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In life, many mothers will complain about married life, if you look closely, you will find that many of these complaints are related to bringing a baby.
For women, the arrival of children not only changes their own life patterns, but also in the process of participating in the growth of children, the difference in parenting concepts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also easily cause family conflicts.
In order to avoid such contradictions, but also in order to make themselves more comfortable, many families have invariably chosen a new model of baby-bearing, that is, after the birth of the child, the mother-in-law takes the initiative to subsidize the small two-family baby, and the grandmother contributes to bring the baby with the daughter.
The new model with a baby is sought after, and the mother-in-law pays for the mother's efforts, is this the best solution?
Ms. Zhang is the only daughter in the family and is also a mother.
Before becoming pregnant, Ms. Zhang was both longing and a little worried about the baby, she envisioned the sweet world of two people upgraded to a happy family of three, but at the same time she was afraid that after giving birth, she would not get along well with the in-laws who came to bring the baby.
In order to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Ms. Zhang consulted with her husband and hoped that after having a child, she could let her mother help with the baby, after all, the phenomenon of grandmothers taking children is also common now.
Unexpectedly, not only the husband agreed to this proposal, but even the mother-in-law was also very supportive.
The mother-in-law said that if she does not contribute, she will definitely pay money, she is willing to subsidize the small two families of 3,000 yuan per month as a daily expense, and if the family has a headache during the baby period, she will also be on top at any time.
Ms. Zhang has not regretted her decision so far, although there are some differences between herself and her mother in parenting, but there is no overnight feud between mother and daughter, even if there is a contradiction, it will soon get better.
In addition, due to the infrequent contact with the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law relationship between the two is also maintained very harmoniously, and Ms. Zhang is also grateful for the efforts of her mother and mother-in-law.
In life, like Ms. Zhang, many netizens also recognize this new model of bringing a baby:
"Many families around me are like this, grandma pays, grandma contributes, adults and children are comfortable."
"This is the best solution to the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after having a child, support."
"I will be a mother-in-law in the future, I am willing to use this way, now with children is too tired, many mothers-in-law are still thankless, rather than this, it is better to directly pay money and save trouble."
But some netizens also objected to this:
"Whoever brings the child and who kisses, the grandmother pays without the baby is a very stupid way, many of them pay money but do not get affection." 」
"If Grandma brings a baby, will Grandma give money?"
"I'm a grandmother, I bring a child to my daughter, and I never ask my child's grandmother for money."
Why is the new baby model popular with young people?
First of all, this approach can avoid the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict caused by the long-term living together of two generations that are not related by blood.
For many young women, communication with their mothers is more free and smooth than with their mothers-in-law, and even if there is a contradiction, they will not accumulate negative emotions in their hearts and make themselves uncomfortable.
Secondly, in the traditional concept, the mother-in-law with the baby is a natural righteousness, if the mother-in-law does not pay attention to the child, most daughters-in-law will complain, and if the mother-in-law uses money to replace the contribution, another way to pay for the child, the daughter-in-law will also balance in her heart.
Finally, a harmonious family atmosphere is very important for the growth of children, if there is less mother-in-law contradiction in the family, there is no grievance and accommodation in the mother's heart, and the child will grow up in a relatively comfortable environment.
Is it necessary for the elderly to take care of their children and contribute money?
Neither the mother-in-law nor the mother-in-law has the obligation to help their children raise their children, and the reason why the elderly are willing to contribute is entirely out of a heart of love for their children, and they only hope to be able to help their children reduce the pressure of life as much as they can.
Therefore, when parents are willing to contribute to their own lives, children should be grateful, because this is not the obligation of parents. If the financial and physical conditions of parents are not enough for them to share the pressure of life for their children, we should not blame our parents.
Only by understanding each other and remembering gratitude can a family live better.
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