If today's young people are most afraid of being urged by their families to go back to blind dates when the New Year is approaching, then many literati in the Republic of China period should be most afraid of their families urging them to hurry back to get married. Today's young people are not willing to go on a blind date, are not willing to listen to their parents' arrangements for marriage, and their parents cannot "not eat water and press their heads", but in the era of alternating between the old and the new, even Lu Xun's marriage was urged by his mother to be married.
On July 6, 1906, Lu Xun married Juan in his hometown. Hearing that the groom was a new-style youth, Juan deliberately wore a large new shoe to cover the "three-inch golden lotus" on the palanquin, but her feet just came out of the palanquin, the shoes fell off, Lu Xun learned that the previous two parents did not put his fiancée's feet and go to school to rest assured, naturally not happy.
What's more, he rushed back to China because of a letter from home to deceive his mother that she was seriously ill. Mrs. Zhou was not seriously ill, and lied to Lu Xun just to get her son married as soon as possible, because he was already 25 years old, and in the eyes of Mrs. Zhou, it was unbelievable that she would not get married at this age. In short, this arranged marriage was unfortunate, and after the marriage, Lu Xun maintained a long-distance relationship with his nominal wife, Juan.
The two did not share a room on the wedding night, lu xun went away to study after 4 days of marriage, and in 1919 Lu Xun bought an old-fashioned three-entry hospital in Beijing, and the whole family was reunited. But he and Juan are still separated, Zhu An adheres to the old idea and does not want to leave the Zhou family, only saying that he is a member of the Zhou family and dies a ghost of the Zhou family, and Lu Xun asked Zhu An's opinion before he moved to Beijing and when he fell out with his brother Zhou Zuoren in Beijing and wanted to move again, to see if she was willing to return to her mother's house and be free from now on.
It's just that Juan's purpose is "I will go wherever Mr. Big goes", and Lu Xun tacitly does not divorce her, but only provides for her. To be fair, Juan took care of Lu Xun very carefully, Lu Xun was sick, she asked her mother's family to buy salt boiled bamboo shoots and fennel beans, and she also ran to buy snacks from "Daoxiang Village".
And Lu Xun did not treat Juan harshly in life, he and Xu Guangping continued to send money to Juan every month after living together, the family got a total of 100 yuan, and Juan gave another 10 yuan. It's just that his feelings Juan did not get in his life, she has been with her mother-in-law in the Zhou family for a long time, in 1929 Xu Guangping gave birth to Lu Xun's only son, Zhou Haiying, And juan was naturally depressed after hearing about it.
But she quickly picked up her spirits again, comforting herself that "Mr. Xu's son is also my son", and someone will send her to the end a hundred years later. This strange marriage lasted until Lu Xun died when she was 58 years old, after which Juan's living expenses were borne by Zhou Zuoren and Xu Guangping, and When Juan was 65 years old, Zhou Zuoren's old lady also died, and she refused Zhou Zuoren's money.
In fact, it should be inaccurate to say that Juan has no complaints about Lu Xun in this life, but she is deeply influenced by old ideas and rarely shows it. Sun Fuyuan, who became Lu Xun's student twice, once recalled that when Lu Xun returned to Shaoxing to visit his relatives in the early years, Zhu An also pointed at him and quarreled, and the tone was full of grievances, but Lu Xun did not say a word from beginning to end, and when Zhu An said that he was tired, he turned and left.
Lu Xun died 8 years later, Zhu An because of the poverty of life planned to listen to Zhou Zuoren's advice to sell Lu Xun's collection of books, this matter caused concern from all sides, someone specifically found Juan's residence to persuade her not to sell, Juan's face is very bad, after a while she finally said a famous complaint: "You always say that Lu Xun's relics should be preserved and preserved, I am also Lu Xun's relics, you also have to save me!" ”
This is because Juan does not understand the life of Xu Guangping and Zhou Haiying, coupled with the long years of accumulation of depression to say it, I heard that Xu Guangping's life is also very unhappy, after Zhou Haiying was still ill, her face immediately improved a lot, and the collection of books finally did not sell. In other words, any woman who marries and becomes a stranger to her husband and has been alone in an empty house for decades will probably have complaints, Juan said less because she was accustomed to old-fashioned thinking, and second, she felt that she had not treated her badly in those years of the Zhou family, but her life was pitiful and sad.