Introduction: In this world, the "Brother-in-Law Demons" are everywhere, but there are only high and low levels of depth. Especially in the countryside, due to the serious idea of son preference, many sisters are deeply bound and overwhelmed by their original families.
Their parents hope that they can hollow out their small homes to subsidize their brothers and take care of them for a lifetime. In addition to eating and drinking Lasa, parents also hope that they will pay for their brothers to marry and have children, and even their younger brothers and children will go to school to marry and have children.
In the eyes of parents, as a sister, you should help your brother, because your parents tried their best to cultivate their daughters to become talented, spending energy and money, so when the sister is doing well, she must repay her brother.
When the sisters were morally kidnapped by their parents, relatives and friends, although they were highly educated, they did not think that this kind of behavior of harming themselves and others was stupid, but they were tired of struggling and helplessly confessing their fate, like a top, constantly spinning under the whipping of their parents and brothers.
1, a great sister, more than twenty years as a day to help her brother
Liu Mei, 45, was recently tortured by her brother to the point of near-mental breakdown, needed to rely on sleeping pills every day to fall asleep, and even suffered from mild depression. And her brother spoke harshly to her all day and would not let her go home for the New Year.
Liu Mei's relationship with her younger brother Liu Jun was once very good. Liu Mei's eldest brother is 8 years old, because his parents often go to the field to do farm work, so when he was a child, Liu Mei helped take care of his brother and formed a deep relationship with his brother.
Liu Mei was very competitive in reading, graduated from high school and was admitted to a key university, and after graduating from college, she entered a large company to work. In order to thank her parents for their cultivation, Liu Mei sent almost all of her salary to her parents after work for their families and brothers to go to school.
In order to give her parents and brother a better life, Liu Mei spent her main energy on work, almost did not consider personal problems, and did not start a family at the age of 30. Due to her hard work and outstanding achievements, she was also highly regarded by the company's leaders and was gradually promoted to middle level leader.
Later, Liu Mei experienced a short marriage, but her ex-husband often quarreled because she constantly helped her brother, and eventually the two people were irreconcilably contradictory and divorced.
After the divorce, Liu Mei returned to the family, using the savings in her hand to help her brother build a beautiful villa in her hometown and buy a car for her brother. When her brother was in love, she often asked Liu Mei for money, she always had everything she needed, and even when her brother got married, she also helped her brother pay a lot of dowry to let her brother start a family happily.
The younger brother was grateful for his sister's help and had great respect for her.
2, the sister remarried, but the younger brother held a grudge
Because of having an excellent sister, Liu Junle is comfortable, unwilling to go to work, and has nothing to do every day.
In order to be able to afford the family's life after her brother's marriage, liu Mei, who was already an executive of the company at that time, took out a million annual salary and fixed 5,000 yuan to her brother every month. And when her brother reached out for money, she also did not refuse.
After the sister-in-law gave birth to the child, the younger brother's family expenses increased, and 5,000 yuan could not meet the needs of life. The sister-in-law asked her mother-in-law to call Liu Mei and asked her to arrange for Liu Jun to work at her company.
Considering the practical problems of his brother's family's life, Liu Mei took pains to arrange him to work in the company, which solved his worries.
When Liu Jun was in the company for a year, there was a leader in the department who left a position after the promotion, so he went to his sister, hoping that her sister could help him and let him get this position.
Liu Mei is very aware of his brother's ability, and he also knows that he usually works as a hanging child Lang Dang, coupled with the management system of the jealous company, so he did not help him.
When he saw that his favorite position was next to him, Liu Jun found his sister and was furious with her, and his words were extremely ugly. Seeing that his brother was angry, Liu Mei kept comforting him, letting him work with peace of mind and have a chance in the future. But Liu Jun finally left his job angrily, and said that his sister was useless in front of his parents.
In order to show her guilt, Liu Mei continued to transfer a lot of living expenses to her brother every month.
At the age of 44, Liu Mei met Zhang Tao, who was similar in age and divorced. Zhang Tao finally touched her with persistence and meticulous care, and the two decided to remarry.
When Liu Jun learned the news of his sister's remarriage, he was not only not happy that his sister had found happiness for the second half of her life, but held a grudge in his heart.
3, the younger brother is insatiable, the sister is overwhelmed
Liu Jun, who has nothing to do at home, falls in love with gambling and owes a lot of gambling debts, and his wife is extremely disappointed in him and is ready to divorce him.
Seeing this, her mother called Liu Mei and asked her to help her brother so that his wife would not be separated. Liu Mei consulted with her husband, hoping to help her brother. Zhang Tao felt that Liu Jun was in too much debt, and if he helped him pay off all his debts, he would certainly not know how to repent, so it was better to let him receive an education on his own.
At Liu Mei's insistence, Zhang Tao sold his car and transferred the sale price to Liu Jun, asking him to repay part of the gambling debts. However, after Liu Jun received the money, he not only did not express gratitude, but also scolded his brother-in-law, believing that he was doing something to prevent his sister from giving him money. Moreover, he also said that Zhang Tao's purpose of marrying his sister was not pure, and it was his sister's money.
Zhang Tao told Liu Jun's original words to Liu Mei, and Liu Mei kept crying after listening to them, and after that, she often had insomnia at night and needed to rely on drugs to fall asleep.
It didn't take long for the New Year to come, and Liu Mei prepared some gifts to tell her mother the news of returning home. Unexpectedly, after his brother heard it next to him, he angrily rebuked her and warned her not to come back for the New Year, otherwise he would want her to look good.
In order to alleviate the contradiction with her brother and eliminate the misunderstanding between them, Liu Mei finally decided to go home with her husband. After returning home, Liu Mei asked the village committee to mediate, but when the mediator contacted Liu Jun, he refused to attend, saying that he did not have any fault, and all the responsibility was caused by his sister not giving him money.
Looking at her wholehearted dedication for more than 20 years, in exchange for her brother's determination, Liu Mei finally realized the seriousness of the problem. Under the enlightenment of the mediator, Liu Mei finally decided to cut off all financial support from his brother and let him get rid of the idea of dependence, perhaps so that he could learn to grow on his own and become a man who stood tall in the sky.
Conclusion: "Dou Mi Yang En, Bear Rice Raises Vengeance" Can become the most reasonable quote because it sharply points out human nature!
There is nothing wrong with kindness, it depends on who it is used for. If a person is grateful, and when he cannot help him for a while, then someone helps him, then he will remember the kindness of others for the rest of his life; and if a person is lazy and does not think of making progress, who often helps him, may raise an enemy.
Whether it is relatives or friends, in your difficult times, they can help each other, it is a kind of affection, and if they can't help you, it is also a duty, and you can't hold a grudge because of it.
If you always take the good of others for granted, it is an extremely selfish thought. In this real society, after all, no one owes anyone anything, and if you always take and don't give, you will be spurned.
Like Liu Mei in the text, they are often kind-hearted, do not know how to refuse, in order not to be blamed by their parents as "white-eyed wolves", they often give everything. They are tied up, using the only savings to fill the bottomless hole of the original family, and eventually they are exhausted and overwhelmed.
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