After the release of the movie "Love Myth", many people commented that this is the most "spiritual" movie in 2021.
The spirit is in the story creation itself.
Spirit fireworks in Shanghai.
More spiritual in three heroines with distinct personalities.
Among them, including Ni Hongjie, who once again walked into the audience's sight with a classic role after "Wishing Peerless".
In this movie, Gloria, played by Ni Hongjie, is positioned as having money, idleness, and her husband is missing.
But what is more dramatic than the drama is that Ni Hongjie outside the movie - no money, no leisure, no husband.
But that was 23 years ago.
01.
Not long ago, when Ni Hongjie was interviewed, she generously admitted that she was not single:
"Divorced, with children, in love now."
Don't look at this sentence for eleven words, the story that unfolds from this is hugely informative.
Let's start with her first marriage.
In 1999, Ni Hongjie, who was only 21 years old at the time, had no money and no house, and could only live in her aunt's house in Shanghai.
The life under the fence, presumably everyone who has experienced it understands, caution and unhappiness, that is the norm.
Ni Hongjie's unhappiness mainly comes from the uncle who lives with her.
Uncle Da likes to drink, a drunken gaffe, noisy to enter Ni Hongjie's room, the situation is so serious that the knife sees blood.
Fortunately, the boyfriend at the time rushed to the scene at the most critical time and avoided the tragedy, and it was also at that time that Ni Hongjie's mother told her:
"You can't live together when you talk about friends, you can live in the past, or you can get married."
Stills from the TV series "Second Life"
Mother's words, Ni Hongjie listened to it, and she was moved.
In her opinion, the boyfriend is seven years older than her, can cook, is also interesting, and looks very reliable.
She may not have loved him.
But with peace of mind, it is enough.
So, in the early autumn of that year, in the wedding dress city next to the Suzhou bus station, Ni Hongjie spent two hundred yuan to buy two sets of wedding dresses.
A set of reds.
A set of white.
Put them on and think it's been delivered for a lifetime.
Where would you think that a lifetime is so short, only 13 years.
02.
After entering marriage, those problems that cannot be detected when in love and will only appear when getting married begin to slowly be exposed.
Ni Hongjie found that her husband was hardworking and hardworking, but too macho. He hoped that Ni Hongjie would give up her job and be a clean wife and take care of their little family wholeheartedly.
Unexpectedly, Ni Hongjie did not agree.
And this is just the beginning, the husband is a person who has his own ideas, and it is not easy to change, he thought of starting a business.
Entrepreneurship is not a bad thing, as a wife, Ni Hongjie of course fully supports.
She sold the money she had saved for filming and the house her mother had bought for her in Shanghai in the early years, and scraped together about three million to develop her husband's career.
Unfortunately, it failed.
Not only is the money gone, but a huge amount of money is owed.
In order to repay the money, the husband took Ni Hongjie, who is a star, borrowed money everywhere and signed everywhere...
As we all know, money is a contradiction.
It can make a family happy, but it can also easily destroy a family.
Ni Hongjie's family was crumbling because of it.
Such a sad day for money has passed until 2009, and they ushered in the last turning point in their marriage: Ni Hongjie was pregnant.
What Ni Hongjie did not expect was that the turnaround she thought was actually an opportunity to leave her husband.
When she was pregnant, there was still no money in the family, so she was reluctant to eat or wear.
But what about husbands?
Casually at the table, a loss is more than ten thousand.
There are many similar things, quarrels have become commonplace in the family, and even in one quarrel, the husband mentioned divorce.
- Divorce.
These two words suddenly made Ni Hongjie wake up.
Yeah, what's the point of living like this?
If it is so painful to be together, why do you have to tie up for a lifetime?
Ni Hongjie wanted to open, but her husband regretted it, in order to let the other party agree to divorce, Ni Hongjie told him: "You chase me again, and then we are together again, but the premise is that now you have to divorce me." ”
The first half of the sentence is a lie.
The second half of the sentence is the truth.
03.
What Ni Hongjie did not expect again was that divorce was only the first step to liberation.
In the days that followed, she realized that what she had signed before was not a word, but a trap: she owed ten million to the bank, and her bank card, house, and car were frozen, so she was on the list of untrustworthiness.
The only fortunate thing is that the ex-husband did not become a handshaker.
In desperation, Ni Hongjie can only repay the money with her ex-husband...
The days of paying back money have been very difficult, but in the end it is still over, and now Ni Hongjie has money and drama, and there are also lovers around.
Yes, she was in love again.
The first marriage was dramatic, and the love after the marriage ended, just as dramatic.
In the TV series "The Legend of Wulin", Tong Said this sentence:
"This fate between the two of you turned out to be because of the cat."
It is a coincidence that in reality, Ni Hongjie and her new boyfriend met, also because of cats.
Ni Hongjie likes cats, and her new boyfriend also likes to tease cats: "Cats have too much to talk about, and they can't finish talking." ”
No, chatting, we talked together.
For this fate, Ni Hongjie is not sure how far she can go with the other party.
She just knew it all too well:
This time, there was a feeling of love.
04.
Divorced.
Have children.
In love.
Ni Hongjie's emotional life gives people a feeling that if they don't make a sound, they have become a blockbuster.
Because of this, once exposed, #Ni Hongjie talked about feelings # quickly appeared on Weibo's hot search, causing a lot of hot discussion.
Some say she does big things in a muffled voice.
Some say her spring is coming.
More people felt unworthy for her and scolded her ex-husband.
There are also a small number of people who speak for their ex-husbands, in their words, marriage is two-sided, can not only be the same happiness, but can not share the pain, right?
Indeed it is.
As the saying goes: Husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, and they fly separately in the face of great trouble.
Although it is a common saying, it is generally said with irony and derogatory meaning.
But what I want to say is that between husband and wife, there should be common suffering, but common suffering is also conditional.
Conceal the arrears and let the wife sign with the star identity to borrow money;
After the wife became pregnant, she still did not pay for the family and was still extravagant;
......
Which of these can achieve the conditions of common suffering?
A similar situation reminds me of Li Ping, played by Qin Hailu in "Xiao Min's House".
Husband Hong Wei was imprisoned for the company's financial problems, Li Ping did not approve of her husband's approach, but in order to share the hardships, after her husband was imprisoned, she still worked tirelessly to take care of the aftermath for him.
However, what is in return for Li Ping?
The husband not only broke the law, but also cheated on him long ago, raising illegitimate children abroad in order to inherit the so-called family business. After he was imprisoned, he still thought of letting Li Ping see that for the sake of so many years of feelings, he would help him bring his child to China...
Fortunately, whether it is Ni Hongjie or Li Ping, they all decisively stop loss when it is time to stop loss.
And they also told us with their own biological experience:
The same happiness and suffering in marriage only applies to the right people, the people who deserve it.
I thought of a line from "The Myth of Love":
"Women always think too much in love, and men always think too little."
Not really.
People live a lifetime, don't be too embarrassed about yourself.
Relax a little.
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