Today my daughter told me that Gu Ailing spent one year studying the second year of high school, and then suddenly asked me: "Mom, are you envious?" ”。 I replied: I don't envy her chasing with a puzzled face

Today my daughter told me that Gu Ailing spent one year studying the second year of high school, and then suddenly asked me: "Mom, are you envious?" ”。 I replied: No envy

She asked with a puzzled face, "Why?" ”

"Because she's a news person to me, and you're the best gift God has given me."

I said without hesitation.

The child's mouth stretched out the voice "Uh-one"

But I can see that my heart is happy to blossom.

It's not how broad-minded I am or what kind of clever way of education I have, but I've heard experts say that children should be "accepted" rather than "affirmed."

So I deliberately consulted the books, I felt that the words were quite reasonable, and the summary was: acceptance is honest acceptance of what can not be done, and then continue to work the things that can be done. "Affirmation" is blind confidence, an attitude of dishonesty, and will make people feel unrealistically superior.

To be precise, if I answer my child and say, "If you are willing to work hard, you can do it" or "My child is also very good", this is a certainty, not only will give the child invisible pressure, but also easy to make them proud, vain and unaware.

And I don't need anything to love you, just because you are my daughter, and I support you in whatever you want. This is acceptance.