Mei Ling, the mother of three children: "I haven't bought beautiful clothes in ten years." ”

Among the people who are preparing to have three children, Zhou Meiling is a more representative type of person——— with a medium income, with the traditional concept of "many children and many blessings", and hopes that multiple children in the family will be more lively. In the obstetrics department of the Third People's Hospital of Guangzhou, 31-year-old Meiling has been a little anxious these days. Just a week earlier, she had just been transferred here from another hospital, where doctors told her that she was starting to experience symptoms of broken amniotic fluid at 15 weeks pregnant, and advised her to give up on keeping her baby. At that time, meiling was frightened and pale. Her first thought was that she was almost 4 months pregnant, and during these 4 months, he vomited violently all day, ate badly, did not sleep well, and spent every day in groggy or intermittent sleep. After 4 months of "purgatory" like this, and now telling her that this child may not be saved, she really can't accept this result. Later, she heard that the Third Hospital of Guangdong Medical College was very experienced in the treatment of maternal difficult diseases, so she transferred here. After going to the hospital for examination, the doctor told Mei Ling that she did not have symptoms of breaking amniotic fluid for the time being, and all the signs of the fetus were normal, and her emotions were restored to calm down.

In 2015, Mei Ling got married. She gave birth to a daughter in the same year. In 2017, Wang Xue gave birth to her second child, a son. In 2019, Mei Ling was unexpectedly pregnant, but because she was not ready at the time, she had to choose a medical abortion. At that time, she was working in a factory in Huazhou, at that time she did not know that she was pregnant, the unit organized a physical examination, she went to participate, and also took X-rays, and during that time she often stayed up late, and took medicine when she was sick. At that time, she was very worried that the child was born unhealthy, so she chose the medicine stream when the child was not very young.

Mei Ling admitted that at the beginning, her willingness to have three children was not so strong. Because my two children were caesarean sections, if I became pregnant for the third time, if the gestational sac was implanted on the uterine scar, it would be very dangerous. The doctor told her that once this happened, she needed to terminate the pregnancy immediately and operate on it in time. The risk of scar pregnancy is very large, if not treated in time, it will cause heavy bleeding, which is life-threatening for pregnant women, so it is necessary to perform surgery in time.

Mei Ling admitted that although giving birth to three children is a planned thing, in fact, this time giving birth to three children, she is not fully prepared, and the pregnancy is still a bit sudden. In fact, Mei Ling's parents are not too supportive of their own birth of the Three Treasures. Because most of the two children are now the mothers helping to take care of them, Mei Ling obviously feels that just taking care of these two children, the mother has aged a circle in the past 3 years. Before she was pregnant, her mother reminded her. "Weigh and weigh." Her father also reminded her: "Can you afford to be born?" ”

I haven't bought new clothes in ten years for the "sweet burden."

Married for 6 years, 3 pregnancies, and giving birth to two children, Mei Ling knows the damage to her body caused by giving birth to a child. When the first child was born, when she was confined, her mother felt sorry for her, so that she could sleep well, took the child to her own residence to take care of it, and only when the child drank milk, she was sent to her side to feed. After giving birth to her first child, she felt out of shape and sallow. When she gave birth to her second child, she had not yet fully recovered from the physical damage of the first child. 3 months after childbirth, the baby is also very noisy, in order to save money, the whole family did not invite the sister-in-law, she did not sleep well at night, three months later, her dark circles and wrinkles are getting heavier. The original smooth lower abdomen will also appear to have extra flesh and will grow unacceptable stretch marks. Coupled with the caesarean section, after a few months of rest after giving birth, she still felt pain all over her body, and after giving birth to two children, she obviously felt that her physical condition was much worse than before. "People say they have a child 10 years old, and they really feel that way."

The two children have not yet pulled up, and Mei Ling is about to usher in her third child. When she told her parents about the pregnancy, they weren't surprised. The mother said lightly, "Since you are pregnant, let it be born naturally." ”

During the time when Mei Ling was pregnant, her mother was busy. In addition to sending a 6-year-old granddaughter to school every day, she also has to take care of her 4-year-old grandson to kindergarten, and once she encounters a child with a cold and fever, the elderly are busy. During her hospitalization, her mother called and scolded him. "She was so busy and tired that she called me and told me that she had a baby and didn't bring it herself, which bothered her to get up early every day and die of greed and exhaustion."

The children are lined up to be born, exhausting the mother's time and energy, and for the father of the child, three children is also a sweet burden. MeiLing and his wife's childcare expenses are increasing day by day, and the burden falls on the shoulders of their husbands. Since pregnancy, her husband has only visited herself once from Dongguan, including her transfer from the provincial women's and children's hospital to the Third Hospital of Guangzhou Medical College, her husband has not appeared, in order to save money, she came by subway by herself. With only two children, she has not bought new clothes for ten years, and her clothes are all stalls bought for more than ten or twenty yuan. "Sometimes when I see other post-90s on the street, dressed up beautifully, I am very envious." I am also a post-90s ah. But there is no way, the cost of the three treasures after birth is even greater. If you can save, you can save. Mei Ling has been hospitalized for ten days, and every day, she eats takeaway food delivered by the hospital to pregnant women, which makes her miss her mother's meals a little. Sometimes she feels sad when she thinks that she is 4 months pregnant and even hospitalized alone. She didn't blame her husband, because he knew that if he gave up the work at hand to take care of him, he wouldn't have the income to support the family.

Text/Guangzhou Daily, New Flower City Reporter: Xiao Huanhuan

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Guangzhou Daily New Flower City Editor: Cai Lingyue