A 75-year-old man said: When people are old, the key to happiness is not money, but these two things. This year, many people did not go home, but chose to stay in the same place, resulting in a perennial stay

A 75-year-old man said: When people are old, the key to happiness is not money, but these two things.

This year, many people did not go home, but chose to stay in the same place, resulting in the elderly who stayed at home for many years without accompanying them. They understand their children, but they are still lonely inside.

My friend Xiao Min said she stayed in Shenzhen this year. Because she was worried about her mother in her hometown, she transferred ten thousand yuan to her. She wants her to have a rich year, buy more delicious food, and don't be reluctant to spend.

But unexpectedly, she went back again, she said:

"People are old, what do you want so much money for?" Daily expenses are sufficient. You young people are the ones who really need money. Whether you have a family or not, you should have some savings in your hand. This is your confidence.

Compared with money, what we elderly people need more is the companionship around us and the fullness of our hearts. Only when we have spiritual sustenance can we not feel lonely and empty. "

In her view, people are old, material needs are no longer necessary, and spiritual pursuits are more important than material pursuits. If someone accompanies, has their own hobbies, and lets their hearts have a sustenance, then the quality of life in their later years will not be too bad.

First: there are companions around, and there will be no panic when there are helpers.

Your filial piety cannot be self-righteous.

Many years ago, a song "Always Go Home" swept the country. Many people think that going home to see their parents is filial piety, but don't forget, the lyrics also say that after going home to see, it is for:

"Talk to your mom about your troubles in life, talk to your dad about work."

"Even if you brush your mother's chopsticks and wash the dishes, even if you rub your father's back and shoulders."

Sometimes, our filial piety is full of self-righteous arrogance.

We always thought that we would go back to see our parents, buy something, and put a thick red envelope on them, which is our filial piety. We thought our parents were satisfied when they saw us, but we didn't ask them what they wanted most.

Jia Mu in "Dream of the Red Chamber" is a happy old lady with many children and grandchildren around her, and they are also filial piety. Their filial piety is not to give money to Jia's grandmother, but to accompany her morning and evening to talk, amuse, rub dominoes, and visit the garden.

It is the communication between filial piety and heart, not your unilateral wishful thinking.

The love of our parents for us is selfless. They look forward to reunions year after year, hoping to have a happy grandchild and a complete family. Instead of a group of people sitting on the couch playing with their phones, the body ornaments.

They've saved their hearts for a year, and they want to talk to us too. Maybe they also have all sorts of troubles and want to talk to us about it. Even just want to get our hugs.

And all this is ignored by us.

You think you've spent a lot of money and given you filial piety, but you don't know that these are nothing in the eyes of your parents. You'd better accompany them to a table.

We can always find too many reasons for our actions. We are busy and tired at work, and we just want to relax when we go home during the Spring Festival. But your parents' care and effort for you is no easier than your job.

Please cherish their concern, accompany them more, and don't let them just look at you and sigh during the Spring Festival.

Second: If you have sustenance in your heart, you will no longer feel empty mentally.

In addition to the need for companionship, the elderly really need spiritual wealth and inner fulfillment.

This requires us to maintain a high degree of self-discipline from an early age and cultivate one or more hobbies. That way, even if you live alone, you'll feel like you have something to do.

Once people are idle, it is easy to think about things. Even if they are good at life, they will feel idle and empty inside. Therefore, when people reach old age, they must know how to please themselves, arrange their own time, and manage their own lives.

Some elderly people, even if they live alone, can live a rich and colorful life. On the other hand, some older people are just the opposite. Even with their wives and children, they still feel unsatisfied.

Most of these people have a bad mentality and cannot correct their attitude. Arguably, they don't know when they're blessed.

When people are old, what they really need is not money, but to have a colorful spiritual world on the basis of satisfying material needs. Once they have the heart, life will not be so difficult.