fake marriage, and even to help female neighbors buy underwear...
Until he met Gu Qingyu again, who still missed him. Gu Qingyu's adoration and overtures as always allowed this man who lived without self-esteem to regain his self-confidence and dignity again, so that he could live back to the proud son of heaven when he was young.
Gu Qingyu's backward pursuit and flattery made Shi Yuan mistakenly think that this was love, and the idea of marriage could no longer be controlled when it came to his mind.
In fact, this so-called love is just a dream created by Gu Qingyu for Shi Yuan, allowing Shi Yuan to find his former self. When Shi Yuan was immersed in it, the idea of wanting to be myself back became stronger and stronger, just like Shi Yuan himself said, "I want to be a person again."
Shi Yuan was right to motivate himself with this, but the mistake was that he hurried into marriage when he did not love Gu Qingyu enough.
If you love enough, at the beginning you will desperately come to Gu Qingyu and tell her that he is looking for her and waiting for her. When I woke up from a dream, I just didn't love enough. Shi Yuan loved himself more than Gu Qingyu, and at present he just wanted to desperately look back to make up for the shortcomings that he couldn't get when he was young.
Maybe all he wants is dignity, not love.
In such a marriage, both parties live very tired.