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Life is short, tomorrow and accidents, do not know which comes first.
This epidemic has made us rethink the meaning of life.
The most important thing in life is not money or fame, but a healthy body and a peaceful life.
Lin Yutang once said:
A happy life is nothing more than four things, one is to sleep in your own bed; the second is to eat the dishes made by your parents; the third is to listen to your lover's love words; the fourth is to play games with your children.
It may seem like little things, but that's where the real happiness lies.
01
Sleep in your own bed
[ Solitude ]
A third of a person's life is spent in bed. Shakespeare said that a comfortable sleep is the gentle and nostalgic care that nature gives to people.
The most secure thing is to lie in your own bed, you can do anything, you can do nothing.
Feng Jicai was once raided and fled east and west, and he was afraid that he could not live forever.
Later, Mr. Feng can finally live and work in peace and contentment, every time he goes home at night and sees the window with the lights on, he has a kind of steadfastness and warmth in his heart:
"Family is the only place in the world that can be undefended. Only in one's own home can the body be free and the soul properly placed. ”
That's your space, your own little world.
In this small world, enjoy the pleasure of being alone.
Schopenhauer once said, "One can only be oneself when one is alone... One is truly free only when one is alone. ”
In this moment, you are not anyone's child, nor anyone's subordinate, nor anyone's friend, you are just yourself.
Zhang Tingji, a Jinshi family in the Qing Dynasty, has a couplet that is very interesting, "Zhu Hanweng sits quietly for half a day, and Ouyang Zifang reads at night."
Zhu Xi, the Master of Confucianism, likes to spend half a day meditating, with a clear state of mind, which is the best state of enlightenment of the true meaning of the world.
Ouyang Zi is Ouyang Xiu, who reads in the night of silence, whispers with the ancients, talks with the soul, and finds his truest self in loneliness.
Run away from the temptation of false fame and profit from the outside world and return to inner peace.
Only at this time can the soul swim between heaven and earth, communicate with the spirit of heaven and earth, and achieve a little poetry in the vast desert life, joy and truth.
02
Eat the meals made by your parents
[ Affection ]
Chinese pay the most attention to "eating", whether it is mountain treasures and seafood, or exquisite stir-fry, hot pot barbecue, always mouth-watering.
But there are many flavors, only the "taste of home", the most haunting, hanging stomach and intestines.
Foodie Cai Lan said:
The most extreme taste in the world is always the taste of mom.
When I was a child, it was near dusk, the air was filled with the smell of firewood, the smell of food, the smoke of cooking, and the mother shouted for her children to return.
When we grew up, we gradually left our hometown, and every time we came home, my parents were busy with a table of meals.
There are no rules, flattery, and interplay, and when you get home, there is only simplicity, relaxation, and peace of mind.
Lao She said in his autobiography that he missed the scene of the family making dumplings.
When Lao She was poor when he was young, he helped his mother work since he was a child, working hard for a year, in order to buy a pork cabbage Chinese New Year's Eve, and the family wrapped a dumpling in the stove room.
Lao She envies other people's dumplings with more meat, and whenever this time comes, her mother will say: Our dumplings have more meat and less meat, but they are the best to eat! The dumplings of the Liu family and the Sun family must be "full of oil and meat", but our dumplings will make our stomachs and hearts comfortable together.
Later, he understood the meaning of his mother's phrase "the stomach and the heart are comfortable together."
That is: the whole family supports each other, and if the hands and feet are not idle, they will not go to the end of the road, and they will walk with a loud noise.
The tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to be kissed.
Finally, I gradually understood that there is no one in this world who can love me like my parents like life.
In the vast city, the lamp at the dinner table at home is always lit for us.
The most loved ones are the parents; the warmest meal is the reunion.
03
Listen to your lover talk
[ Love ]
The most touching love words, to the people you love the most.
Love is not only the shock of the sea oath and the earth-shaking, but also the companionship of the long stream of thin water and life.
The marriage between Lu Xun and the original Zhu An was the order of their parents, and their feelings after marriage were discordant, like strangers.
Juan once said: I am proud, because I am the wife of Zhou Shuren. I am also in pain, guarding a man who does not love me. The coolness between husband and wife lies in the fact that there is nothing to say.
Lu Xun did not love Juan, and regarded her as a "gift" for his mother, only respect, and no feelings, his friend Jing Youlin said:
"That family is afraid of people." Lu Xun has been all year round, except for examples, he does not talk much with his wife. According to his mother, Mr. and Mrs. Big only had three sentences a day. ”
If two people who get along day and night are often together, there is nothing to say, in fact, the relationship between husband and wife has already existed in name only.
The song "The Most Romantic Thing" sings:
The most romantic thing I can think of is to slowly grow old with you, collect little bits and pieces of laughter along the way, and save it for later to talk slowly...
A happy life lies in the fact that the lovers do not know what to say, and the home is full of steaming fireworks.
What exactly to talk about, in fact, is not important, what is important is the atmosphere of the feeling of talking every day.
As the Three Quotes Book says:
"The rest of your life is long, may you be with someone who really loves you and can talk to, this is the longest fireworks happiness in the world." 」
Most people's lives are ordinary and trivial, sit down, chat, listen to each other's distress, talk about what they have seen and heard during the day, I am willing to let you know everything about me, and I am also interested in everything about you.
We all know that to love each other is to say it.
The best feeling is when you want to talk, someone listens, someone responds.
The best partner is to never talk too much about you, and understand the joy and sorrow you hide under every sentence.
04
Play games with your child
[ Innocence ]
There is also a kind of happiness, that there are children in the family, and adults play with children, full of laughter and laughter, and enjoy the joy of the world.
Mom washes her hands in the kitchen to make soup, Dad rides for the kids in the living room, big horses crawl on the ground, ponies laugh on big horses, and the family is together, more important than anything.
In "My Career is Mother", the grower said:
Accompanying children to grow up is to return to the original happy time of life, and what a thing worthy of our gratitude!
More importantly, in the company, look for a childlike heart.
Playing with children as a child, experiencing the joy of games, and living a vivid and interesting life in the world is a great happiness in life.
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai are not only fairy companions, but also happy to be with their children Ah Yuan (Qian Zhen).
Qian Zhongshu never showed the majesty of his father, he was even more naughty than his daughter.
Once, when her daughter Ah Yuan was asleep on a hot day, Zhong Shu painted a big face on her belly, and was reprimanded by Yang Dai and did not dare to paint again.
Every day before going to sleep, he would plant "landmines" in his daughter's bed, burying large and small toys, mirrors, brushes, and even brick platforms or large brushes, and when his daughter screamed, he was very happy.
Yang Dai wrote in "The Two of Us": "This kind of thing is not much fun to play every day, but Zhong Shu is not tired of playing." ”
Remove all disguises, keep a childlike heart, play with children, childlike heart, innocence.
05
Four things about happiness
What is happiness?
We think about this a lot.
Lin Yutang told us that happiness is actually very simple.
Happiness is lying in your own bed, letting the body and mind calm down, and finding your true self;
Happiness is to eat the meals made by parents, cherish the days with parents, parents are there, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home;
Happiness is someone who loves each other, someone who accompanies them, who can talk about everything, who can be affectionate, who holds the hand of his son, and who grows old with his son;
Happiness is to play games with children, have a childlike heart, and grow up with children.
So please love, please cherish, everything you have is interesting, everything you have is happiness.