The Li family, who live in Tonglu, Hangzhou, have a son and a daughter, the eldest daughter Li Hui (pseudonym), who is 33 years old this year, but has not yet been married, while the youngest son, Li Qiang (pseudonym), married a Guangdong girl two years ago and is now married and has children.
Now a family of 6 people live under the same roof, get along for a long time, the contradiction is about to erupt, this is not to the point of being unable to clean up, as a parent's anxiety, it is really desperate, which sought the help of the mediator.
When she saw Li Hui, her emotions were very excited and unwilling to mediate, and she turned around and wanted to leave, but her mother quickly blocked the way, she accused her daughter of not being able to go, she had to write the understanding before she could go out, and her daughter Li Hui also retorted to her mother, I don't have a mother like you, I will sue, it is impossible to write a letter of understanding.
In this way, the mother and daughter two stalemate, the mediator on the side is confused, he persuaded Li Hui to be a little more restless, there is something to say well, can not treat the mother like this, but Li Hui immediately exploded when she heard this, not everyone is worthy of parents, they are not worthy, from childhood to adulthood, how they treat me, if I am good to me, I cannot become like this.
Speaking, Li Hui cried uncontrollably, in her opinion, her parents have always been son-preference, and there is a conflict with her sister-in-law Xiao Mo (pseudonym), and her parents are also blindly partial to her brother and sister-in-law, which is unacceptable to her, and the mother hears this and counts the daughter's brain is abnormal.
It is not difficult to see that the contradictions of the Li family are not small, but Li Hui is not willing to say more about what happened, turning around and riding an electric car and trying to grab the door, she yelled at her sister-in-law: I thank you for everything you brought me; my sister-in-law is not willing to show weakness: you did not bring me.
Hearing that the sister-in-law still dared to refute, Li Hui was even more angry and did not fight, I thank you, you have to do a little more to do the play, since you are like this, I sued to the end, said that I started the electric car, unfortunately, she still failed to leave, because she was blocked at the door by her mother.
At this time, Li Hui was crying out of breath and sitting on the ground trembling, choking in her mouth and I was going to sue, I am not the daughter of my parents, they will only think about my son, for my daughter-in-law, for my grandson, never considered for me.
So what happened that made Li Hui's emotions so excited? Later, through the mouth of the Li family's parents, it was learned that two months ago, the sister-in-law took a knife and injured Li Hui, at this time the mediator also found that Li Hui's face had a long scar, Li Hui said that this was injured by the sister-in-law, and there were several places on the body.
The mediator also launched a rage, how can the sister-in-law give such a cruel hand, we support your prosecution, this is your right, no one can interfere, but what are you going to do after the prosecution? Can this home still be returned? How to face your brother, how to face your parents, have you ever considered this question?
Li Hui said that just now I have put up with it, did not expect that the sister-in-law is still there rushing, from beginning to end she did not come up with an attitude to solve things, from beginning to end she did not recognize her mistakes, she is a drama spirit, not to act is simply a pity, the day before yesterday she also cut her wrists, what she wants to do, only she knows in her own heart.
Our family was originally very good, I paid a lot for this family, every day is also going up, but since the sister-in-law came, this home has been transformed by her, it is almost from the sky to the ground, what she paid for this family, why do I have to accuse me every day, why should I bear her hurt, she wants to argue with her husband, why should she come to destroy me.
If she is a good person, she will live a good life, treat her son well, what qualifications do she have to make trouble in this family again and again every day, I think the children are innocent, their sons are also very smart, if I go to sue, if the children learn well in the future, the impact on the children will also be great, I am already forcing myself to endure, but what about the sister-in-law?
As for why the sister-in-law injured Li Hui with a knife, the family said that the specific situation was not clear, but the parents of the Li family said that the cause of the contradiction was because of a piece of land, and it turned out that the Li family bought a piece of land in front of the house in the early years, but now one place is occupied by another neighbor.
That day Li Hui went to the neighbor's house to theorize, wanted to give this piece of land back, even if he thought that the neighbor would not return it, he also scolded Li Hui, and Li Hui, who was angry, went home and complained, which meant that he wanted his brother and sister-in-law to come forward to take this piece of land back, in Li Hui's view, she was going to get married sooner or later, and her brother and sister-in-law should have to give their own things back for this family, but the younger brother did not come forward.
Subsequently, Li Hui and her mother also quarreled over this piece of land, and also moved their hands, and the younger brother went to pull the frame, not knowing why the sister-in-law took a knife and injured Li Hui.
At this time, the younger brother Li Qiang also admitted that it was indeed because of this quarrel, the mediator believes that the brother and sister-in-law are too unintelligent, since the land is yours, then it is necessary for the family to unite and fight for the land to be returned, but you have internal contradictions, so that people look down on you even more, do not bully you to bully who to go.
Li Qiang is also well aware of his sister's grievances, he said that the reason why his sister will be disappointed in this family, there are also his personal reasons, because from childhood to adulthood, his parents care a lot about him, and they have little concern for their sister, even if he is naughty and has a conflict with people, and the last person to be beaten and scolded is still his sister, and his sister has not shown this disappointment before.
For what happened that day, Li Qiang also explained, he said that that day was their family were eating, the sister came back and talked about them in the corridor, the mother and the sister had an argument, the wife asked him to persuade the sister and the mother to separate, do not fight.
Later, Li Qiang did not eat the food to persuade, after pulling away, the sister and mother wrestled together again, for a time Li Qiang also came to be angry, one is the mother, one is the daughter, how can the daughter beat the mother? So he didn't bear to beat his sister, at this time his wife took a knife from downstairs and came up to hurt his sister, he didn't know why his wife did this, Li Qiang said, anyway, at that time, my wife even hit me, and I was also scratched by her.
So why would sister-in-law Xiao Mo behave so aggressively? At the moment, Xiao Mo also explained that her sister would always say that she had paid a lot to build this house, so I thought that I would rather not have this house than be angry, so I told my in-laws that our family of three returned to Guangdong to live, and in the future, if the in-laws are old and the sister does not take care of them, then we will take care of them.
That day my sister left work very late at night, maybe this sentence was heard by her, and then she scolded and grinned from downstairs to the upstairs, and provoked me, saying that you, a Cantonese guy, have such means and so cunning, don't you want to beat me? Then you came up and beat me, and I didn't argue with her the whole time, even though I took the iron rod that day, but I didn't do it.
Two days later, there was a quarrel at home again, this time it was out of control, I don't know why I hurt her, I also know that I was wrong, whether she sued or negotiated, I can only face it.
Why did I go to cut my wrist yesterday, it was also because my father-in-law went out in the morning to ask, saying that if I went in, it would definitely be uncomfortable, the more I thought about it, the more I couldn't hold back, and then I called for legal help, people said let me turn myself in, anyway, this thing is going to be sentenced for several years, and then I can't stand it.
In fact, I have really realized that I was wrong, but my sister just said that to me, I can't stand it, which is what i like to resent her, including at work, my temper is also unbearable.
It is understood that in the early years, Li Qiang went to Guangdong to work, and then he met and fell in love with Xiao Mo, who also worked in a courier company, in April 2019, Xiao Mo was pregnant, and in October the two returned to Tonglu to get married and received a marriage license, in Xiao Mo's view, she did not know how her husband Li Qiang originally looked at her, but she did not look at Li Qiang.
Xiao Mo also said that although her sister did not get married, she never said that she wanted to drive her sister out, this is not what she should say as a sister-in-law, nor is it something she should take care of, when she came back to get married, her in-laws took her to buy a ring, and said that there was a bracelet in her sister's place, and she would definitely get it back later.
Xiao Mo also said to her in-laws, whether it is a son or a daughter is the same, since it is given to the sister, do not take it back, and even if the sister wants to marry in the future, she still has to prepare a dowry for her, Xiao Mo feels that her sister said that she has a lot of heart and means, she is also very aggrieved, if she really has a heart, there is a means, why did she not find a rich family in the first place, and how much they gave at that time, these can ask Li Qiang.
Li Qiang was confused about this, he didn't know what this matter had to do with the things to be solved now, there was no need to say these things at all, just talk about what was happening now, and at the same time he didn't want his wife to be involved in other contradictions.
And the sister Li Hui also thinks that what the sister-in-law said is just a beautiful word on the scene, in fact, it is duplicitous, the sister-in-law has a heart and mind are all visible, just take the matter of her wrist cutting the day before yesterday, the family was originally very good, after she came, the family became a plummet, on this she still does not recognize her own mistakes, but also to do things, she just wants to be a dominant.
Cutting the wrists still has to let everyone hear, deliberately smashing a bowl there to cut, the family heard, or my father carried her to the treatment, in Li Hui's view, the sister-in-law is in Bo sympathy, want everyone in the family to target her, think that she did wrong.
For a while, the mediator was also a little speechless, perhaps there was too much hatred planted, no matter what they said, they would not believe what they said, and the family did not seem to have figured out where the source of Li Hui's collapse and disappointment in the family was.
The mediator hopes that the family can see the sister's dedication to this family, can care for the sister, can not live in the house so comfortable, but do not think that this house is also the sister to create a lot, but also hope that the sister-in-law Xiao Mo can come up with the most sincere attitude to get the sister's forgiveness, as for people to forgive or not forgive is one thing, first of all, the attitude must be another thing.
It's just that Li Hui is not willing to accept the apology of her sister-in-law, before waiting for her sister-in-law to react, she turned away again, not giving her sister-in-law any chance, at this time her father Master Li was anxious again, he felt that the mediator was here to support his daughter, and did not want to mediate anymore, but he said that the previous night his daughter had proposed to her daughter-in-law to compensate 150,000 yuan to her, but the family did not have this economic strength.
Son Li Qiang took over the conversation and said that this compensation of 150,000 yuan he accepted, but the sister said that he first gave her 80,000 at a time, and then gave 15,000 a year, 80,000 well I can't get it out at once, today's discussion is to give 60,000 first, and then give 20,000 per year, this 60,000 I also accept, saying that I will try to find a way to try to put it up for her first.
The mediator also asked Master Li, 60,000 you can't get out? Master Li frankly said that if you want to make it together, you can definitely take it out, but after taking it out, it is not a day? The little grandson still has to eat milk powder, and the family still eats rice.
And the sister-in-law Xiao Mo also said that she could not get it, not only that, her father died a few years ago, so she also carried 100,000 foreign debts.
Master Li hopes that the mediator can communicate well with her daughter, and this year she can pay 40,000 to 50,000 yuan, up to 50,000, and the remaining 100,000 will be repaid in a few years.
At this point, the mediator had to find Li Hui again, he felt that Li Hui took this compensation as a matter of course, but Li Hui said that he did not want these compensation, no matter how much money could not soothe her injuries and grievances, the mediator hoped that Li Hui could take a step back from the sea and the sky, after all, the family still had to live, and the parents and brother still had to get along.
No matter how to persuade, Li Hui said that he didn't need it, now that something happened, he regarded me as a family, how not to take me as a family member when there was no incident, to tell the truth, I still have one ear that was also broken by my family, after saying that Li Hui was emotional and crying again and ran away.
At this time, all eyes were focused on his father, Master Li, who confessed that it was not his fault to beat his daughter in the early years, because his son had a conflict with others at school, and the teacher asked him to go to school, but the daughter wanted to go, and if she wanted to go, she could make more trouble, so he beat her.
In Master Li's view, I think that he was also a village cadre for more than ten years, managing so many people in a village, couldn't he even manage a family? In short, he did not want to mention the old things again, only wanted the mediator to persuade his daughter to agree to the compensation plan of 150,000 yuan, and then give up suing his daughter-in-law, do not break up the family, anyway, you must forgive.
The mediator can also understand the idea that Master Li does not want the family to be separated, but the mediator can better understand why she is heartbroken for the encounter of his daughter Li Hui, so he does not want to persuade Li Hui to do anything, and when she sees Li Hui again, she also speaks of the pain in her heart for so many years.
Li Hui cried and confessed that no matter whether she was reconciled or not, she had no family affection, because her parents had not considered her since she was a child, and the idea that her parents had instilled in her since she was a child did not have to study, and her daughter did not have to save money before she married, so that after graduating from junior high school, she was caught by her parents and returned to work at home, and the money she earned was also paid for this family, and she had no concept of money at all, nor was she greedy.
And the younger brother studied so poorly, there was no exam in junior high school, his parents still arranged for him to go to Tonglu City to study, Li Hui said that she can do a lot of work, including finance, live broadcasting, e-commerce, etc. She has done it, but many jobs are just bad Zhang Diploma was rejected, which made her very sad.
Friends have also persuaded her, and she will definitely regret it in the future, but at that time she did not know that there would be today's result, and the reason why she said that her sister-in-law had a heart, it was also because when her sister-in-law was pregnant, she said to let her fight off, she was unwilling at the time, and now she said that she did not look at her brother at the beginning. Didn't you see it and still rushed?
4 years ago Li Hui also resigned specifically to go home to build a house, whether it is the appearance or decoration, she is designed and operated by her, after the construction, people around will come to see, but did not expect that after the sister-in-law entered the door, but could not tolerate her sister-in-law, she also saw such a word in the circle of friends of her sister-in-law.
"Every rest of labor to do sanitation, come to the individual to drag this person with a foreign surname away, lazy, but also so sloppy, I was born to work hard", in Li Hui's view, the sister-in-law just wants to drive her away, but she has not said a word, has been stubbornly insisting, although she lives in this home, but in fact there is no difference with staying in the hotel, because she is cooking in her own room.
The sister-in-law's means is to use her parents, use her brother to target her, including the door is broken, but also by the father to break, she simply does not know what she did to make the sister-in-law and the family hate her so much, the day was hurt by the sister-in-law, the family did not care about her, but was sent to the hospital by the neighbors around her, at that time she begged the people around her and doctors, do not rescue her, because she knows, even if rescued is still painful, after discharge to the present, the family has not given her any nutrition.
What makes people wonder is that since this family is so uncomfortable, why doesn't Li Hui marry and not leave this family? In this regard, Li Hui also said that she is looking for an object to look at people, and she wants to find a three-way view, because her family is like this, she is not excellent, she is definitely not good at marrying, and now that such a thing has happened, it is even worse to marry.
Li Hui also knows that if she sues, she will never come back to this family, so she also has a number in her heart, hearing her sister say this, her sister-in-law Xiao Mo on the side quickly knelt beside her sister to beg for forgiveness, she said that cutting her wrists is too scared, it is not a scheming at all, the father-in-law said that he went in, and the people inside will also beat people, so what do I think.
This time Li Hui also calmed down a lot, she did not flee again, but from beginning to end she did not say whether to pursue the responsibility of her sister-in-law, the younger brother also made a statement, will give 150,000 compensation to the sister as soon as possible, the mediator hopes that the family can give the sister care, especially the parents must also recognize their mistakes, as for the compensation is definitely to be given, this is what the sister deserves, and whether the sister sues, this is her right, she can also retain the right to sue.
Perhaps because it was too uncomfortable, the mediator also burst into tears, he said that if he could take Li Hui, he would definitely take away as a daughter, but there was really no way to take it, saying that he also turned away, there were so many sufferings in the world, without him admitting suffering, do not persuade others to be good.
I have to say that some people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and some people need to use a lifetime to heal childhood, as a parent should also know that the responsibility of having children is not just to raise the child on the line, but at the same time as the child grows, we also have to grow, if even the most basic support and education can not give the child, then the birth of a child, will only bring harm to the child, and may repeat the tragedy of generation after generation.
Between children, parents also want a bowl of water to be flat, favoring a child, it will cause irreparable harm to another child, which is not a good thing for themselves, or even a very bad thing, do not regret it when you are old, then it is too late.
After all, there are three thousand diseases in life, only the heartbreak cannot be healed, and the person who has been hurt will remember it for a lifetime, and it cannot be erased, forever.