Liang Shiqiu said: "Marriage based on love is an incomparable happiness in the world. ”
Being able to have a marriage based on love is the greatest luck in this life, and it is also the most cherished happiness.
However, marriage is not as simple as the mouth says, and if you want to continue this happiness, you need to work together to maintain and cherish it.
At the beginning of marriage, the husband and wife are naturally full of freshness, will feel that such a life is very happy, and together will also feel very satisfied, very beautiful. However, after a long time, it slowly subsides, if you can't get used to such a blandness, you will feel that such a life will begin to become boring, and there will be no original freshness to speak of.
Sanmao said: "Love, if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, is not easy to last forever." ”
Since two people have chosen to live together, they should be integrated into this real life. It's just that this kind of life is easy to say, but it's not easy to do.
If women want to be cherished by men, they have to learn how to get along between husband and wife. If a woman blindly pays and becomes a good wife in the eyes of a man, no matter how well you do it, men will always be critical of you, and they will not be satisfied with learning, and they will not cherish it.
In marriage, a woman with a temper is more cherished by men.
Moluwa said: "In a happy marriage, everyone should respect each other's tastes and hobbies. To think that two people can have the same thoughts, the same judgments, the same desires, the most absurd thoughts. ”
Some women will feel that since two people have become husband and wife, then in life, they should become one, whether it is the attitude of encountering things or the way they get along in life. When men have any opinions, they should respect men's opinions and meet men's requirements.
In the process of paying for men, women ignore that they are also the most important part of marriage, and they also need the care and respect of the other party. If in marriage, women always tolerate men, understand and respect men, but do not get the same response from men, then such a marriage is unfair and will soon lose balance.
Once the marriage loses its balance, the couple's feelings are shaky.
If women don't have tempers, they have to always tolerate men and understand men. In life, we must also learn to seek perfection and learn to cater to men's personality and attitude. If a woman is slightly dissatisfied, the man will feel that the woman is not understanding enough to perceive his pressure. There are conflicts between husband and wife, and men will blindly push the responsibility on women.
How can such a bottomless woman make men cherish you and treat you with care?
Xiao He is a woman with a big grin, and when she gets along with people, she has her own bottom line, and once she is touched, she will not tolerate it easily. It is precisely because of this that many people feel that she is a woman who is not very easy to get along with.
After marrying her husband, her parents said to let her run the family well, listen to her mother-in-law's words, and stop ignoring it like before. At first, Xiaohe will also tolerate everything, hoping to have a good relationship with her in-laws. It didn't take long, however, to find that the more she tolerated it, the more her husband felt that it was all her duty to do.
Xiao He slowly found that she could no longer tolerate this, obviously she was very uncomfortable in her heart, but she still had to consider the feelings of others, but no one ever considered her.
Since then, Xiaohe has returned to her former self, and when she encounters something that makes her very uncomfortable, she will speak directly and stick to her principles.
Once Xiao he raised his salary, he was happy and went to buy a new dress himself. After the mother-in-law learned the price of clothes, she always complained that she did not know how to be diligent and thrifty, and said that her son worked hard every day to make money, and she spent it all at once.
Originally, Xiao He did not intend to argue, but after hearing her mother-in-law say this, she couldn't help but go back. Seeing that Xiao he was not the same as usual, the mother-in-law was also flustered for a while and did not dare to speak like this again.
A woman who no longer wronged herself finally impressed her husband. Whether it is the mother-in-law or the husband, the attitude towards Xiaohe has also begun to change, replaced by respect.
Yang Lan once said: "The most tenacious bond of marriage is not children, not money, but spiritual growth together." Love is sometimes a kind of righteousness. ”
If a couple wants to live a happier life, they must balance the relationship between each other and grow together spiritually, rather than the woman who has always chosen to wronged herself to save the marriage.
Women should know that when you are weaker and more you pay, in the eyes of men, it is not to cherish such you, but to feel that all this is what you are willing to do, and it is what you should pay. In this way, you will only get his neglect.
On the contrary, if women have their own temper, when getting along, men will naturally be more jealous and pay more attention to getting along with you. Men spend their minds on you, and the feelings between you will get better and better, so that they will not be ignored and ignored all the time.
"Marriage is a book, the first chapter is a poem, the rest is plain prose," Nix said. ”
Two people choosing to get married means living together for the rest of their lives. Even if two people who love each other again, they have to accept that sooner or later the days will be dull. The more bland life, the more women must have their own principles and keep their own bottom line, so that they will not be bullied.
In marriage, if you want a man to cherish you, you have to be a woman with a temper