In the blink of an eye, the "double subtraction" has been carried out to the second semester, from the initial dazed anxiety to the gradual habit of today, parents have also adapted to the "double subtraction" education model.
However, we must understand that no matter how schools are reduced, no matter how policies are reduced, the status and role of parents in education cannot be reduced in any way.
Moreover, with the development of the times and the general improvement of the level of education for all, the role of family education will only become more prominent, and the influence of parents on children's education will only become more and more profound.
This is no longer the era when children only need to eat, wear, live and travel, this is an era of spelling parents, children's education, spelling is the wisdom and vision of parents.
Behind the success of education, never lazy parents.
Education cannot count on teachers alone
Parents are the homeroom teachers who never retire
Under the "double reduction", the Ministry of Education emphasizes that parents must not be required to check and correct homework.
As soon as this regulation came out, many parents cheered, after all, how difficult it is to tutor homework, many parents have experienced.
But we must also understand that this does not mean that we parents can give up on their children's learning, and teachers can do very limited in addition to imparting knowledge to children in the classroom.
Studies have shown that before the age of 18, the impact of family education is more than 60%, while school education accounts for only 30%, and the remaining 10% comes from social education.
To put it very realistically, children are one in ten for teachers, and the future of society is one in a billion for the country, and only in the family, children are one hundred percent.
Of course, parents can rightly say that learning is what teachers and schools should manage, but the consequences of children's poor learning can only be dragged by the family.
What's more, educating children never only depends on how many points the child has scored, but also the child's habits, personality, conduct, way of dealing with the world, etc., all need education, and these teachers can't give to the child, only the parents can give.
On the road to education, never expect others to help you teach your children.
Children cannot grow again
Don't let the lack of companionship delay your child's life
British educator Sally Lewis, in her work Awakening Children's Talents, points out that some people have studied what factors contribute to children's high scores on the learning ability aptitude test.
IQ, social conditions, and economic status are all less important than a more subtle factor, that is, the high-quality companionship of parents.
What is high-quality companionship?
It is the parents who lead by example to set a good example for their children;
It is the education of parents in the details of their daily lives;
When the child's psychological needs are needed, the first thing that always comes to mind is the parents, and they can also get timely feedback from the parents.
Many parents will say they are busy, but as Huo Qigang said when he attended an event in Nansha, Guangzhou, he was asked how to balance career and family:
"Although the work is busy, the time is arranged by yourself.
Every day I insist on getting up early and making sure to accompany my son to breakfast. I also accompanied him to breakfast today and sent him to school before coming to Nansha. If you don't cherish these times, small children grow up very quickly.
Therefore, I think it doesn't matter what you learn, you must not think that it is not responsible to hand over your children to the school. ”
The child's growth can not be restarted, the parents do not have an experimental period, in the stage when the child needs to accompany you are absent, and the defect can no longer be made up.
Take care of your child early
Childhood indulgences become pits in adulthood
There is a saying in the education industry: good children are managed, and bear children are used to coming out.
It is natural for children to be ignorant and willful, but it is the duty of parents to discipline children and regulate children's words and deeds.
If when the child makes a mistake, the parents will only blindly protect and connive, which may make the child lose the understanding of the sense of boundary, and even lead to a big mistake.
Just like Li Tianyi who was imprisoned, just like the demon Sun Xiaoguo who was executed, the reason why they are lawless and do things that hurt nature and reason is inseparable from their parents' connivance.
There are also parents, when they were young, they were tolerant of their children, they were not willing to discipline their children, and when the children grew up, they found that the children behaved inappropriately and wanted to discipline their children, but they did not know that it was too late to make up for the dead sheep, and at this time the children did not listen.
A child who was not properly disciplined before 12 years old, and enters puberty after the age of 12, will only become more and more rebellious.
Raising children is also time-sensitive, missing the golden disciplinary period before the age of 12, and then re-discipline after the age of 12, it will only be difficult, and the parent-child relationship will become more and more difficult.
Therefore, in the growth of children, parents have the obligation to help them establish good behavior norms from an early age, understand social rules and boundaries, so that they can grow up in words and deeds, and can harmoniously integrate into society.
Education cannot be afraid of trouble
The more afraid of trouble, the more troublesome it will be
In the process of educating children, the most feared is the parents' fear of trouble, and parents who are afraid of trouble have two extremes, one is to control the child, and the other is to indulge the child.
In a variety show, the host Zhang Shaogang challenged the "one-day daddy" and took care of two children at the same time, he did not rush, but cooked and brought the baby in an orderly manner.
In fact, all of this depends on his "art of control": where to sit, perform talents, applaud, peel, peel garlic... Arrange your child clearly.
All in all, "everything has to be up to me".
Zhang Shaogang's control over the child is so that the child can act according to his own arrangement, not to cause other trouble for himself, and to make himself more worry-free.
And some parents' control over their children is not a fear of trouble?
Because I don't want to make a difference, I hope that my child will take every step of growth according to his own arrangement, without unexpected accidents and without unexpected risks.
There is also a kind of parent, who is completely laissez-faire to his children in the name of respecting their children, and the consequence of this is that the children are isolated and have no backing.
Educating children can be said to be the most complicated, troublesome, and most patient thing in the world, the road is long, and the process is inevitable.
But as a parent, you should take on the responsibility of education, no matter how troublesome, you must be patient and constantly explore; no matter how complicated, you must also grow up slowly with your children.
Write at the end:
A person's life, any kind of success, can not offset the failure to educate children, because the growth of children is a project that cannot be "reworked".
Under the "double reduction", parents can not expect to send their children to school to give up, good education, is always a laborious thing, regardless of any external conditions.
Parents should know that anything can be lazy, but they cannot be lazy in educating their children.
The laziness you stole from your child today, in the future you spend ten times and a hundred times to make up for it may not be able to make up, and even cause the child to lose on the starting line from the beginning, or even embark on a wrong track, and finally harm the child's life.
"Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans."
Educate children, no minute, no matter what, no slack, lazy heart.
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