After the double subtraction, if you want your child to excel, you need your parents to do "three not accustomed to two disregards".
For children, the self-discipline is outstanding, and the lazy are out, which is a law that never goes out.
After the implementation of the strictest "double reduction" policy in history, there is less homework and no make-up classes...
A series of measures give people the illusion that under these changes, parents seem to be able to relax.
But in fact, on the contrary, after the "double reduction", the responsibility of parents is heavier.
A good education always needs the hard work of parents.
I agree with one statement:
"Double reduction", one subtracts children who are not excellent, and the other reduces parents who do not attach importance to education.
If you want your child to stand out after the "double subtraction", parents must do "three unaccustomed, two regardless".
Three unaccustomed
1. Children are addicted to mobile phones and are not used to it
After the "double reduction" policy was introduced, the "strictest in history" anti-addiction regulations for minors also came.
The most important point is that minors can only play games for up to 3 hours a week, and they also need to be authenticated.
But does this really stop kids from playing games?
A few days ago, Tencent did a survey on "what do children do after school after the double reduction", and in the votes of nearly 20,000 people, the proportion of people who "idle at home play mobile phones" was as high as 32.4%.
After the "double reduction", if the time is not reasonably arranged, many children's dependence on mobile phones has become more serious.
Originally energetic children, once seduced by the excitement in the mobile phone, the first thing to destroy is physical health, vision loss, cervical spondylosis, obesity, immune dysfunction and other problems are not uncommon.
Without a healthy body as a blessing, children are bound to be limited on the path of learning.
Especially in the context of increasing the sports score of the middle school entrance examination year by year, a child who holds a mobile phone every day and lacks exercise may not even be able to pass the high school examination in the future!
We often say: Destroy a child, give him a mobile phone. And the quickest way to ruin your child's grades is to let him sink in the world of mobile phones.
Between the bully and the scum, there is often such a small mobile phone.
Psychologist Adam Ault once said:
"Entertainment products such as games, gossip, and live broadcasting are like drugs, which can be addictive and difficult to quit if they are not careful."
Adults are still difficult to control the temptation of mobile phones, let alone children with poor self-control.
Therefore, after the "double subtraction", the matter of "competing" for children with mobile phones should not only not be relaxed, but should be more imminent.
2. The child is dragging and rubbing, not accustomed
The "double reduction" policy also has clear requirements for the amount of work, which stipulates:
Schools should ensure that there is no written homework assignment in the first and second grades of primary school, and consolidation exercises can be arranged appropriately in the school;
The average completion time of written assignments in grades 3 to 6 does not exceed 60 minutes;
The average completion time for junior high school written assignments does not exceed 90 minutes.
Many children feel that anyway, there is more time, less homework, you can write slowly, the result is playing, dragging and dragging, until very late to start writing homework.
In the face of children's friction, most parents have adopted the simple and direct method of "urging".
Children are unhappy, they procrastinate, and most of the root causes are actually lack of time planning ability.
What really determines a child's performance is not IQ, but the child's management of time.
Remember Tsinghua Xueba's study plan?
From 6:40 a.m. to 1 a.m. to bedtime, the time in between was arranged so well that no time was wasted.
Also 24 hours, the bully can efficiently use time to learn more knowledge, and children with poor time concepts can only keep in a state of "rushing to work".
Whether you are good at time management is closely related to your child's grades.
As American child education experts once said: time management ability affects children's learning efficiency, and learning efficiency determines academic performance.
Procrastination, which seems to be a small problem, is not only closely related to the child's academics, but also affects the future work and social interaction.
Therefore, after the "double reduction", parents can not only not condone the problem of procrastination, but can take advantage of the reduction of the amount of work and consciously cultivate their time management.
3. Children are not well used to it
"Double subtraction" also has clear provisions for reducing learning pressure, such as not arbitrarily increasing or decreasing class hours, reducing examination pressure, and not only scoring theory...
Children are loosened, the pressure is reduced, people are not as nervous as before, but many bad habits emerge: eat lazy, do not love sports, do not sleep at night and get up in the morning...
These bad habits may not seem like a big problem, but the more they accumulate, the more difficult it is to form good habits, and the easier it is to drag down the child.
Children with poor academic performance lose not in IQ, but in learning habits.
Where there is any natural learning bully, it is just a thick accumulation of good habits.
The educator Mr. Ye Shengtao said: The essence of education is to cultivate habits.
Children between the ages of 3 and 12 are the key period for habit formation, which is not taken seriously at this time, and it is too late to correct them in the future.
After the "double reduction", parents should guide their children to make reasonable use of their spare time and let their children develop good learning and living habits.
Both
1. Whatever is within your child's ability
Originally, the child had a teacher in the school, a tutor to study in the training class, and the supervision of the parents when he returned home, but now the extracurricular tutoring is gone, which also means that the child has more time for autonomy.
Compared with the past "package teaching package" one-stop arrangement learning, if the child's independence is not strong, will not reasonably arrange their own spare time, then the gap will become larger and larger.
Therefore, those parents who have the vision to start cultivating their children's independence early on.
Zhejiang girl Shao Yijia, who scored 719 points in the college entrance examination, domineeringly refused tsinghua's admission in order to realize the dream of Peking University in her heart.
Parents expressed full support for their daughter's choice, because in their eyes ," their daughter has been very independent since she was a child, and she does not have to worry about anything at home." ”
From an early age, her parents asked her to do her own thing and cultivate her independence.
It is the respect and letting go of her parents that makes her improve her ability to think actively and solve problems.
Writer Albert Hubbard once said:
"When parents do too much for their children, children don't do too much for themselves."
Can't see the child suffers in any way, as long as the child encounters a little difficulty, he will immediately rush forward to help them solve it clearly, seemingly loving the child, but in fact, depriving the child of the ability and motivation to solve the problem.
Embracing love that is too tight is often a secret hurt.
Every child has the right to self-growth, his life should go on his own, and parents cannot replace him.
The sooner parents let go of the cultivation of their children's independence, the more stable their future will be.
2. Regardless of the difficulties that children can bear
In school, children may encounter learning or life difficulties that they have not encountered before. At this time, it is the difference in children's ability to face difficulties and solve problems.
A study by American psychologists shows that a child's success in solving his own difficulties depends more on his experience than on how smart he is.
Many parents feel that their children are young and have no ability to solve problems, so they start to make decisions for their children and help them remove all obstacles.
However, this practice is depriving the child of the opportunity to exercise, and over time, the child's courage to face difficulties and the ability to solve problems will also deteriorate.
It is inevitable that children will bump and bump on the road to growth, but growth occurs in the process of solving difficulties.
As Deng Yaping said of her parenting experience, "Not all pressures can be avoided, difficulties and challenges are what we have to face, if we hide and do not solve, the problem will always be there." ”
Let children face difficulties, just like planting a seed in the body, when they encounter difficulties in the future, the first thing they think of is not to look back at their parents, but to find a way to solve it themselves.
Previously, a "Don't Call Mom Equality Treaty" on the Internet was on fire.
The 9 rules proposed by my mother are actually one purpose: "When you encounter a problem, please try to solve it yourself at the first time."
After the formal implementation of the treaty, the number of times the child did shout to his mother was much less, and he was used to getting up to wash himself, serving himself food, and remembering to carry a kettle and mosquito repellent when he went downstairs to play.
Loving children is not to be a pair of "snowplow" parents to shovel all obstacles for their children, but to let them experience alone.
In fact, children are far more powerful than we think.
Give trust, learn to let go, their pace is more firm, calm.
Principal Tang Jiangpeng once said:
"A good education should cultivate lifelong athletes, elegant people, responsibility bearers, and problem solvers."
Independent and sound personality, the courage to take responsibility, and the ability to solve difficulties will eventually become the underlying abilities of children, helping them to cut through the thorns in their future life.
Double subtraction, for parents and children, is both a change and a new opportunity.
I believe that every parent is looking forward to jackie chan and hoping for a woman to become a phoenix!
Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
Colleagues show this book to children, usually children also tutor mathematics, sometimes feel that cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also use what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!