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Friendship is an extremely important and inseparable part of our lives, but some people mix to the end and find that they do not have a friend, which does not represent the failure of life, but shows that you are not simple.
True friends, like love, have always been unattainable, and it is a rare luck to meet a true friend in this life, and it is a norm if you can't meet them.
In addition, friends are in quality rather than quantity, and low-quality social is not as good as high-quality solitude. If you don't have a friend who really fits in, you'd rather live alone than wear a mask and make it up in front of people.
If a person ends up finding that he doesn't have a friend either, it doesn't mean you don't fit in, it means that no one is working with you.
Really powerful people have always been lonely, this feeling is like standing alone on the peak, overlooking the mountains, and there are very few people who can compare with you to see the scenery, because most people are ordinary people, they can't reach this height.
In a way, if a person has no friends, then there are at least two problems.
One: Say goodbye to useless socializing, and no longer pin the value of life on others
Democritus famously said, "Many people who appear like friends are not friends, and many who are friends do not appear to be friends." ”
People's hearts are separated from the belly, interpersonal communication is an extremely energy-consuming thing, once a psychologist Adler said that all human troubles come from interpersonal relationships.
When people reach middle age, there is less communication with friends, and life will be richer.
First, people have less chat with friends and can free up more time to focus on their lives. Second, people have less party entertainment with friends and can pour more energy into their families.
You know, when a person reaches middle age, most of them are old and young, and the shoulders bear not only the pressure of life, but also the happiness of getting along with relatives.
A mature and stable middle-aged man will use his heart to balance work and family, even if he likes to relax with friends, he will not let himself eat, drink and have fun.
Moreover, most middle-aged people rarely spend time with friends.
Liu Mei is a stay-at-home mother, although she does not work hard in the workplace, but the pressure of daily life also makes her feel that she does not have enough time.
In some people's stereotypes, it is believed that a stay-at-home mother is to rest at home, and the leisure time with a baby can still relax, in fact, the life of a middle-aged mother is far from so simple.
Liu Mei needs to prepare breakfast for her children, basically get up at about five o'clock throughout the year, and after sending her children to school, she also needs to buy vegetables to prepare three meals a day and clean up family chores.
Someone always asks, "Why doesn't she go to work?" ”
Even if Liu Mei wants to work to share the pressure on the family, it is difficult for the child to rest assured once she has a headache and brain fever.
In real life, many people have rarely gathered with friends since they got married and had children, not because they are unwilling, but because the time is difficult to arrange.
There is a gap between unmarried and married, youth and middle age also have different meanings, a middle-aged person, less communication with friends, more contact with relatives, is not another kind of happiness.
Two: find the center of gravity of life, just want to focus on themselves, others go with the flow
After many people reach middle age, they gradually understand a lot of truths, see the truth of many interpersonal interactions, and no longer spend time and energy on maintaining various responsible relationships.
They gradually find the focus of life, only want to live for themselves, rather than spending time on useless social interactions, they want to improve themselves and manage themselves.
In fact, after people reach middle age, it is difficult to be alone.
Because at this time you have so many relationships to take care of, such as your parents, your wife and your children, etc., in such a stage of old age and young age, it is difficult for you to have the opportunity to be alone with yourself.
But only when people are alone with themselves can they hear the voice in their hearts clearly and know what they want. If you always wear a mask to live, always play a variety of roles, even if the emotional intelligence is high, no matter how exquisite, you will always feel tired, and even lose yourself.
Therefore, those who have no friends in the end may have seen through that life is their own after all, and the only people who can rely on themselves are themselves. When you mix well, someone approaches you, and when you mix well, they disperse.
Sincerity is hard to find, and most of the relationships are maintained by interests.
If so, why hope for the outside world? It is not a blessing to live your life well.
Mr. Yang Dai said that the world is its own and has nothing to do with others.
I hope that each of us can focus on ourselves, regardless of how others are, and only strive to be ourselves.