I don't know when people argue about certain topics or want to expound certain views, in order to increase their credibility, they always like to add a sentence "Mr. Lu Xun once said" before expounding, as if adding this sentence, what they say is the truth, as if what Mr. Lu Xun said is an indisputable fact.
It is true that Mr. Lu Xun, as a great Chinese thinker and writer, has played a vital role in the ideological and cultural construction of the motherland, and has even influenced several generations.
But this does not mean that everything Mr. Lu Xun does is undisputed, such as his attitude towards his wife Juan.
Juan was forced to marry a man he did not love, was left alone in an empty house for 41 years, and did his duty as a wife, and in his later years he roared angrily, "You always say that you must keep Lu Xun's relics well, I am also his relics, you must also save me!" "It shows a lifetime of grievances.
1. Forced to marry a wife for the sake of filial piety
Filial piety is greater than three, and filial piety is one of the highly respected cultures in any era background.
No matter where you live, no matter where you are, filial piety for your children is the most basic concept, and in the profound culture of filial piety, passing on the generations is the most important thing.
Lu Xun, as a clear stream in the Chinese literary world, of course, did not want to bear the name of filial piety, so in order to honor filial piety, he was forced to complete the most important thing in his life and get married.
The story about Lu Xun has long been familiar to people, and when he was young, his family was superior, so that he could read poetry and books without worrying about food and clothing, and when he grew up, with the death of his father, his family's situation gradually declined.
The family's affairs were all handled by his mother, and Lu Xun began to study everywhere
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The mother is worried, and the mother is not worried.
Lu Xun's mother, who was running the business at home, saw Lu Xun growing up and gradually started to worry about his marriage.
In order to let Lu Xun get married as soon as possible, Lu Xun's mother had persuaded him many times, but Lu Xun had always insisted on finding a partner whose soul matched, so he had been avoiding his mother's urging.
Until Lu Xun's mother was fed up with Lu Xun's evasion, without Lu Xun's knowledge, she privately found a family with the surname Zhu who was facing each other to propose to her.
The Zhu family has a daughter named Juan, who is not only of similar age, but also a scholar and a virtuous and virtuous, who has been cultivated by traditional etiquette since childhood, and has been in the hall and the kitchen.
Lu Xun's mother was extremely satisfied with Juan, so she secretly finalized the marriage with Juan's father and set a wedding date.
At this time, Lu Xun was studying overseas, Lu Xun's mother was well aware of her son's temper, if she told him about it directly, Lu Xun would not obediently go home to become a relative, so she had to pretend to be ill and force her son to return home.
Sure enough, Lu Xun returned home and was extremely angry after knowing that he had been deceived, but in the face of his mother's orders, he wanted to bear the insult of filial piety, so he was forced to be helpless and could only marry Juan helplessly.
In this way, two people who had never met before, let alone loved each other, came together to marry under the orders of their respective parents.
2. Stay alone in an empty house for 41 years
It is true that in that era, the marriage of children was completed through the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker, but Lu Xun was different after all.
Lu Xun of Botong only wants to find a cultured woman who can resonate with her soul and spark in her thoughts, so even if he has married Juan, from the bottom of his heart, he does not agree with Juan's identity as his wife.
On the third day of his marriage to Juan, Lu Xun resolutely returned to Japan and continued his studies.
In these three days, Lu Xun had never touched Juan, although the two were nominally husband and wife, But Lu Xun always maintained a sense of distance from Zhu An, which made Zhu An feel very uncomfortable.
In the days when Lu Xun was studying abroad, Zhu An, as Lu Xun's wife, scrupulously stayed at home, not only serving Lu Xun's mother all day, but also keeping things in the family in order.
A few years later, Lu Xun returned home, looking at Juan's busyness, Lu Xun also softened his heart, he planned to give Juan a chance, so that Juan can really enter his heart.
Therefore, Lu Xun proposed to Juan's father that Zhu An get rid of the feudal habit of foot binding, and also go to the academy to study, increase his knowledge, and open up his thoughts.
However, Juan's father strictly refused, and he still felt that a woman's talentlessness was virtue.
At this point, Lu Xun's only chance to give Juan was declared disillusioned in Zhu An's father's verbal refusal.
Although Lu Xun and Zhu An did not have the truth of being husband and wife, the name of husband and wife was still there, and Zhu An had worked in the Zhou family for more than ten years, and he had no reason to leave Zhu An
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And if he divorces Juan.
In that special era, what kind of notoriety Juan will bear, and how many people will be discriminated against can be imagined.
Later, Lu Xun inadvertently became acquainted with the soul mate he had been looking for, his student Xu Guangping.
The two gradually came together, and even Xu Guangping gave birth to a child for Lu Xun. Looking at lu xun and Xu Guangping's affection, Zhu An felt a thousand emotions in his heart.
She couldn't help but ask herself, what was she doing wrong? She wholeheartedly took care of Lu Xun's mother, worked hard to serve Lu Xun's living, and in the end she did not get Half of Lu Xun's favor.
When Lu Xun died, watching Xu Guangping carefully sort out Lu Xun's relics, Zhu An, who had been alone in the empty house for 41 years, could no longer bear the grievances that had accumulated in her heart for a long time, and she roared angrily at Xu Guangping: "You always say that you want to keep Lu Xun's relics well, I am also his relics, you must also save me!" ”
Third, the victims of the times
This sentence seems ordinary, but it has exhausted the grievances of Juan's life, making the listener's eyes wet and tearful.
To be fair, Juan did not do anything to apologize to Lu Xun in her life, and even her duties and obligations as Lu Xun's wife were perfectly accomplished, and her tragic experience had to be lamented.
What about Lu Xun? He just treated the people he didn't love as a guest and was bent on finding what he loved, so what mistake did Lu Xun make? If you accuse, you can only blame Lu Xun for sticking to principles too much!
Whether it was Lu Xun or Zhu An, or even Xu Guangping, they did not commit any mistakes, and can only say that they had different encounters.
It was the era they lived in, and they were all victims of that era.