In a video on the Internet, the man has been drinking for many years, domestic violence, and his family is destitute. People reach middle age, drinking paralyzed, women do not abandon to take care of for many years, this is the same, men still scold women, just sit in a wheelchair. The woman couldn't bear to fight back and wanted to leave home, and the man was angry and called a reporter to accuse the woman. Throughout the video, the woman's emotions are very excited, and the neighbors have been dissuading and dragging her to stop her from leaving...
The comments section was full of scolding the man and the neighbor: one was a scumbag, the other was a ghost.
There is a family in the hometown, and the couple plus a daughter. Life was not rich but passable. When my daughter was in elementary school, the man was paralysis by accident.
Relatives and friends who were originally lukewarm to their family began to pay special attention to women and children, buying this and that for children during the New Year's Festival, and also booing and warming to women. Their concubines and outsiders did not hide anything: good for her, (because) afraid that she was gone, in case she left, wouldn't our relatives be in trouble?
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After a few years, the woman still left, leaving the father and daughter, and I heard that the relatives had been helping for a while, and the girl dropped out of school to work. Outsiders did not say anything, and it is estimated that it was expected. Everyone has their own life, and the affairs of other people's families can be listened to, there is no need to mix.
I know a lady whose husband is proficient in eating, drinking, gambling and sampling, but he can't earn money, he doesn't do housework, and his children don't care. The family relies on her alone to earn money to support the family, and earns a lot.
When a woman is a girl, her temperament is spicy, and after marriage, her temper is naturally more and more obedient, and she is fine to outsiders, and she insults and reprimands her husband and children at every turn.
Children who are not adults naturally dare not resist, and men endure at first, after all, they have no bottom after eating soft rice for so many years. Seeing that no one dared to resist, the lady became more and more excessive. Men don't know if it's out of revenge and cheating.
When the lady found out, she made a fuss and threatened to divorce her. The man was scared at first (after all, he didn't have the ability to earn money), and then the lady made a big fuss, and the man broke the jar and broke it, and he was justified in arguing for a divorce. The families of the two sides initially persuaded peace, and the reason was nothing more than for the sake of the children.
Later, when the situation was not right, the man's family picked up the man for property and kicked the woman and the two children out of the house. Men are also really stupid, what they think about their faces, it is estimated that they feel that the lady does not have the support of the mother's family, and cannot get his own family (the relatives and friends of the lady's mother's family do not agree to the divorce of the two from beginning to end, and persuade the lady to bear with it, this kind of thing is a lot).
The lady quickly saw through the mind of the man's family, thinking that all the family property except for the homestead, the others were earned by themselves, and others could not swallow this breath cheaply, so they made trouble, and never mentioned divorce again.
When a man sees his wife without mentioning divorce, he goes down the slope to the donkey, but originally he saw his wife's face and ate soft rice, and then promoted to soft rice to eat hard and let his wife look at his face.
The generation of grandparents rarely divorced, most of their unions do not have any love component, before marriage, both parties are estimated to have not seen much, that is, when they reach the age of a family and have children, they generally run to live a lifetime.
The two mouths together are the best, and if they don't come together, they can bump and bump and pass the day. I remember when I was a child, the two elderly people around me quarreled, not to mention outsiders, even if the children were rarely persuaded, no one took it seriously, and the quarrel was over.
Most of the parents are married in free love, you say that the feelings are deep, the days are still like chickens and dogs, but there are not many divorces. Occasionally, there are couples who can't go on, whether it is a family member or an outsider, they are persuaded and not persuaded to leave, and their concept is that divorce is not good.
Even if eating, drinking, gambling, gambling, going to jail, domestic violence, cheating, etc., most relatives and friends are also persuaded. The reason for persuasion is most used for the sake of the child.
For example, if a man cheats, if the woman's financial ability is not good, the relatives and friends of both sides (especially the woman's relatives and friends) will persuade the woman to endure (of course, there are also relatives and friends who deliberately pick up the divorce of both sides), the reason is straightforward: you can't support yourself, don't divorce Men always have to take money at home, what do you have in divorce? For the sake of the child to endure, who is not so live (we can endure, why can't you endure)...
If the woman's financial ability is strong, the relatives and friends of both sides (especially the man's relatives and friends) will advise: for the sake of the child, bear with it, how pitiful the divorced child is, and it may not be good to remarry.
Women cheat, no matter what the reason for the cheating, most of the woman's family feel that they are not afraid to say anything. On the other hand, the man's family is like finding an outlet, what is ugly and scolding.
If the man is financially able and insists on divorce, almost no one in the man's family will persuade him (at this time, no one thinks about the child, and the child may be angered because of the fault of the mother).
If men's economic ability is not good to rely on women to support, then most men themselves will not insist on divorce, the man's relatives and friends even if the jokes behind the back of the man's nest surface is also persuaded, of course, most of the reasons for persuasion and peace are still for the children, few lack of heart and eyes will directly say: You eat soft rice and rely on women to raise, divorce what marriage.
Many years ago, I saw a female writer's self-complaint, she said that her married life is very unfortunate, the husband and wife have no feelings and no feelings, the economy is separated, in addition to living under one roof, the marriage of the two is really in name only.
When the female writer wants to divorce and has no fame and no money, the mother's family says that she does not agree with anything, and when she becomes famous and rich, the mother's family will not stop it anymore. At this time, she was already middle-aged and gave her husband more than 100,000 yuan before she divorced.
Why did her mother's family prevent her from divorcing, saying that it was broken was because she was afraid of being dragged down. If she is divorced when she is poor, the female writer has no place to go except her mother's family, but it is not a drag on the mother's family. When the female writer herself has money and status, she will not drag others down, and no one will say anything if she wants to divorce.
Many people have a bad married life and want to divorce, some relatives and friends do not know the truth, thinking that the two mouths are just quarreling, making a temper, should be a scene of persuasion and a sentence, people really do not have the heart to care about other people's two mouths.
Some relatives and friends know the inside story but do not want people to divorce each other, for fear of dragging themselves down. If nothing else, what about the child? Some people are reluctant to keep their children around; some people don't care, when they are not divorced, they are like that to their children, once divorced, the children are thrown directly to relatives and friends, of course, before throwing will find a reasonable reason.
Relatives and friends agree that it is not, nor does it agree (many people live to the old age and learn not to refuse, and their face is bigger than the sky).
Some relatives and friends, especially some parents, feel that their children have no face when they divorce, so even if they know that their children are not doing well, they do not agree to the divorce of their children, and none of them care, only whether they can raise their heads in front of other relatives and friends.
In the final analysis, people themselves have the ability not to drag others down, and others will not care about what kind of life they live, let alone care; once they drag others down, then others have to consider their own interests.
A woman's retreat is never her mother's house, it is herself