The child's third-grade grade grades began to decline, and it must have been done well before the age of 6, which is worth reflecting on
In families with children, the most familiar words are: "You can't remember what I said!" ”
In the eyes of others, this may be criticizing the child, but in the eyes of the parents, the words spoken are more of the helplessness and despair brought by the children at that time, which may already be the question they want to answer the most in their hearts.
This is the typical tutoring of children's homework fees.
Why has there always been such a scene of "wasted parents", is it true that children will not?
In fact, the child is smarter than we think, because there are always a lot of ghost horse ideas in the child's mind, and every time he argues with the child, the child talks a set.
The point is that there is no logical loophole behind this witty rebuttal.
Why is such a child so "deadly" in learning this matter?
Maybe it's because children at this stage don't know how to think for themselves.
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What exactly is self-thinking?
Independent thinking is actually the initiative to use the brain, because children learn skills through imitation when they are young, and often these skills are some relatively simple behaviors and languages.
For example, the knowledge before the third grade of primary school, the habitual language and behavior of parents, life skills and so on.
It is precisely because there is no way to imitate independent thinking, so it is often helpless to help children when tutoring children to do homework in the early stage.
How should we let our children learn those advanced, complex knowledge and skills?
That requires guiding children to think for themselves, internalize them, and apply them to all aspects of life.
Take the child learning addition as an example, addition is generally through the vertical column to get the result, by explaining the principle to the child, the child can learn to add through imitation in time.
In addition to imitation, you can also let children think of their own ways to come up with answers, perhaps the children come up with methods that will make people feel incredible, encourage children to think for themselves, and can internalize this skill into their own things.
In the process of learning, you can't be flexible, and so is life, and the premise of flexibility is that you have something in your head.
Children always rely on themselves in the end, and it is impossible to rely on their parents to think all their lives, because letting children form the habit of thinking can make children grasp knowledge and solve problems faster.
Why some children learn is not good, obviously the core of the problem is still the same, but the number can not be solved, the problem behind this is actually that the child will not think independently.
The real scholar has never been "dead" reading, but flexible use of his own internalized knowledge to solve problems.
There may not be a clear difference between people at the stage when learning is still easy, but the deeper the depth of learning, the more obvious the gap between children.
2. How can I develop the habit of thinking?
The sooner parents let their children think independently, the better.
When children who are still in their early childhood seek help from their parents, parents often just blindly let their children imitate to solve problems, and neglect to give their children the space to think.
The next time when the child seeks help, you can first ask the child what to do first, according to the child's description to solve the problem, so that in the subtle will affect the child's thinking ability, slowly the child will also develop the habit of using the brain.
At the end of the day's learning, parents can take the initiative to help their children review what they have done today and what they have learned.
According to the memory curve, the reviewed knowledge points can be more deeply remembered in the mind, and repeated memories help children build new neurons and achieve their own internalization.
The review of the day in the evening is a timely and timely repair link, which is very critical and efficient.
The next thing to do after internalizing knowledge is to use it, after all, not understanding the use is only on paper after all.
Staged tests can examine the effect of internalization in children, and can also allow children to relate learning knowledge to problems.
The founder of Fan Deng Books also used this method, even if he did not take notes in class and did not memorize the key points drawn by the teacher, but people have always achieved excellent results.
It is precisely because he is accustomed to recalling and knows how to check and fill in the gaps, he can really use the internalized knowledge, parents should realize that there is no formula for learning, and fit is the most important.
After knowing how to use it, we must also teach children to learn from each other, because the real purpose of learning is not to get results, but to let people learn to really think.
A few days ago, the child also encountered difficulties in memorization, and recited the third part of the "Three Character Sutra" in two days.
This amount is really not simple for children, but the child's father suggests to the child: you can overcome this memorization problem line by line.
After the father's dialing, the children who often practice the piano think of the way they usually practice, practice several times where it is difficult, and reduce the number of exercises where it is simple.
So the child began to be full of energy again, drawing out the difficulty for himself, and the next step was to recite it to overcome it.
In fact, it seems that the difficulty has become less difficult to take apart, and the time for children to recite is greatly shortened, and they can even understand what this three-character sutra is about.
After memorizing the split line, the next step is to assemble, at this time the child will practice the content of each line, and soon it will be connected.
Through splitting, the child divides the energy that needs to be consumed by each paragraph, and finally recites the whole paragraph, and the child not only does not feel tired, but even enjoys it.
In fact, the best way to face fear is to face it head-on.
Because the most taboo thing about learning skills is to have a fear of difficulties, as long as you are not afraid of difficulties, things will eventually be conquered by us.
The more knowledge we internalize, the more we can dispatch ideas in our brains to solve the problems we encounter.
After all, the meaning of education is to teach people to think through the brain, not just to compare the level of achievement.
In fact, we have come all the way to this age, almost every day to learn, perhaps now we have not learned written knowledge, but there are still many aspects of "knowledge" into our brain, internalized into a part of our own.
From the initial imitation skills to the current active acquisition of skills, we have become different people because of thinking.
Now their own children are going through our previous stages, so perhaps guiding children will be more experienced, after all, parents are people who come over.
But remember not to impose your own ideas on your children, it is enough to be a guide in a child's life.
Let the child think for himself, let the child try to solve it, and maybe the next Einstein will be him.