In today's developed Internet era, people's lives are not only much more convenient, they can buy things without leaving home, and parents of children who have school at home know their children's performance in school, and joining a platform can also communicate with other parents and interact with teachers.
As a member of thousands of parents, perhaps the deepest experience is to join the child's class group, parent group, the child's learning status is good or bad, and whether it is harmonious with classmates, it can be said that there is a kind of face to the screen, all the educational information can be seen in the king's model.
In such a convenient environment of communication and communication, the rapid and timely transmission of information is a very good thing for everyone, but at the same time it is accompanied by unexpected bad things.
Perhaps many parents have personally experienced that in the child's class group, one accidentally sent the wrong message, making the atmosphere in the group awkward. If you send your extremely "private" information in the group, you will feel that the public "naked running" feeling is really eager to live on another planet.
To count how careless the father is, it is estimated that every child feels empathy. The father obviously wanted to talk directly with his wife, but a quick operation was sent to the parent group. Surprised, not surprised?
Usually, parents will put their children's class group at the top of the operation, convenient to view the information in time, otherwise too many dialog boxes are easy to be overwhelmed, delaying the child's learning. I believe that this father's original intention is the same.
It is said that this father sent a wrong message, but he was completely unaware. Holding the mobile phone waiting for the wife to reply to the letter, but received other parents to remind the wrong place, he wanted to withdraw the message has been too late, that embarrassing can not be done, really hate not to open immediately out of the group.
This dad's wrong operation can make all the mothers in the group envious! The warm advice to go out in the morning, even if the weather is icy and snowy, makes people look warm inside. In the hearts of many mothers, a strange emotion flooded into the hearts: Why are good husbands from other people's homes?
Parents praised the father in the group, even the teacher participated, and instructed all the fathers to learn from him, and the father was so ashamed that his face was red to the root of his ears when he found out about his mistake.
However, their misoperation does envy many children who are eager for a happy family. The relationship between parents is stable and loving, the family atmosphere is harmonious and warm, and the children who grow up in the nourishment of love have a sense of security and belonging.
Security is the most important factor in determining mental health, but all people with a strong sense of security have a high level of acceptance and self-identification; on the contrary, people who are insecure often hide strong feelings of inferiority and hostility.
What is a sense of belonging refers to the degree to which an individual or collective identifies with a thing or phenomenon and is closely related to the object or phenomenon. But people with a weak sense of belonging tend to lack passion for work, a weak sense of responsibility, and a narrow social circle with fewer friends. There is also a saying that people with a low sense of belonging are prone to depression.
The greatest expectation of parents for their children is that their children are physically and mentally healthy. And security and belonging are the most important indicators of measurement. In other words, the relationship between parents is harmonious and stable, which is related to the physical and mental health of children.
If the child is compared to a sapling, the family is equivalent to the role of the soil, only the sapling can only be in the fertile and stable soil, the root system can be developed, deeply rooted in the soil, laying a solid foundation for healthy growth.
Some people say that parents divorce, which hurts the children a lot, and even some people think that they will destroy the children. In fact, what brings children a sense of security and belonging is not the marital status of their parents, but the relationship between parents, their emotional ability, their parents' educational concepts, and their parents' educational abilities.
If parents often quarrel and make the family jump, although they maintain a marriage in name only, the harm to the children is also great. Because the turbulent family atmosphere brings a great sense of security to the child, or pleases the parents for the so-called peace, few children who grow up in this environment have a sound personality.
If the relationship between parents is handled well, even if both parties divorce, but each other can establish a positive image of the child, and love their children together, so that the children who grow up can also gain a sense of security and belonging.
Obama's mother broke up with her father after giving birth to him at the age of 18. She raised her son alone, but she often told Obama about how to get to know and get along with her father, and to tell him about his deeds objectively and positively.
Although Obama only hurriedly met his father for the first time when he was a teenager, his father's sense of strength was always there, making him feel safe, belonging, and confident. His rise to the top of the United States is inseparable from the image his mother gave him as a father.
There is also a father because his daughter scored 100 points in the exam, his excitement was not controlled, he sang a song to express his excitement, the result was supposed to be sent to his mother, but a misoperation was sent to the parent group.
Hearing his excited voice and making up his cute appearance, people think of the immature and stable middle-aged people, and they can't help but want to laugh.
This move is indeed very touching, poor parents in the world, we often only see "other people's children", but ignore the excellence of their own children, reluctant to give an affirmative look, or a verbal praise.
No matter how capable a child is, if he does not have the affirmation to be a bridge, it is difficult for him to be confident in his life. We all know that successful people must be confident people; in the same way, people who are happy in life must also be confident people with rich hearts.
Perhaps some parents regard their children's test scores, academic performance, further education and other academics as extremely important, or even beyond everything. In fact, a sound personality (self-confidence, personality, emotions) is the life force that supports children.
How to raise healthy children? Family education is the home field, parents are the child's first teacher, but also a lifelong teacher who does not retire, parents always affect the growth of children invisibly. As a parent, do you realize that it is very important to improve your parental strength? Welcome to leave a message to discuss!