Text: Demon Wolf Voice: Doraemon
In your perception, if two people quarrel, is it not the person who bows his head first, it must be wrong?
When I was a child, I always felt that quarrels must be won, and only when quarrels are won can we prove that we are right and that it is someone else who is wrong.
However, in the world of feelings, is winning really that important?
If you really love someone, will you feel that winning the other person is a great sense of accomplishment?
Next door lived a young couple who had just married, and the two of them often quarreled, but the quarrels were short-lived.
The wife is the kind of personality that is particularly angry, often uncomfortable with some trivial things in life, such as the husband who forgot to take the garbage bag at the door when he went out in the morning, or started eating without washing his hands when he came home.
And the husband is the kind of character who knows how to read and does not like to quarrel.
Therefore, every time the wife is angry, the husband always speaks two sentences of truth first, and when he finds that he cannot argue with the other party, he will immediately admit his mistake, and then a person is sullen and unhappy.
When the wife saw that she had won the quarrel, the resentment dissipated.
After a long time, my wife also wondered why she could gain the upper hand every time she quarreled? Is he really very eloquent?
But her husband said to her: "I have never felt that I have lost, quarreling, is a process, but this process can not be too long, otherwise the feelings will be scattered, quarrel, you win, happy is good, I don't care about winning or losing, I care about you." ”
At that time, the wife realized that she could win because her husband never cared about winning or losing.
In a relationship, what does it matter if you win or lose?
No one likes to compromise, some compromise, not because you're strong enough, but because someone doesn't want you to lose.
After all, love is not a competition, there is no need to rank, and there is no need to compare anything.
Two people, you give more, I get less, your dissatisfaction continues to accumulate, my resentment continues to increase, what good is this?
If there is a person who is destined to bow his head first, then the person who bows his head truly understands what love is.
Love is companionship, care, cherishing, not control.
Probably, you will feel that one person is willing to be bullied by another person, is this not very silly?
If you really think so, it proves that you have not really loved someone.
If you have him in your heart, you will understand that as long as you can get the love of the other party, sometimes it is not a big deal to give in appropriately.
The most important thing about loving someone is to fulfill the other person's happiness, not to vent your own emotions.
In a good marriage, there is often a fool who voluntarily suffers losses.
Some people, who look silly, can firmly grasp what they care about most.
Now, do you still think that in the relationship, winning or losing is important?
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