I have always felt that a person's face is not a big problem, even if it is a swollen face and fat, as long as it does not affect others, you are happy, it is not a big problem. But if a person wants face, he knows that he has taken advantage of himself and taken advantage of the benefits, but he still demeans the other party. And not once or twice, but also regardless of the occasion, say something that embarrasses the other party and thus elevates himself. That kind of face will eventually make you suffer a big loss.
Aunt Li Xiujuan's house at the head of the village is two bungalows, sandwiched between the three-storey small bungalows of the left and right neighbors, which looks very abrupt. There are happy words posted on the window, today is the wedding of her son Wang Xiaowei, the room that should be full of smiles, now only Li Xiujuan's angry scolding, she accuses her daughter-in-law Zhang Qian of giving face to face. Wang Xiaowei was helpless, although he helped his mother speak in front of Zhang Qian, he knew in his heart that it was indeed his mother's mistake.
Wang Xiaowei's family is very poor, Li Xiujuan and his wife are really magical, although many old people have many children and many blessings, and they will enjoy life by their children in the future. But it is generally known that we must first raise children well before we can have a future. But Li Xiujuan's two sons are not like this, the two are very lazy, otherwise they would not be rich in the village, his family is getting poorer and poorer. To put it simply, if it were not for Wang Xiaowei's own struggle, his job after graduating from college would be good, and Li Xiujuan's two sons would not even be able to live in a bungalow now.
It is strange to say that it is such two people, clear-eyed people can see what kind of economic conditions, Li Xiujuan two mouths, actually want face. From time to time, Li Xiujuan told others that she had money at home, but she just didn't want to build a house, but she just liked bungalows. They are all villagers, and everyone is too lazy to debunk, so they let Li Xiujuan and her two sons brag every day, and there is no loss to each other anyway.
Wang Xiaowei actually communicated with his parents about this matter, Wang Xiaowei means to be honest and not to brag, but he is intimidated every time. The number of times, he did not bother to say, after all, it was his own parents, and some words were not easy to say. Wang Xiaowei and Zhang Qian met at work, Zhang Qian's family is very well-off, if it is through the form of blind date, the two people will not meet under any circumstances. But at first, Li Xiujuan did not know Zhang Qian's family situation, so she thought that Zhang Qian had climbed her son.
After all, Li Xiujuan hoped that Wang Xiaowei could marry a native of the village, marry a delicate girl in the city, with a thin body, and would not be able to bear children in the future. All this dissatisfaction, she even expressed it in front of Zhang Qian's face. It can only be said that Zhang Qian really likes Wang Xiaowei and chooses to be patient, otherwise she would have broken up long ago. However, Li Xiujuan soon smiled at Zhang Qian, the daughter-in-law-to-be, because she learned about Zhang Qian's family conditions from her son.
Although Li Xiujuan likes to brag and like to punch a swollen face and be fat, she is not stupid. Naturally, she knew how much benefit she could bring to herself if she had a well-to-do family. So she immediately changed her face, and her attitude towards Zhang Qian was much better. After Zhang Qian knew the reason, she was naturally speechless, but she did not expect that there was something more outrageous behind her, plus Wang Xiaowei had been saying good things, and Zhang Qian finally chose to compromise.
In this way, the love between the two, because of Li Xiujuan's various strong show presence, has always been bumpy. And with the increase of time spent together, Zhang Qian feels more and more that her future mother-in-law is unreliable. As an elder, even if you are particularly lazy, you are not ready to nibble on the old. But why do you like to brag so much? And it is still stepping on Zhang Qian's bragging. Her love affair with Wang Xiaowei is obviously Wang Xiaowei's pursuit of her. In the mouth of the future mother-in-law, it is her own son's poor girl.
The reason why the mother-in-law said this is very simple, because the neighbors on the left and right all think that Wang Xiaowei has climbed Zhang Qian. In order not to lose face, Li Xiujuan could only belittle Zhang Qian. There are many such things, but because of feelings, because of Wang Xiaowei's various comforts, Zhang Qian is depressed, and can only choose to be patient and turn the page. After two years of love, the two began to talk about marriage, and we all know that it is impossible to talk about marriage without involving the bride price and dowry.
But Wang Xiaowei's family situation is here, although his salary is not low, but to raise no savings, no work, and even spend a lot of money on his parents, it is conceivable that nothing can be taken out. Zhang Qian tried to persuade her parents that in the end, there was no bride price, and the cost of the wedding was also borne by the woman, even the marriage room, Zhang Qian was also ready to accompany the marriage.
In other words, this marriage, all the things related to money, are undertaken by Zhang Qian and her mother's family. It is reasonable to say that it is really a very good family to discuss, and Wang Xiaowei's parents should be grateful and should be better for Zhang Qian. But all this after talking about marriage and marriage, funny things came, and Wang Xiaowei was even more incapable of preventing his mother from stepping on Zhang Qian and Zhang Qian's parents and bragging, and finally messed up the marriage.
At the beginning of the marriage discussion, Zhang Qian also learned from the neighbors of the mother-in-law's house that she did not want the bride price, but the mother-in-law said that she wanted a 100,000 bride price and had already got it. The neighbors actually didn't believe it at first, but everyone didn't expect that Li Xiujuan would even lie and brag about this kind of thing, so she was half-convinced, and finally asked Zhang Qian about the hilarious mentality. Zhang Qian was very dazed at the time, but she still did not answer positively and made a perfunctory one.
In the face of questioning, Wang Xiaowei admitted that his mother did say this to others, he said: "My mother is worried that others say that we are married, the man is not a dime, too humiliating, you understand, don't worry about the elders." Zhang Qian cried and laughed, she is not poor and loves rich, she can accept that the man does not pay, but she really cannot accept talking nonsense. Not to mention that this matter has not yet been resolved, Zhang Qian learned that her dowry room has also become bought by the man. Naturally, these words also came out of Li Xiujuan's mouth.
No matter how Wang Xiaowei persuaded, Zhang Qian was unwilling to hide it, she didn't care whether her in-laws had money or not, but she couldn't accept the payment of her mother-in-law's parents for herself, and became the payment of her in-laws. Because of Zhang Qian's insistence, in the end, Wang Xiaowei and Zhang Qian communicated with Li Xiujuan about this matter. In order not to lose this daughter-in-law, although Li Xiujuan was reluctant, she still promised to tell the truth about the dowry.
Zhang Qian was relieved, thinking that these things could be completely turned over, but she did not expect that her mother-in-law had given her a big move at the wedding. Although Li Xiujuan superficially agreed, she was very angry in her heart, her son got married, her family did not provide anything, others will definitely think that their son has become a door-to-door son-in-law, which is too humiliating. But what to do? If you don't follow Zhang Qian's meaning now, the wedding is estimated to be canceled, she thought and thought, actually think that saying something at the wedding, the daughter-in-law riding the tiger is difficult, there will be no bad results.
So on the wedding day, the parents of both sides talked, Zhang Qian's parents gave enough face to the family, did not mention the dowry at all, originally the local wedding ceremony, there is this process. But who could have imagined that Li Xiujuan took the initiative to mention it, and this time she admitted that her daughter-in-law did not ask for a bride price, and also accompanied the marriage room. But she said her daughter-in-law was willing to do so because her son was good enough. If the words were only here, there might be room for maneuver, but unfortunately Li Xiujuan continued to speak.
She said a bunch of things, and in the end, everyone could hear what Li Xiujuan meant, Zhang Qianshang was in a hurry to get married, and she would not want a bride price and accompany the wedding room. She turned the compromise that Zhang Qian made for her feelings into a stalker. She forgot that others want face too. Zhang Qian's parents were on fire at that time, Zhang Qian's mentality also completely collapsed, and the previous grievances broke out at this moment. She blushed and was silent for a while, indicating that the wedding was canceled, the wedding banquet should not be wasted, and everyone would continue to eat, just as a friend's dinner.
Then she left with her parents and relatives and friends of her mother's family, and when she got home, she proposed to break up, fortunately she had not yet received a marriage license, or she was divorced. Why didn't Wang Xiaowei chase him out at the first time? Because until Zhang Qian said that the wedding was canceled, Li Xiujuan was still thinking about her face, if her son chased out, her words would be punched in the face, so she pulled her son. After she went back, she would rather curse Zhang Qian in various ways, thinking that Zhang Qian had humiliated her, rather than let her son save it.
People want face trees and skins, in fact, it is really normal to be human and want face. But the premise is not to belittle others, and face is earned by one's own real ability, not by mouth. To be a person, you must know how to be grateful, even if you don't have the ability to return, even if you don't want to return, then the lowest bottom line should be gratitude. You have to remember the other party's compromise, know what the other party is for, if the other party because of the emotional effort, into a stepping stone for you to face, then don't blame others for moving the stone for you.