Now mobile phones have become indispensable contact and entertainment tools in our lives and work, and for children, mobile phones are even more curious and interesting.
Now many children before the age of two can already play with their parents' mobile phones, often holding the mobile phone alone for a long time quietly, many parents think that their children are very well-behaved and smart.
But child psychologists need to remind the majority of parents and parents: it is not a good thing for babies to play with mobile phones.
Now most people realize that the phenomenon of primary and secondary school students addicted to mobile phones is serious, and they will pay attention to and control children playing mobile phones.
But for children who are a few months old and one or two years old playing with mobile phones and looking at mobile phones, many parents feel that they are very cute and fun, and feel that this behavior shows that the baby is smart and cute. Some parents even choose to use their mobile phones to coax their children when they are busy or their children are noisy.
"The baby is only 8 months now, and now I don't dare to look at the phone and make a phone call in front of the child, and even the mobile phone can't be taken into the master bedroom, can't let her see me touch the phone, otherwise she will have to watch, once just when the screen was on, she couldn't reach out and grab it, and she cried urgently." Not only that, but recently this child seems to be 'competing for favors', as long as I look at the phone and ignore her, she will cry and make a lot of noise, and the look in her eyes seems to express 'Don't play, ignore me quickly!").
"The one-year-old grandson often has to play mobile phones, sometimes his mother does not play for him, there are several times he plays with his mother's mobile phone, because he often opens QQ, WeChat, Taobao and other software, several times he actually sent expressions in the circle of friends, garbled codes, random video calls, and also dialed the phone by mistake. When his mother found out, she didn't give him a mobile phone to play with, so he chased after him.
There was no way but to play my phone for him, and he often dialed randomly, but most of them used their phones to play music. Don't know if it's okay to play like this for him?
Also, he seems to know now that his mother's mobile phone is more fun, and now he is not very willing to play with my mobile phone, to grab his mother's mobile phone, I don't know if this is good or not. ”
Interpretation of Children's Psychological Counseling in Guangzhou:
Babies for months don't know what phones do and do, but they show great interest in the object that glows and is extremely attractive to their mothers.
Many children over the age of one have begun to think of their phones as a toy. Why is there such a big interest in mobile phones for young children?
1, the mother's "love for mobile phones" affects the child
The reason is that it also "depends" on the cultivation of parents. Now mobile phones have become inseparable communication and entertainment tools.
Adults open their mobile phones all day long to brush Weibo, play WeChat, play games, and "machine" in the bedroom, on the toilet and even when feeding.
According to a survey by a parent-child website, more than 80% of mothers have the experience of playing mobile phones while feeding their children.
Nowadays, many people take out their mobile phones to play as long as they have a little free time, and the same is naturally true during pregnancy and lactation.
Even many pregnant women and mothers usually spend more time playing on mobile phones than with their babies!
The little baby slowly became interested in this glowing object in the subtlety of the mother, and as he grew older, the baby learned to interact with the mobile phone.
2. Strengthen parents' words and deeds
Jia Jia is only one year and 5 months old, but she has a strong interest in mobile phones. The family inadvertently played several Internet pop songs with the mobile phone, did not expect that the child actually looked at the mobile phone to sing, follow the twist, parents and grandparents think it is very funny, think the child is very smart, there is talent in this area, often show the child mobile phone video, and as long as the person comes to let him perform.
Coincidentally, there are many parents who regard "playing mobile phones and tablets" as excellent skills and "show" every time.
Whether it is because the child can really understand the content on the screen and follow the performance, or just by "sliding around" to start some programs and create the illusion of being able to operate the mobile phone, there is no doubt that in the occasion of family and friends gathering, the mobile phone has become a tool for young children to perform.
3. Coax the child with the mobile phone
Due to the strong interest of infants and young children in mobile phones and tablet computers, mobile phones have become the "coaxing artifacts" of each family.
Some mothers said bluntly: "Mobile phones are really better than any toy at home, no matter what kind of trouble the child makes, immediately after throwing it to him, it is quiet, we have given him an old mobile phone as a toy." ”
These parents or grandparents have good intentions, and onlookers are amazed at how smart the children are. However, they do not realize the harm that such an education method will bring to their children.
Due to the excessive addiction of parents to electronic products such as mobile phones, children are very easy to become small "mobile phone controllers" under their "cultivation", do not love sports, do not love to play with children, do not love communication, and often play mobile phones with their heads down. This not only affects the child's physical health, but also affects the formation of the child's good character.
In terms of physical health
Children's physiology has not yet matured, infant stage is the stage of rapid development of children, the British "Microwave Theory and Technology" journal research shows that the thickness of children's skulls is significantly lower than that of adults, and the absorption rate of radiation is significantly higher than that of adults.
Your child's nervous system is in a developmental stage and the potential threat is greater.
The British "Daily Mail" also wrote an article pointing out that children's use of mobile phones will cause health problems such as memory loss and sleep disorders.
Dr. Gerald Kedow of the University of Warwick in the United Kingdom warned that mobile phone radiation can disrupt the normal functioning of a child's nervous system, causing a series of problems such as memory loss, headaches, and poor sleep.
A test by the University of Clermont Ferrand in France showed that when children use mobile phones, the brain absorbs 60% more electromagnetic waves from mobile phones than adults.
Large doses of electromagnetism are not only detrimental to children's growth and development, but also bring diseases such as asthma and leukemia.
Children are in the growth and development stage, the water content in the body tissue is richer than that of adults, and the mobile phone microwave has the characteristics of the organ that the more water it is, the greater the damage to the organ, so the microwave is the most harmful to the human eye.
In addition, long-term texting may also lead to finger development deformities in children; Playing games with your head down will bring great harm to your child's cervical spine.
In terms of personality cultivation, mobile phones and tablet games deprive children of the opportunity to communicate and play face-to-face with others, and it is easy for children to become cowardly, lonely and paranoid.
On the other hand, with the development of modern communication technology, mobile phones can also access the Internet anytime and anywhere, which makes it more convenient to download games. Some children may become overly addicted to the game, affecting their growth.
Moreover, mobile phones will seriously affect the relationship between children and parents and become the "third party" of parent-child relationships.
When children have the desire to communicate, parents only care about playing mobile phones, children have the feeling of being ignored, and even think that in the eyes of parents, they do not have mobile phones as important.
So the phenomenon of small babies and mobile phones "competing for favors" will be encountered by everyone. At the beginning, the child may attract the attention of parents by crying and smashing things, if the parents do not respond slowly, the baby may use mobile phones, games and other ways to entertain themselves to achieve self-comfort, and communication with parents is even less.
It is difficult for parents to understand their children, and children cannot believe from the depths of their hearts that their parents love themselves and care about themselves.
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