Wen 丨 Forest Mommy
Many viewers' impression of actor Haiqing stays on the image of "nagging mother" in the TV series, especially the sentence of "Little Joy" that trained his son Fang Yifan: "Why should I give birth to you, I am full of support", which simply plays the mother in the minds of many people into the wood.
You think she's acting so well, she must be such a mother in her life?
No, his son's egg girl is not very good, and she is not the tiger mother of the chicken baby in the TV series at all...
Even, she often teased herself as a stumbling block in her son's way forward.
Her son wants to write homework, and she advises her son to go out and play;
The son was fully prepared for the game, and he desperately tried to let his son relax, in short, the struggle between her and her son was completely opposite to the general parent-child struggle.
Haiqing's son is named Daniel in English, because the aunts and aunts of the community always call his name egg girl, so he has such a nickname.
Judging from the daily life that Haiqing has posted before, the egg girl is so good that people directly call it "someone else's child".
The English essays he wrote as a teenager made many college students ashamed of themselves;
A pencil drawing painted by the 10-year-old won an award and was also acquired for 30,000 pieces;
Also gifted in calligraphy;
He also likes to swim and has won 3 gold medals at the Los Angeles Swimming Competition in the United States;
Usually like to do handicrafts, often make some interesting gadgets...
What is even more envious is that the egg girl has never been pressed by her parents to do this, but because she likes it, is very self-controlled, and is very hardworking.
Take the high-speed train and also write homework;
The air conditioner is broken, take off the shirt and practice the cello;
You say, such a fairy child who does not like !!!
The son is so self-conscious, please do every day is:
Persuade the son to rest, persuade the son to play, persuade the son not to work so hard...
Then the son also said to his mother:
"I'll play with you after doing my homework in a while, you take a break first";
"Mom, you have to be patient and don't have negative feelings about homework"...
Mature to the point of not being like a child.
So, how did such a self-conscious son come up?
Recently, many people have turned out some fragments of Haiqing's previous interviews about his son, and we seem to have found the answer.
Wu Yue said that when Haiqing was pregnant, once they were in the parking lot, Haiqing wanted to say, "I have this child born, do I want him to stand there and say, eh, give me a bow"...
Can't remember the age of the child
"My son should be twelve, thirteen, fourteen by now..."
After talking about it, I feel outrageous, how old is my son?
Host: "Could it be fifteen?" ”
Experiment with your child
On the "Venus Show," Hae-ching told Venus that she sometimes experimented with children's reactions to many of her attitudes.
Venus wondered, "Try what?" He's your son, what's there to try? ”
Haiqing: "Curious, I haven't been a mother..."
Sure enough, having children is used to "play"...
The louder the child cries, the louder the mother laughs
Haiqing sent his child to kindergarten for the first time, other parents experienced such separation anxiety, the psychology was unbearable, and some fathers would secretly cry after sending their children.
Haiqing is different, she secretly ran to the side of the child's window, saw the child holding a cookie while crying and eating, she almost went crazy... Crazy... finish......
Train the child not to play well, start again
Of course, Haiqing also has times when he criticizes children.
Once the son accidentally followed the stranger, Haiqing thought that the matter was very serious, so he very severely quarreled with the child. As a result, after the argument, I felt that my emotions were not playing well, so I said to the child: "Mom start again!" ”
Son: "? ”
Why is the serious style of painting finally this trend? Probably an actor's instinct?
The teacher praised the child, and Haiqing was very sober and could repair the knife by hand
The egg girl learned to swim, and the teacher sent her a message that the child was swimming, and praised her child:
"The egg chicks are particularly smart and swim very fast! Always be able to swim first! “
Haiqing: "Just for the two of them to compete, can he swim first if he doesn't swim first?" ”
"The egg girl swimmed first in the group!"
Haiqing: "When I look at the photo, there are 6 women on the side who don't swim first, who swims first?" ”
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Hahaha, this is really a mother~
Perhaps, it is precisely because of this relaxed and free atmosphere of Haiqing's children that a self-reliant and sober child can be cultivated.
And the harder many of our parents work, the more rebellious the children become, losing interest in learning itself, and treating efforts as a painful thing.
There is such an episode in "Family with Children".
Liu Xing and his class engaged in an activity, so that the children in the class exchanged, found a classmate to live in his home for a few days, experienced the education methods of different families, and also let the parents exchange educational methods with each other.
Liu Xing and his good friend Mouse swap families.
In the eyes of mouse parents, Liu Xing's father is too indulgent to the child, resulting in the child's loose behavior and must be strictly educated.
After the mouse, who was often strictly disciplined by his parents, came to Liu Xing's house, he did not want to go back.
After getting up in the morning on the weekend, no one would care what he was going to do, Xia Donghai would not assign him tasks, requiring him to complete his homework at what time, and he was hanging around in the living room alone.
Want to go out with Xiaoxue, Xiaoxue has his own plan, wants to shout Xiaoyu to go out to play, Xiaoyu also has his own to play.
Xia Donghai asked him if he had his own plan, and he said no.
Because it was usually his parents who helped him arrange plans, when he was free, he didn't know what he should do...
This is the problem in many families, parents manage too much, children lose the ability to manage themselves, parents have too much expectation of their children's lives, children have no expectations for their own lives.