I don't know if everyone has found that more and more excellent women have chosen to be single. It is not that their conditions are not good enough, but that they are unwilling to take risks, and love someone wholeheartedly, but in the end they find that they are touched by themselves from beginning to end, how desolate and sad.
Maybe some people are confused, women who have been single for a long time, really don't need men? You know, there are many moments in life that need men to help, such as some hard work. Girls are inherently weak and need to be cared for by men.
However, some women, they live a very hard life, no longer need the help of men. Former colleague Li Jie, a 34-year-old leftover woman, is usually busy with work and does not have time to talk about love.
We all laughed at her, and she was not too old, and if she didn't hurry to start a family, it would be even more difficult to estimate a few years later. Unexpectedly, she said with a relaxed face that she was quite satisfied with her current life and did not need the appearance of men.
Because of her work, she needs to work overtime a lot and travels to various places. However, recently affected by the epidemic, the opportunity to go out is much less, but it is still busy. Sometimes, when I go home, it's past ten o'clock, just wash up, and the day has passed.
She confessed that she has maintained this high-intensity rhythm all these years, and she really has no time and energy to fall in love, nor does she have the idea to get married, and she feels accustomed to the days of living alone.
In fact, the reason why many people are puzzled is that they believe that women are weak, many aspects of life, will face some challenges, if there are men around, it will be much easier, at least not so tired.
Sister Li told me that the physical fatigue is fine, but the most feared thing is the mental sleepiness. Before that, she had a relationship, and her boyfriend was younger than her, more playful, and less motivated.
After a period of perseverance, she found that they were not the same person, so they broke up decisively. She hasn't been in a relationship since, and now it seems that it was her first love, and it ended so sloppily.
She also admits that although her work is busy and she does not have time to think wildly, she will also be wrapped up in a certain emotion at night, but she has learned self-control and gradually adapted.
In her planning, boyfriend is not a necessity, the house is. This is her safe place and the source of motivation for her struggle. Through these years of hard work, she has lived the life she expected and become more and more stable.
For her, feelings are the icing on the cake. Even if there are some small problems, she will not be wronged, compromised or will be, she does not want to live that unhappy life, life is short, need to have fun.
Of course, her happiness, there are other ways to satisfy, not necessarily to have the company of a boyfriend. It can be a comfortable slump on the couch and watching a good movie, or it can be a good meal with good sisters, or it can be a trip to the place alone.
However, happiness needs financial support. When your life is difficult, even if you have a caring boyfriend, you will feel powerless. Those women who have been single for a long time, their physical and mental strength is relatively strong, and they can face the suffering in life alone.
Some people say that there are ten levels of loneliness in life. Women who have been single for a long time, they have all experienced, may not adapt at the beginning, or will collapse and cry, want to have a shoulder to rely on, but after crying, they will recognize the reality, only their own strength, can be invincible.
In these years, it is better to rely on anyone than on yourself. Women who have been single for a long time will live a little colder than those who are experienced in love, and they know clearly that what they want, they have to do their best, and they will never rely on others.
Of course, they also know that it will be much easier to have men to help, but at the same time they will take risks, they are unwilling to face, after the full delivery, they found that the other party did not care so much, not so powerful. Not only can you not help yourself, but even drag yourself down, it is better to remain single.
Good feelings must grow and nourish each other. It's just that in reality, such love is too rare, more of a calculation and use. Instead of finding someone to suffer, it is better to bear the bitterness yourself.
If people do not expect, they will not be hurt. Although long-term singleness will have some bitterness, there is also its joy and beauty. Everything needs to be divided into two and looked at dialectically.
When it comes to women who have been single for a long time, many people will think for the first time that if there are fewer men, it is like flowers are less moistened by rain. Actually, this idea is wrong. You know, there are thousands of ways for a person to obtain the nourishment of life, and it is not necessary to obtain it from men.
Sister Li confessed to me that although she has been single for a long time, she does not feel bitter, because she has her own hobbies and her own way to relieve loneliness, which is really too much to worry about compared to a bad relationship.
She has leisure time, either for self-improvement and growth, or for self-entertainment and entertainment, and there is no possibility of wasting time, because time is really too precious for her, and she needs to maximize its benefits.
Although good love can also make people feel happy physically and mentally, it is not high in terms of time efficiency, and many times it is necessary to do a lot of boring things with your loved ones.
Having long passed the age of hearing love, they are more devoted to the material life within reach than the ethereal beauty of love. Bread in your hand is more reassuring than flowers that don't know when they will wither. Of course, people's pursuits are different, and the choices they will make are naturally different.
But for those sober women, who have experienced the baptism of long-term singleness, have long seen through the feelings, know that men are unreliable, rather than risking to pursue true love, it is better to spend time and energy on more reliable things.
People at different ages will have different pursuits, and when they are young, they will pursue illusory love. However, people who have been single for a long time are often more sober, and they also know how to exercise self-restraint and will not let go of their desires.
As the 34-year-old leftover woman replied, she said that she used to think that love was greater than heaven, until after experiencing the baptism of years, she did not understand the most beautiful things in the world, which was nothing more than the stability in her hand.
I have to say that this answer is very direct and very heartfelt. Only those who have experienced it understand the meaning behind these words. Although long-term singleness is bitter, but there is also pleasure, it depends on whether the individual can endure it, as well as the pursuit of self.
At present, many young women are not willing to spend time on love, but are willing to devote themselves to their careers, because this is the rhythm they can actively grasp and can fully feel the effect.
The quality of a person's life is not determined by a few relationships, but more by the choices made in the past, which are jointly influenced and decided. The reason why women who have been single for a long time do not need men is not that they are more different, but that they know how to live peacefully with themselves and find that balance.
We spend our whole lives working hard, whether in love or single, it is just a form of growth, and in the end we have to achieve the tireless dream of the heart. May we be able to withstand the bitterness of being single, take advantage of the good years to open up and forge ahead, as for love can meet the best, can not meet and do not force.