In the process of parents educating their children, there are always ups and downs, from teeth and teeth to independent responsibility, the growth of children to go through a long and arduous process. In this process, whether it is a parent or a child, there will always be some problems that make both sides feel tricky, and sometimes it is just a small thing in life, but it will cause great contradictions between the two sides. For example, many parents often encounter chaotic situations in their children's rooms during their children's growth. In the eyes of parents, they feel that their children are lazy and often criticize their children. In the eyes of the child, he feels that the room is not chaotic, and the parents' gratuitous criticism is easy to trigger the child's rebellious psychology.
Because in the eyes of children, the neat rules are not the same as those of adults. It is also this difference that triggers contradictions between the family and the child. But psychologists believe that a child's room disorder is not necessarily a bad thing, but that such a child has character and traits that other children do not have. Let's talk about it today
Creative ability
A child who dares to break the rules is definitely ahead of his time in terms of creativity and imagination. This contempt for rules makes them even more creative.
First of all, they dare to break the rules and follow their own choices. In daily life, parents often ask us to listen to our parents at home; to listen to our teachers at school; to listen to our superiors when we go to society. It seems that from a young age we have been confined to the cages they have built.
Every step you take, it seems to be moving forward on your own, but in fact it is arranged, each step is fixed, sticking to the rules. Will such a life still be full of creativity, no, because innate creativity has been erased by day-to-day advice and rules. Children without creativity, how to seek their own world. In contrast, those children who dare to break the rules can justify their ideas and even practice them. When his family and teachers don't understand, he can realize it and show everyone that his ideas are correct. Instead of being hesitant to be criticized by their parents, they are better at breaking the rules and doing things more innovatively.
Informal
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, Xue Qin once reprimanded his friend Chen Fan: If you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world. Used to warn your friends that if you want to achieve something, you must first do the small things around you. Also at the moment, many parents will use this principle to educate their children, telling him to start from small things and pay attention to the hygiene of their rooms. Maintain a clean and tidy environment so that you can live a more comfortable life.
But is comfort in the eyes of parents perfectly suitable for children? Not really. In the eyes of children, perhaps the scattered room is their most comfortable state, and the parents may feel scattered, but the child can immediately find what he needs. The ancients often said that it is a big thing, not informal. If we focus our energy on unnecessary small things, it will lead to our inability to concentrate on doing things, and only by concentrating on doing our most important things can we take into account the overall situation and move towards success.
Active thinking
Children with room disorder are usually more active in their thinking than their peers. A child's messy room is usually not because he does not clean, but because his free-spirited personality makes him pay more attention to other places. His mind is more active, always inadvertently thinking of some unexpected ideas, in order to seize this fleeting inspiration, the child may quickly record, thus making the room chaotic.
In some film and television dramas, we often see that the homes and offices of some elite talents are very scattered, and even the manuscript paper is flying all over the sky. In the movie "Qian Xuesen", Qian Xuesen's desk has always been very messy, recording problems encountered in experiments or new ideas that come to mind. It seems very disorderly to outsiders, but Qian Xuesen can quickly find out.
Active thinking makes it often necessary to record quickly, and there is not much time to organize. Many people may say that Qian Xuesen is a scientist, can children compare? Such an idea is actually one-sided, the most creative period of human beings is the infancy, this period of the child is not polluted in any way, pure mind, so that they have a more active mind and more powerful creativity.
Bad habits brought about by cluttered rooms
Is the room clutter a good thing, in fact, it is not always the case, a child who often does not clean up the room will develop a lot of bad habits over time. Because creativity is needed, but binding force is also necessary, we advocate the middle way, for the child's behavior can not be blindly laissez-faire, the necessary discipline can guide the child to grow better.
Children with cluttered rooms are usually less binding. Some children's rooms are simply because of laziness, and parents need guidance and education at this time. This irregular habit of life affects not only personal health, but also future life. Parents should carry out appropriate supervision and discipline to cultivate children to form good living habits. At the same time, the children in the dirty and messy room lack a sense of rules, are more extreme when doing things, and tend to personal interests. When such children communicate with the outside world, they are sharp and easy to hurt others as well as themselves. Therefore, parents should also guide their children to control their emotions, talk to the outside world, and learn to restrain their sharp edges.
Parents are the best teachers for children, and to guide children to form good habits, parents must first lead by example. If you simply ask your child how to do it, but the parents themselves can't lead by example, then the final effect can be imagined. Parents set a good example far better than the effect of chattering preaching. At the same time, parents should also play a good role in listening and communicating in their daily lives, and they should not blindly scold their children's mistakes. Instead, it is able to take the way of listening more and communicating more, guide the child's transformation step by step, guide the child in a good direction, and create a good living environment for the child.
Summary: For children's education, the education methods of some families in the mainland have always been more extreme, and most parents are more excited about the dirty and messy situation of children's rooms. Think that the child is lazy and does not listen to discipline, but does not know what the child really thinks. The main reason is that parents do not put their children in the same position as themselves, and there is inequality between the two sides. Therefore, they are always criticizing their children, rather than listening and communicating, so changing the way of education is necessary for Chinese parents. In such a situation, how do you educate your children? Welcome to leave a message to discuss