A few days ago, I brushed a particularly interesting video on station B:
A UP master calculated through various references that the house of Liu Xing's family in "Family with Children" should be 209.24 square meters large.
In a first-tier city like Beijing, you can buy a house with such a large area, how rich is this family?
Previously, some netizens analyzed that Liu Xingjia was in the Impression Community in Beijing, in the West Fourth Ring Road of Beijing.
When "Family with Children" was just broadcast, the house here was 8300 yuan / square meter, and now it has risen to more than 90,000.
Roughly calculated, this house alone is worth 18 million, and Liu Xing's family is a proper multi-millionaire.
From various details, we can also feel how rich this family really is:
More than ten years ago, they were able to keep a meal of 6 dishes, chicken, duck and fish meat every day.
As soon as the refrigerator was opened, it was all eight joys, high lego, and from time to time haagen-Dazs...
Liu Xing is wearing Adi, FILA, and buying more than 800 pairs of shoes...
In the past few years, there are still a few families with computers, but Liu Xing's family has achieved a computer in one room.
What is particularly enviable is the mother of this family, Liu Mei. She has achieved "cosmetic freedom":
Shiseido, Givenchy, Estée Lauder... These big names say buy and buy.
I see a lot of netizens sighing under this video:
It's 2021, and I'm still not at the level they were 20 years ago.
The standard of living of "Family with Children" is indeed beyond most families, but at that time, it still spread all over the country and became a childhood memory of a generation.
I think it is because this drama performs our ideal home, but it has a strong atmosphere of life.
And the bitterness of the growing pains, as well as the experience and reflection of education, are worth chewing on repeatedly.
Some time ago, there was a hot search on Weibo: Xia Donghai's education method is amazing?
Taking stock of the father's wisdom in education.
He is good at discovering the strengths of each child and helping them build self-confidence.
Even liu xing, who couldn't do anything in the eyes of his mother, Xia Donghai could find out a bunch of advantages.
In one exam, Liu Xing's test results were not satisfactory, and Xia Donghai encouraged him:
We have always emphasized leading by example, Xia Donghai said it a long time ago more than a decade ago.
Xia Donghai is a children's drama director, and in order to increase revenue, colleague Lao Shang falsely claimed that Xia Donghai had experience as an American director.
But Xia Donghai believes that you must be honest as a person, and you can't take the lead in making things up.
There is also the most worthy of praise, is that Xia Donghai gave the child full trust and respect.
When Liu Mei looked through Xiao xue's diary, he would tell Liu Mei that respecting the right to privacy is a sign of the progress of social civilization.
When Xiaoyu and his classmates have a conflict, he will tell Liu Mei not to find parents and let the children solve it by themselves.
He often squatted down to understand and look at the things in the eyes of the child, and mingled with the child.
It is precisely because of this that Liu Xing can accept this stepfather without any hesitation.
After all, who wouldn't want to have such an enlightened, gentle, open-minded fairy father?
But as a mom, I think there's one more thing about him that a lot of dads don't do, and that's:
He always stands with his wife and provides her with emotional value.
After divorcing her ex-husband Hu Yitong, Liu Mei lived alone with her son, and the bitterness of life and the difficulty of parenting made her grumpy, irritable, and even a little sharp.
But Xia Donghai used her patience and companionship to soften Liu Mei's edges and corners, so that she could educate her children more peacefully.
When Liu Mei is about to lose her temper, Xia Donghai will stand aside and comfort her: Mei Mei, dissipate the gas, dissipate the gas.
When Liu Mei was angry and wanted to beat the child, it was Xia Donghai who took her away.
Even if there are differences, Xia Donghai rarely argues with his wife, but stands on the perspective of the child and helps her analyze the problem.
He will also understand Liu Mei's difficulty, there is an episode, he specially gave Liu Mei a fitness card, beauty card, do not let her do housework.
Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology, once said: Mother is the soul of the family, the mother is happy and the whole family is happy, and the mother is anxious and the whole family is anxious.
Although strictly speaking, Xia Donghai is not so perfect.
He can be a good dad, and more importantly because he is a good husband.
Compared with the "immortal father" Xia Donghai, Liu Mei is a typical "Chinese mother".
In the eyes of the children, she may still be a little annoying.
She is "eccentric" and always whispers softly to the well-learned snow and the well-behaved old rain.
However, for her own son Liu Xing, she habitually belittled and attacked, often "not asking" to buckle the big hat.
She would also force her children under the banner of "good for you."
For example, Liu Xing does not like to drink milk, but Liu Mei always forces her son to drink milk because of its high nutritional value.
Liu Mei's shortcomings, we parents more or less also have.
But you have to say that there is no such mother in this family, that is absolutely impossible.
I remember that there was an episode where Liu Mei was going to go on a business trip abroad, leaving her father and three babies alone at home.
Although it was only a week, she left 2,000 yuan for the family to pay for food.
Just like the saying on the Internet: Dad is out of the scenery again, and he is panicked at home with a baby.
Xia Donghai is gentle and educational, but it is obviously not enough to take care of three children.
He is too tolerant, so it is easy to choose to compromise on small things and give children excessive freedom.
Obviously, he should have a regular schedule, so Xia Donghai played with the children until late at night and ate breakfast at 2 p.m.
He was extravagant, either eating instant noodles or taking his children out of the restaurant, spending all the money in a few days.
Xia Donghai is not good at housework and does not understand chai rice oil and salt, so it is difficult to ensure the healthy growth of three children.
Liu Mei may have some minor shortcomings, but they are definitely flawed.
Think about it carefully, what mother dares to take on the responsibility of raising 3 children like Liu Mei?
What stepmother can do what she does, in order to make her stepdaughter integrate into the family, desperately wronged herself, and even some flattery?
She is better to Xiaoxue Xiaoyu than Liu Xing, not because she does not love her children, but because she wants to form a warm and harmonious family.
In this family, mother Liu Mei is the main heart and the core of the family.
Watching this drama now, my biggest feeling is:
In this world, there are no perfect parents and no perfect children.
You see, the three children in this family have their own advantages and disadvantages.
Old and big snow, excellent grades, sensible and generous, always because of the sensitive period of youth, the personality is arrogant.
The second oldest, Liu Xing, is righteous and generous, but he is mischievous and mischievous, and his grades are not good, which makes his mother have a headache.
The third little rain, the youngest, naïve and well-behaved, is also the most prone to being bullied by other children.
But it is also these children who have taught Xia Donghai and Liu Mei many of the true meanings of life.
One of the episodes that impressed me the most was that they always taught their children to be generous—to give people roses and to have a lingering fragrance in their hands.
As a result, a neighbor moved in next door, always borrowing things and not repaying them, which has affected the normal life of the family.
But the couple is just hindered by face, embarrassed to refuse.
At this time, it was Xiaoxue who stood up and refused the guest's request, she said: Say no, there is no reason, I have the right to refuse others.
They finally understood that generosity should have boundaries, not sacrificing themselves and pleasing others.
For example, his father Xia Donghai often had a toothache, but because he was afraid of the sound of electric drills, he couldn't bear not to go to the hospital.
But the three children took the initiative to check their teeth first, giving Xia Donghai a lot of courage.
Another example is that her mother Liu Mei was cheated of 100 yuan and fell into entanglement and helplessness.
Finally, it was also under the encouragement of my family that I slowly came out of the emotional trough.
As the writer Feng Chen said: The so-called parents and children are just nourishing each other. I thought I had given everything for you, but in the end I realized that it was me who had fulfilled it.
We don't have to be harsh on ourselves and our children, we must achieve full marks.
But at the very least, we must make progress together in each other's company and be a pair of growth parents.