Wife, wife, old companion. Think about that picture, walking hand in hand on the seashore, the sunset stretching your figure, such a scene, is not very warm. However, in reality, there are very few.
I've seen a lot of young couples hugging each other on the street. But I am not envious, but the faltering old man, they are supporting, walking slowly and leisurely, I feel very warm.
Because in them, I saw the traces left by the years, and the way they still loved each other after they fought against impermanence, this feeling has experienced the baptism of time, and it seems to be particularly radiant and particularly attractive. finish.
As the song sings, "The most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you..." If you can get your wish, life is also happy, but unfortunately, there are too many couples who love each other in reality, and they can't stay together until the white head, but they have to endure the pain of life and death in the middle.
I know an old man who has been retired for many years and has nothing to do, so he loves to carry him a birdcage and hang out in the park below the community. I saw that he was particularly like my grandfather, so I developed a sense of intimacy and took the initiative to greet him warmly.
After seeing each other more often, the old man gradually let down his guard against me and talked to me about the length of the family. I was curious to ask him why he didn't see his lover, because other old men and wives would walk together.
The old man sighed with some sadness that time passed so quickly, and he did not realize that his lover had been away from him for more than ten years. Hearing this, I quickly apologized to him and asked questions for my inappropriateness.
The old man was more frank, saying that he had long been accustomed to it, that it was impossible for people to be immersed in the sadness of the past and that it was difficult to get out, and that those who left were completely gone, but those who survived still had to live well.
In an instant, I was touched, like a fish in the throat, not knowing how to answer the call. The old man went on to say that after the unexpected death of his lover, he was only in his early fifties, and his relatives and friends around him all gave him a remarriage partner.
However, he did not plan to remarry, first of all, he did not have the mind to start a new relationship, but also had to adapt, run into each other, he had no such idea. Second, he felt that the life in front of him was still very good, and there was no need to find someone to serve.
To be honest, I was shocked by the honesty of the old man, knowing that many people, after experiencing the pain of widowhood, will quickly enter a new marriage to get rid of the pain.
I'm noncommittal, and there's no right or wrong. In fact, the old man can completely, compared to many people, his conditions are much better. Humorous and funny, and a stable job, it can be said that as long as it is not too profligate, the rest of your life is worry-free.
But after some thought, he decided to give up remarriage. In order to relieve the pain of widowhood, he cultivated the habit of walking birds, and he had some words in his heart, and if he wanted to say them to his lover, he would tell them to the bird.
For him, it doesn't matter whether he is married or not, what is important is to be happy. Because he knows that at his age, he has seen through the feelings, there is no so-called love, only calculation and use, rather than this, it is better to live alone.
After saying that, the old uncle saw that I was confused, did not understand his decision, and specially told me the story of his good buddy Old Li. Old Li, his comrade-in-arms for many years, also experienced the pain of widowhood, but he did not hold back, but instead formed a family in a hurry.
Under the introduction of well-meaning people, Old Li met Aunt Huang, and at the first sight of her, Old Li felt that Aunt Huang was very suitable for living a life, because she was too virtuous and could make a table of good dishes, and could make Old Li, who had a good face, grow a face in front of his friends.
So, his mind was hot, and he took Aunt Huang's mother and daughter to live with him. Aunt Huang's daughter, in high school, already understands the difference between men and women, although quite resistant to old Li, but also knows that people have to bow their heads under the eaves, so the mouth is particularly sweet, chasing old Li shouted daddy, which makes old Li Dun feel happy.
But old Li is not stupid, in the middle of the night, he will think carefully about since receiving Aunt Huang's mother and daughter, his life is moist, enjoy the feeling of being served, but the numbers in his bank card have never risen.
Old Li, who has always been shrewd and accustomed, did not dare to express his thoughts in front of Aunt Huang, so he had to secretly tell the old uncle, of course, he only complained about it, you know to ask a nanny to serve, it is far more than this price, and it can not have such a good service.
Although Old Li is distressed about money, his heart is like a mirror, and he knows that they have their own plans for each other. Aunt Huang wants to rely on Old Li to support her daughter to go to college, and Old Li enjoys the comfort of being cared for and served by her.
It was not until Aunt Huang's daughter graduated from college that the original balance was broken, and Aunt Huang also left him fiercely. Since then, Old Li has resumed his usual life of living alone, suddenly feeling uncomfortable and desolate.
I asked the old man, are you afraid that you will be like Old Li, but in the end you will end up in a chicken and egg fight? The old man did not explain, but said silently, I am now 64 years old, and there is not much time to toss.
He sincerely stated that he did have concerns, worried that remarriage would make the original family unstable, because as long as they remarried, they were legally legal couples, and their property would be divided.
The old man with a pension, his current life, living enough moist and dashing, is not willing to remarry, add trouble to himself and his children, he has a more selfish idea, just want to find a wife to live together, will never remarry.
I think the old man's ideas are very self-interested, but they are not humane enough. If you think about it, people have to serve you, they have to spend time and energy, but in the end there is nothing, so there is no guarantee of the relationship, for the woman, it is particularly unfair.
The old man seemed to see my thoughts, and asked me if he was particularly self-interested, a delicate egoist. I smiled and explained that this is also the common sentiment of people, which is completely understandable.
After all, the matter of feelings is jiang taigong fishing, and the willing person is hooked. Especially at the age of the old man, what they pursue is no longer pure feelings, but more of a comfortable mode of getting along.
There is no right or wrong, and there is no room for blame, but what I want to say is that if everyone were so self-interested, would there still be pure love in the world?
What is love? Love is involuntarily for you thousands of times, but in reality, many of us in the name of love, but do the work of calculation and use.
In the name of loving you, do some exquisite acts of self-interest. Such love is not called love, nor is it worthy of love. This is also why I will not sympathize with those old people, after living with women for a period of time, women wake up one day, choose to leave, and finally end up alone in a miserable end.
Because in the beginning, they did not deliver all the sincerity, more of a calculation and use. Such egoism is no wonder that it will be abandoned, because no one is stupid, knowing that when they have no use value, they will definitely be abandoned.
Instead of waiting for that day to come, it is better to plan in advance and leave on your own initiative, rather than being abandoned and hurt in the end. I also finally understood why people who are too shrewd and live a transparent life often find it difficult to get love.
It's not that they're not good enough, or they're not good enough, it's just that they're good, and they're good, but they're not pure enough, they're exquisite egoists, and that's the real culprit.
I sincerely hope that when we pursue love, we are from the heart, without calculation and use, but purely want to be with each other, just because it is the other person, and not anything else.