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The word remarriage has become understood by everyone at the moment, and no one is unfamiliar with it; remarriage is no longer a matter of being talked about and avoided.
In the eyes of many people, it is normal to stop losses in time, pursue a partner that is more suitable for themselves, and choose to make their own more comfortable life. However, remarriage is different from the first marriage, even if it is said by some people to be good, because the first marriage of two people walking together with infinite fantasy and passion, while remarriage is for chai rice oil salt and reality.
The first marriage is the run-in of two people, and the remarriage is the compromise of two people.
As soon as the new season of "Wife's Romantic Trip" was broadcast, the couple of Ling Xiaosu and Tang Yifei caused a very high topic of heat, after all, Ling Xiaosu married and had children with Tang Yifei not long after divorcing his ex-wife Yao Chen.
Although the pictures they said in Weibo before gave netizens a sense of happiness, in the program, through Tang Yifei's crying, netizens learned that Ling Xiaosu, who was married for the second time, not only let his wife buy a wedding dress alone, but even thought about not getting married and letting the guests go back the day before the wedding.
To say that this man does not understand the style, will not be romantic, but in the years he lived with his ex-wife, even if he went to the desert to shoot a scene, he would rush back to bring her a bouquet of Gesang flowers. In Tibetan, "Kelsang" means "good time" or "happiness."
It was not that he did not understand, but at the second wedding he used the excuse of being too tired to refuse his wife's joyful offer.
I feel that everything is superfluous, I only think that living a good life is the most real, but I forget that no woman does not like icing on the cake.
When Liu Qing was thirty-five years old, she and her ex-husband ended their ten-year marriage due to personality incompatibility.
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No one wants to endure, and everyone wants to let the other person let go. The flowers before marriage have become a contest between winning and losing after marriage, and the two people who are still alive in memory can't believe that the person in front of them is the lover in their hearts.
When you are reluctant to communicate, arguing becomes the norm; when everyone feels that they have given too much in these years, the marriage is over.
Life makes two people lose their passion and scatter their feelings in a little reluctance.
After divorcing her ex-husband, Liu Qing did not reflect on it, she also thought about remarriage, but it is difficult to reunite with the broken mirror, even if you do not count the previous suspicions, there will be a rift between the two people.
I always feel that I can change my life by changing people, and I feel that Liu Qing, who has no fault in this marriage, married her husband who was also married twice when she was forty years old, but in just one year, the grievances suffered from remarriage far exceeded the previous married life. It also made her understand how simple she had thought before.
At first she thought that she had finally met a good person, but gradually she realized that where she was in her heart, she was reluctant to argue with her, but the other party did not bother to argue with her.
As long as life can be calm and quiet, then Liu Qing wants to do what she wants, her husband gave her full freedom, compared to the ex-husband's intransigence, now Liu Qing and her husband's mode of getting along, although she longed for it before, but also let her understand what is an emotional partner to live a life.
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When the divorce, Liu Qing's children returned to her, and after marriage, her husband also brought a child, and the two children were about the same age, at that time she wanted to be like this, they could understand each other, no one would be biased, and no one should feel that the other party had brought a drag oil bottle, but later she found that she was the most difficult person in the family.
She must be careful to take care of the elderly, otherwise she will not be as good as her ex-wife; the scale of taking care of children must be grasped by her, and she cannot ignore them or be severe, and even treat her husband's children with no difference from her own children, otherwise she is an unfair stepmother.
What about husbands? He sat by and watched her busy, asked him to help with the housework, he said he couldn't do it well, let him help watch the child write his homework, turned his head and found that the three of them had played together, and he also proudly told her that this was called breaking into the enemy.
Looking at the little untouched homework and the chaotic room, she laughed angrily.
She can't be angry, her husband is always a good-tempered image in the eyes of others, she has never lost her temper in front of herself, even the children tell themselves to live well with their new father, if she is angry, it is contrary to the world, and her husband always speaks softly, and sometimes she feels that she is making trouble without reason.
After such a long time, Liu Qing felt that the good temper or bad temper he had cultivated in her ex-husband would be worn away.
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She was really unhappy, she couldn't say her heart, no one could even argue with herself, and she used all her strength like hitting a ball of cotton, obviously she was deflated, and others still felt that she was happy and unsatisfied.
Where there is a personality disharmony in life, some are just two people who are not willing to run into each other, and when they first get married, they care about each other, and when people reach middle age, men looking for women to remarry will only be because of the following two reasons:
1. Take care of your own life.
Having a mother before marriage and a wife after marriage, many men in this situation are very poor in their ability to live. When people reach middle age, the vast majority of men have not taken care of the housework at home, and everything is taken care of by women, such as washing clothes, cooking, and so on.
No matter what the reason for divorce, leaving a woman, most men's lives will become a mess, and even can be described as unable to take care of themselves, but even sloppy men like to live a clean life.
Therefore, the main purpose of remarriage after divorce is to find a woman who can take care of his life, love and romance have long become troublesome things in their eyes, at this time men are realistic, they can never do the romantic object in the fantasy of remarried partners, and what can be done is only a life partner who warms each other.
2. Take care of family and children.
Some men, whether actively or passively leave their children around after divorce, have to say that men are actually children by nature, they can never be as careful as women, they can't become the main backbone of a family's life, and they can't take into account the inner thoughts and needs of the elderly and children.
It can be seen that men remarry not only to find a companion for themselves, but also to find a caring person to take care of their parents and children for themselves.
In short, men remarry are with a little nine-nine in their hearts, remarried they often pay more attention to what they need, so as to ignore the idea of their partner, and it is precisely because of this that some people will say that the second-married woman is not happy, but in any case, life is to rely on two people to support each other to go on, the heart is a little more relaxed, the road can go a little farther.
The essence of marriage is life, and the essence of remarriage is reality. Everyone should know that some people miss it for a lifetime, and we can only move forward and cherish the present in order to hold the most beneficial in our own hands.
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![Liu Qing has been an orphan since she was a child, and when her husband Zhao Hui died of illness, there were two people left in the family, her father-in-law and her, and Liu Qing has been staying at home to take care of her father-in-law. One day, Liu Qing was washing clothes on the balcony[fig]](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAP///wAAACwAAAAAAQABAAACAkQBADs=)