Liu Mei, the mother of three children: There are three children, and there will be someone to accompany her when she is old in the future

Liu Mei is 47 years old this year, and in March this year, she gave birth to a son by caesarean section, which is also her third child. Because of the good maintenance, the 46-year-old still looks elegant. Before giving birth to her third child, Liu Mei already had both children, the eldest daughter had gone to college in September this year, and the younger son had also entered junior high school. Speaking of her experience in having three children, Liu Mei said that with three children to accompany, even if she is old in the future, she will not become an empty nest old man.

Liu Mei's family economic conditions are good, his husband is in business, has always wanted to have three children, but before because the three-child policy was not released, Liu Mei has not given birth to three treasures. Today, the eldest daughter has gone to college and has entered a "fixed speed cruise" state, without worrying too much about herself, and the younger son has also lived in the school since junior high school. "From the moment my son lived on campus, I suddenly felt that the courage on my shoulders had all been unloaded." Usually, when he and her husband are at home, they will miss the days when they usually worry about their children' stomachs. Liu Mei said that before preparing for the third child, she made full preparations. She feels that her time, energy, and body and mind are now adjusted to the best state: there is money, leisure, and a stable mentality. "Now that the Three Treasures are regenerated, I have enough time to spend with my children." Moreover, with the experience of bringing the first two children, I believe that I will be more relaxed when taking the three treasures, and I can use the experience of the education treasure and the second treasure to the three treasures and take fewer detours. ”

Because the husband is more than 50 years old, the couple began to prepare for pregnancy after learning that they could have three children. Because she had a previous caesarean section experience, Liu Mei's pregnancy preparation work this time was very meticulous. She specially asked a Chinese medicine doctor to regulate the body, and the doctor said that her body was cold, and she insisted on it for half a year just because of various "food supplements". In fact, she usually dislikes the strong taste of Chinese medicine, but this time, in order to give birth to three children, she organized more than 20 pairs of various Chinese medicines. Liu Mei's husband also had to follow the cooperation to adjust the body, originally often stayed up late at night and drank often, he also quit drinking, and under the supervision of Liu Mei, he exercised every day to maintain a healthy diet.

Having three children has the benefit of having three children

Liu Mei said that the situation of each family is different, and whether to have three children depends on the personal situation. "My experience is that you must prepare yourself physically and mentally before preparing for pregnancy." In her opinion, three-child families also have the benefits of three-child families. First, the three children grow up together, everyone has a companion for each other, and the children can experience more of the fun of brothers and sisters playing and growing up together in the process of growing up, not as lonely as the only child. Liu Mei said that she has several good friends, they are only daughters, they often talk about Liu Mei's suffering of only children. "When I was growing up, I was bullied outside and had no one to help, and no one to discuss any difficulties in life."

Second, in three-child families, the problem of parental pension can be shared by children, and there will be no need to throw all the pressure to one child. Regardless of whether the child grows up in the future or not, the burden on the parents' pension is not so heavy.

In this regard, Liu Mei has a deep understanding. She also has a younger brother, who is 40 years old. The year before, my father suffered a stroke due to high blood pressure and was rescued in the ICU for a full ten days before being transferred to the general ward. Because her brother's company management is very strict, her brother finally took half a month off to take care of her father, while she herself was in the hospital for a whole month to take care of her father, and she felt very difficult to turn over, pat her back, wash her feet, and wipe her body every day for her father. "In many things, caregivers are certainly not as well cared for as their children. For example, we rub his body every two hours and massage his legs and feet to prevent blood clots. Because she and her brother and sister-in-law took turns to help, she was able to persevere. Eventually, my father was in a coma for two weeks before he woke up. However, the father who woke up, his memory is not as good as before, many things have not been remembered clearly, except for knowing his son and daughter, his grandson and granddaughter, have not known. From the admission to the hospital, to the final transfer to the general hospital for rehabilitation treatment, the father spent a total of more than 800,000 yuan. This more than 800,000 yuan, in addition to medical insurance reimbursement, I also have to pay 400,000 yuan out of pocket. "If these more than 400,000 yuan are not shared with the help of brothers and sisters, it is undoubtedly a great burden for ordinary people." I thought that if I could have another sister or brother, and everyone would take turns taking care of my father, then my father's recovery would be smoother when he was hospitalized. Everyone's pressure is not so great. Now a pair of only children have to support 4 elderly people, which is very stressful. I hope that my children will not have so much pressure to feed the elderly in the future, and that three children can share it together. ”

Third, three children are raised together, but relatively speaking, they can be "free-range", which will not make each child look so delicate, especially if the child can learn how to get along with others in the process of growing up, and experience what is brotherhood, which is very beneficial to the growth of each child.

Liu Mei said that although children need to pay more energy and money when they are young, their parents will also harvest 3 times happier when they grow up. Even if one or two children are not around in the future, parents will most likely leave a child around them, and they will not become empty nesters.

Text/Guangzhou Daily, New Flower City Reporter: Xiao Huanhuan

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