In fact, what Chinese parents lack most is the ability to talk "nonsense" with their children.
Take your child's every word seriously, let your child feel loved and cared for, and he will be happier and happier.
Author | Tomato Mom
At dinner a few days ago, my colleague Ling Jie complained to us, because of her 5-year-old "talking" son, she has been late 7 times this month!
Every morning as long as you get out of bed together, your son's small mouth is like a machine gun bursting out, and he can't stop at all.
Asking him to get dressed, he said, "Mom, I dreamed last night that a monster flattened our house, whining..."
Asking him to hurry up for breakfast, he said "Mom, do you believe in the light?" As long as there is light, I can survive without eating..."
But whenever you casually replied, "Really? ”
He was able to tell you about the whole family from the origin of Ultraman, and wherever you went, he had to follow suit.
Sister Ling said that every morning, her brain was buzzing, and she just wanted to escape from this home quickly.
In fact, such a "talking" child in life is really not in the minority.
Seeing a little boy who thought the lions in the zoo were going to eat his father, he kept chasing the lion and nagging: Don't eat my father!
In the end, the lion was so annoyed that he simply hid behind his father, and his eyes were not pure.
When my son was young, he was also a super talker.
Once driving him back to his hometown, he talked non-stop along the way.
I said, "Can you please silence me for 5 seconds!" ”
He said, "Okay Mom, the time has come, can I say it now..."
It was a minute to think about crashing.
In fact, if you also have a child who talks about it every day, and his mouth is non-stop, please don't bother him.
Because, this is precisely a rare advantage for them.
Talking children are often very smart
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Those children who talk are often curious, ask wherever they go, and their imagination is particularly rich.
I remember when I participated in "Where Daddy Went", everyone sat on the car up the hill, "small talk" Belle saw everything novel, question after question:
"Why are there animals in the mountains?"
"Why are there only animals in the forest?"
"How did the land come out?"
It's almost like a walking hundred thousand whys.
Not only that, but the children's logical thinking ability and expression ability are also first-class.
In the TV series "Dear Mr. Lemon Essence", Su Han, a 6-year-old boy, was kidnapped by his father's enemies.
From the moment he got into the car, his little mouth crackled and he never stopped:
"It's 5 o'clock, I'm going to eat at 6 o'clock, and my mother said that only by eating on time can you grow up fast..."
The robber couldn't help but interject: "Can you keep your mouth shut?" ”
He replied:
Okay, can we go and eat fried chicken? Mom's not here I can finally eat fried chicken!
When he reached the robber's territory, he was still chattering:
How do you order spicy wings, I said you can't eat spicy, how can you not even do this thing well?
Although I am a child, can you adults respect me?
And don't forget to taunt the robbers by the way:
"I told you long ago that it's useless to call, but you better send me home..."
Almost didn't drive the robbers crazy.
I have to admit that this little boy is really articulate, well-organized, and endearing.
In fact, when a child endlessly expresses what he sees and hears with you, the brain is also "running at high speed", thinking about what to say next and how to organize language to express it.
This invisibly increases the activity of the brain and enhances the ability to think logically.
Harvard MD Daniel once summarized 7 daily mental activities that are most suitable for brain development, of which communication accounts for two: introspection (communicating with yourself) and connection (communicating with others).
When a child is communicating with the outside world, the brain's neural network develops rapidly, the synapses will multiply, and the more developed the brain's synapses, the smarter the child will be.
The social psychologist Bandura also said:
"Children's abilities are improved in communication with others, including language expression, logical thinking, communication and the cultivation and development of emotional intelligence, all of which are gradually developed based on this."
Therefore, a "small talker" with rich imagination, excellent logical thinking ability and high emotional intelligence must be very smart and excellent.
The child who talks must be very happy and happy
Liu Xing in "Family with Children" is a typical small talk, twittering every day, and the golden sentences are continuous.
Liu Mei asked Liu Xing to go back to the house to write his homework, and Liu Xing danced and said:
"Learn to forget, forget to learn, learn to forget;
Forget to learn, learn to forget, learn to forget..."
Angry, Liu Mei reached out and wanted to hit him.
Liu Mei came up with 20,000 pieces for Liu Xing to transfer schools, and Liu Xing couldn't help but cry:
"Dad, take care of your Meimei, she actually took twenty thousand yuan to a latecomer, you said she is not a loser, what is she?"
And then there's the classic meatloaf scene:
"Mom one me, one old father one me, one xiaoxue one me, one xiaoyu one me..."
It's ridiculous.
He is always full of vitality, happy every day, full of enthusiasm for life, and brings a lot of smiles to the people around him.
Professor Li Meijin once said:
"If your child is small-mouthed and a little talking, it means that he grew up with a very rich voice, at least 2 or more family members, and grew up in a loving environment;
In this way, children who have received timely responses and satisfaction from their relatives from an early age are not only more willing to express themselves, but also have higher emotional intelligence. ”
Liu Xing's optimistic and lively personality is precisely because he grew up in a harmonious and loving big family.
Like this little girl who her heart at work for her dad:
You pay attention to safety, don't fall;
Holding the tea leaves? Do you have a wallet on your phone?
You haven't forgotten anything? Okay you go down.... Goodbye bye bye bye....
In the cute little milk sound, it is full of strong care and love for dad;
With such a cute and heart-warming little cotton jacket, I think this father must want to rush home after work.
I think this little girl must have been nourished by love and happiness since she was a child.
So, cherish the child who talks, it shows that the atmosphere in your home is warm and loving, and he feels the joy and happiness from the heart.
Talking to children is often more popular
What is the experience of having small talk at home, probably every time you go out with them, you will become the "focus" on this street.
Just like this little girl, every time she goes downstairs and rides a bicycle, everywhere she goes, it seems that society is my home, and everyone is my parents.
Seeing an uncle selling oranges, he came forward to automatically say hello:
"Uncle, are you selling oranges?" Good luck with your business! ”
"Bye-bye, I'll go first~"
After drinking a good cup of milk tea, I couldn't help but take the milk tea to the counter and asked:
"Auntie, who made this milk tea, drink it well!"
"What did I do, what's wrong?"
"I feel so delicious!"
Seeing the two little brothers selling flowers, they also asked without timidity:
"Little brother, what are you doing here?"
"I'm selling flowers here!"
"Then are you afraid of Uncle Chengguan?"
"I'm not afraid, I haven't done anything bad."
The soft and cute appearance of the milky sound made one of the little brothers can't help but take out the hairpin and want to give it to her;
I have to say that the children who talk about it are more or less have hundreds of millions of social on their bodies.
Such a sweet and cute child is really loved by people, flowers and flowers, no matter where you go, you can eat them.
I remember that Liu Xing's father, Xia Donghai, once said seriously:
In modern society, communication between people is very important, just like Liu Xing, his strong communication skills and the ability to adapt to achieve the goal are now lacking in children.
Yes, although Liu Xing's grades are always failing, there is no specialty, but the popularity is particularly good, in the student review column, Liu Xing is always excellent.
Once, Liu Mei took Liu Xing to the downstairs hair salon to cut his hair once, and the boss gave him a hood for free and let him be an image spokesperson.
Children who talk a lot are generally more outgoing and more confident, and even if they come to an unfamiliar environment, they can integrate well and are often better at interpersonal communication.
Such children are more likely to succeed in the workplace in the future and more likely to achieve happiness in the family.
There is a mother on the Internet who recorded her daily routine with the 2-year-old baby before going to bed:
"Mom! Mom! ”
The little boy cried milky in the darkness.
"What's wrong?"
"I suddenly missed my father~"
"We'll be back in a few days"
"Daddy's not here, are you protecting me?"
"Of course I will protect you!"
"Kiss and hug me?"
"Okay, mua, okay?"
"Okay"
"Go to bed, good night!"
"Mom, good night~"
The mother always patiently replied to every word of the child, and the daily life of the two was warm and full of love.
In fact, if a child likes to talk nonsense with you, it just means that you are his most trusted and intimate person.
He is willing to share his feelings with you and let you participate in his inner little world.
Therefore, you must cherish the "nagging" child next to you, and your response is to build a bridge of trust and security in his heart.
Moreover, 0-6 years old is recognized as a sensitive period for children's language, and it is also the best period for language input.
The right guidance from parents can help shape his brain and future character development.
1. Acceptance and inclusion
Satisfy the child's desire to express during the language sensitive period, when the child does not stop, do not rudely interrupt him, which will not only frustrate his self-esteem, but also interrupt his desire to express.
But make an agreement with your child, don't talk freely in public, and strictly enforce it.
2. Active attention
Pay more attention to the child's emotional needs, accompany with your heart, and listen to the child's heart.
3. Positive guidance
Do not suppress the child's curiosity, desire to explore, when necessary to cooperate with him, guide him to think, you can also discuss some interesting topics with him.
This will further exercise the child's expression ability and activate the thinking ability.
I hope that we can all pay attention to the child with a sincere heart and listen carefully to his every word.
Click "like it", I believe that the time when the child and you are "nonsense" will also become your own, the most precious memory and happiness.