Children should have a warm family atmosphere and have a relaxed and happy childhood, which is what we parents should do. However, some parents do not agree with the "happy education" of their children.
An upstairs neighbor has two daughters, the eldest daughter goes to junior high school and the younger daughter goes to kindergarten. The mother adheres to the educational concept that her daughter should be rich, and the family conditions are good, and the food, use and clothing of the two children are very superior. However, the two children were unanimously considered ignorant.
The two children often run and jump at home, and they are still the ones who don't wear shoes. The downstairs neighbors had opinions, and several times went to their home to react, and the child's mother said: "It is the nature of the child to be lively and active, and I can't help but walk!" I'm sorry to bother you, but I can't help it. "In addition to running and jumping at home, every time they go out, they can hear the sound of running in the corridor.
Their mother often asked her two children to throw away the garbage, they did not want to throw it into the garbage truck far away, and sometimes they just threw it at the entrance of the stairway, and the garbage was scattered everywhere. The neighbors often helped to clean up, but they were also very dissatisfied, and the quality of this child was really bad.
The child's young age is an excuse for many parents not to educate him, but when the child grows up, I am afraid that re-education will be useless. We can't use the guise of "happy education", we can't beat children, we can't scold children, and we can't indulge in teaching children, which is actually coddling children, and children's growth will go astray.
We hope that the child can live better, the more we should pay more attention to the child when he is young, more education, happy education of several misunderstandings, parents must not make it.
A democratic parent-child relationship does not mean listening to the child for everything
There are many parents who get along with their children like friends at home, and the parent-child relationship is very democratic. For example, if the child learns some hobbies and interests, he has just signed up, and the money has been spent, and he said that if he does not go, he will not go. Should parents be strict with their children? No, they feel that parents and children are equal and democratic parent-child relationships, and children's choices should be respected.
Behind every successful child, there is a parent who is strict with himself. Jay Chou's mother forced him to learn to play the piano, and only then did he have today's "Zhou Tianwang". Dong Qing's parents forced her to read more, so that she had a talented girl who shined on the CCTV stage today.
Parents are the children's relatives and educators, although we should get along with the children, but also can not listen to the children. Because the child is young and has limited cognition, we can't always watch him go down the wrong path. When parents should discipline their children, they must discipline them.
Releasing nature is not the same as making children lack of parenting
It is the child who makes the mistake in our family, so everyone should forgive him, and many bear children have such a "bear parent" behind them. Children want to release their nature, so we can shout in public, we can be noisy and noisy at the dinner table, we can stretch our legs to pregnant women, and we can be disrespectful to parents and the elderly.
To release a child's nature is not to make a child an uncultured person. The world is a world with rules, so children should be people who understand the rules. When we raise children, parenting is cultivated little by little through the process of continuous demonstration, imitation, making mistakes, and education.
Parents criticize educating their children, which will make him unhappy for a short time, but if he does not teach for a long time, the child who is not educated will not be happy for a long time.
Happy education does not mean that you can not learn without skills
Is learning a joyful thing? I once chatted with a PhD student at Peking University, and she said that learning is never a joy.
Although I have achieved very good academic results since I was a child, there will be many difficulties to overcome at every stage of learning. The fatigue and exhaustion of studying can easily make people have negative emotions, and when the mood fluctuates, they want to give up. At this time, it is a contest of negative thoughts and strong perseverance, and everyone who studies successfully must have strong perseverance to overcome themselves.
Children are young and their willpower is the weakest. We say that we hope to give children the happiest education, but it is not that children can stop learning and play as they please every day.
In this way, the child's childhood is happy, and the parents have wanted to live their future lives? The happiness of life for decades to come is the most important thing, rather than choosing a comfortable life at the age of struggle.
Educating children happily is not the same as letting him not learn anything, parents misunderstand, but what is delayed is the future of their children. Black hair does not know how to study early, white hair Fang regrets reading late! Teenagers are studying hard, don't let your children waste their youth.