Intensive reading mother: A good-natured father is the greatest treasure of a family, and it is also the blessing of a child's life.
Author:Yiming (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
Recently, in Jinan, Shandong, a video of "the daughter puts on makeup for her father, and the father cooperates motionlessly" caused netizens to laugh.
In the heated room, Dad took the headband that the woman used to make up and sat quietly on the sofa.
The daughter, dressed in a set of pink pajamas and tied a pill head, lay on her father's body and smeared it very carefully on his face.
The daughter is skillful, and it can be seen that she has used her father as a model more than once to make up.
The child's mother said that usually, this father is a bit of machismo, but in front of his daughter, it is a small sheep posture.
Many netizens said: Too envious of this little girl!
A good-natured father is really too important for the growth of his children.
Researchers at the University of Cambridge in the United Kingdom have conducted an experiment on the relationship between children's genetics and personality.
The trial was conducted by stimulating the guinea pig brain, and during the trial the researchers mainly compared female and male gene carriers.
Through this experiment, the researchers came to the conclusion that the personality of the offspring depends mainly on the genes inherited by the males.
In other words, the father mainly determines the character of the child.
For children, if there is a good-natured father, to praise, to affirm, to encourage them, the children they have educated are more confident and very happy.
A good-natured father paints a warm background on the child's childhood and benefits the child for a lifetime.
What kind of temper the father has, what the child has
Do you remember the murderer Yao Jiaxin who shocked the whole country?
Yao Jiaxin was originally a high-achieving student at the Xi'an Conservatory of Music.
That day, he accidentally knocked down a woman while driving, and when he got out of the car to check, he felt that the woman was trying to remember his license plate.
Evil thoughts suddenly arose in his heart.
So, he took out a sharp knife from the backpack he carried with him, and stabbed at the woman lying on the ground one by one, and a living life came to an abrupt end.
When the judge asked him why he did this? He said that because he heard that rural people were too difficult, he chose to kill people and kill people.
It's maddening!
But this boy who spoke softly made it hard to believe that he would become a murderer, what did Yao Jiaxin's childhood experience?
In Yao Jiaxin's memory, his life was almost exclusively of studying, and he was forced by his mother to practice the piano. If he is not careful, the belt that his mother is holding will fall on him.
As long as dad found that Yao Jiaxin's grades were not good, he would lock him in the basement and let him stay inside except for eating.
What makes Yao Jiaxin very helpless and confused is that if there is a fight, whether it is right or wrong, he will always be scolded when he goes home.
The strict control of his parents made him develop a "fear of things" personality at a young age.
Especially after encountering an emergency, his first thought is not to solve it bravely, but to think about whether this matter will bring him trouble.
So it's no surprise that he made crazy moves after hitting people.
But children's problems are often created by adults, and every psychological and behavioral problem of children is closely related to the parents' way of education.
When it comes to the educator Zhang Wulin, it gives the impression of being gentle and elegant, and he can always handle things calmly when encountering them.
Even if the child makes a mistake, he will not yell at the child, always reason with the child, and infect the child with language.
He also spoke very softly with his wife, so his children, under his influence, not only had a very good personality, but also achieved great academic success.
The reason why children have achieved today is because of their father's influence and education on them.
"Raising Boys" says: If there is an important lesson that fathers can teach their children, it is to learn when to stop.
If the father is able to control his temper, the child can learn how to control himself.
If we want our children to be better, more loving, and happier, we must pass on the "good temper" to our children.
In the father's temper, there is a hidden fate of the child
Everyone knows that Lu Xun is the Taishan Beidou of the literary world, but he is also a spoiled demon.
After Zhou Hainian was born, whenever a friend visited Lu Xun, he often took the child out to show off to his friends. The level of joy is like a child who has been given a beloved toy.
Sometimes when he needed to take care of his children at night, Lu Xun was always the first to go to Zhou Haiying's room, and he stayed with him all night.
Lu Xun once said: "Games are the most legitimate behavior of children, and toys are children's angels."
Lu Xun, who used to be addicted to the bookstore every day, also stood in the game shop after having a child, patiently selecting various strange toys for Zhou Haiying.
He is extremely tolerant of his children's education.
Lu Xun once told his family in his will that when the child grows up, he has no talent, he can find something small to live, and he must not become an empty writer or artist.
Zhou Hainian died when she was 8 years old, although she spent a short time with her father, Zhou Haiying inherited the tenacity, fortitude and kindness of her father.
After the death of her father, Zhou Haiying's family situation became more and more difficult.
When he applied for the Nanyang Radio Night School, the tuition he paid was still the money he had saved for many years.
In the end, he overcame many difficulties to be admitted to the Physics Department of Peking University and became an expert in domestic radio.
The father's good temper is like a beacon, bringing light and strength to the child on the way forward.
Deng Yaping has been playing particularly seriously since she was a child, that is, she has a bad temper, cannot lose, and is anxious when she loses, and she has to pull the other party to a duel again.
The father next to him was particularly patient in telling his daughter where she had lost and what places to pay attention to.
When she grew up, everyone asked her what kind of husband she wanted to find. First, she said, he had to have the character and temper of my father.
Good-natured fathers will make their children the messenger, because they know that everything is patient and meticulous, more encouragement, stimulate their self-confidence, the child will become more and more confident.
In this way, children are more motivated to create their own beautiful life.
Dad's good temper is the best feng shui in a family
Some time ago, I revisited the humorous family comedy "Family with Children" and found that Xia Donghai is really a wise, humorous, patient and good-tempered father.
For his quick-tempered wife Liu Mei, he always coaxed her to smile softly.
Treating the mischievous stepson Liu Xing, he is full of patience.
Once, Liu Xing, riding a bicycle, accidentally knocked down an old grandmother, and fled in fright.
Xia Donghai found Liu Xing, and instead of directly criticizing and scolding, he encouraged him to take the initiative to apologize.
At first, Liu Xing did not think so, and Xia Donghai patiently explained:
"If you are afraid of taking responsibility for such a small thing, and when you grow up and encounter other things, will you run with the first 108,000 miles?" How else to call our family's second manhood? ”
A few easy jokes and kind reminders made Liu Xing realize his mistake, take the initiative to apologize to his grandmother, and his sense of responsibility was also established.
A mild-tempered father who does not lose his temper can set a good example for his children in life, and also let his children grow up healthily in full of positive energy.
A team of researchers at the University of Chicago in the United States once surveyed 953 couples who had been in love for an average of 39 years, and the results showed:
Gentle and healthy men are key factors in determining marital happiness.
In relatively positive and optimistic families, there is less conflict between husbands and wives, and if in a family where the husband is easily emotionally stressed, the probability of a wife complaining about marriage increases dramatically.
Therefore, Dad's good temper is not only the needle of the sea god of parent-child relationship, but also the best feng shui of a family.
I've seen an explanation about God's creation of Dad:
God first gave Dad a tall figure for the child to look up to; then He gave Dad strong shoulders to carry the sleeping child home.
Finally, God thought long and gave Dad a tear.
"That way, he can love his children as much as his mother."
A good dad is a partner and spiritual support for moms, and is a role model for children;
Truly good fathers are usually able to lay down their authority and become partners with their children.
He is not only as secure as a mountain, but also as warm as a harbor.
A good-natured father is the greatest treasure of a family and the blessing of a child's life.
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