Many parents have such a question, and there is actually no fixed answer to this question. If we say that accompanying children to write homework, accompanying is only a means, not an end. As parents, the purpose of our children's education is to help children learn independently and actively, and the other ways are just ways. First of all, the first grade means that the child's formal learning stage has begun, and going to school and doing homework every day is the daily life of the child. As a parent, you should arrange an independent, quiet and undisturbed learning environment for your child to learn and do homework every day, such as a separate room.
The less things in the room, the better, a desk, only put some commonly used learning utensils on the desk, can not put snacks, can not put toys. When your child is learning to do homework, parents should not walk around the room, you should do what you have to do. If the parents are really not at ease, you can take a book and sit quietly next to it and watch it. Even if you want to accompany your child, you have to explain to your child: I need to read my own book, I can read next to it, but you have to write your own homework.
At the beginning, you can see if the child needs your help by observing, especially in the first grade, due to the child's lack of literacy, often can't understand the topic, then I suggest that you can explain the requirements of the topic to the child before doing the homework, if the child does not understand, you can explain to the child, do some demonstrations. But try not to let your child develop the habit of asking you for help when they encounter problems, because then you will not be able to get out. Generally speaking, parents counseling their children is a gradual process, a process of slowly letting go.
Our more reasonable approach is to properly accompany the child in the first grade to help the child through the initial stage of adaptation, but at the same time, it should be noted that in the lower grade, the biggest task of parents is to find a way to cultivate the child's self-confidence, let the child realize that they can do it, what we as parents should do is to give the child specific practices, do a demonstration to the child, let the child imitate, and then let the child complete it independently. From the first grade, going to school, reading, and writing homework every day is something that children must do every day, so we as parents must do these things well:
You should make it clear to your child that learning to do homework is his own business, and tell him that homework should be completed on time and in good quantity. After the homework is done, he checks it himself, and after the inspection, he can play with what he likes to play and do what he likes to do. In the process of doing homework, when you encounter a problem that you can't do, you must try to learn to solve it yourself, and if you really can't solve it, you can ask your mother.
Tell your child: Doing homework is the same as doing other things, it will make mistakes, which is very normal, so don't be afraid to make mistakes, but parents should remind your child to do homework, be careful to read the topic, understand the topic, and then do it again. Finally, ask the child to write down the problems they do not understand, write them down one by one, write them down in a book, and go to the school the next day to ask the teacher or the students who understand, if there are still some who do not understand, make up for them on the weekend. Go to school and ask the teacher or the students who understand. If you still don't understand, make up for it as soon as possible on the weekend.
Accompanying children to write homework has become the most headache and annoyance for some parents after returning home from work, and some parents even can't help but be emotional when they mention it when they write homework with their children. So how can parents get out of the trouble of writing homework with their children? For teachers to teach students, there is a saying: it is better to teach them to fish than to teach them to fish. The same is true for parents to accompany their children to write homework, that is to say, parents cannot simply accompany their children to write homework, and cultivating their children's independent homework habits is the most important. Only when children develop good homework habits can parents be truly liberated.
If you want to cultivate your child's homework habits, you must start from life and grasp everything. Some children's homework procrastination is another headache for parents who accompany their children to write homework. Children who procrastinate in doing homework often procrastinate in doing other things. Therefore, parents should grasp everything their children do in their lives. When a child does something, he must complete it in time, and if he has difficulties, he must find a way to complete it, and must not push back, or give up because of difficulties. It should be said that many parents, accompanying their children to write homework, just simply watching, roughly directing, and have not had the correct guidance for their children to write homework.
This can not be blamed on parents, because although they have deep cultural expertise, they do not have the professional knowledge and methods and skills to educate and guide children, as well as the lack of methods of communicating with children, and cannot teach children some problem-solving ideas and methods with children's thinking, children's perspective and understanding of problems. Although the parents can speak the Tao, the children are confused. So there is a feeling of being full of strength but nowhere to go. So that some parents think that such a simple question, and so clearly, why can't the child still be?
Therefore, it will be thought that the child does not care, the child is stupid, so it will lose his temper, making the child's psychological burden heavy, the parent-child relationship is tense, and over time, the child will be afraid of writing homework, afraid of parents to accompany homework. Some parents are arranged instead: if the child writes slowly, the parents will copy the problem for the child and then let the child do it; what is unexpected and incomprehensible is that a very few parents directly help the child write homework. In view of some of the problems that arise when parents accompany their children to write homework, in my experience, in addition to cultivating children's homework habits.
I think parents should do the following aspects, although it can not completely relieve the parents' troubles, but it will also be helpful to parents. Reducing the understanding of children's understanding ability is that parents complicate what they think are simple problems, little by little, step by step to explain to children, it is best to concretize and visualize abstract content. Not afraid of nagging, trouble, the explanation of the problem should not only be slow, but also repeated, find more of the same topic, after speaking again, let the child practice independently, and then repeat the explanation and practice of the wrong place according to the situation of the problem.
The reason why the child's homework is slow, we must find out, is the child will not do, or unwilling to do. If you can't do it, teach the child how to do it, and if you don't want to do it, give criticism and punishment, and get rid of the child's lazy thoughts. Parents can not replace and take care of their children's homework, do not let children have a dependence on the psychology, parents should learn to let go, children learn to be independent, the sooner parents can rest assured. When the child does not complete the homework, parents should not explain to the teacher to the teacher, let alone find a reason for the child, shirk responsibility, and avoid the teacher's punishment.
Once the child has the "protection" of the parents, it is difficult to consciously complete the homework. Be sure to let your child bear the consequences for not completing their homework. For different children, the methods of education are of course different. As far as educating children is concerned, I think there is no universally applicable method, and it is best for parents to adopt appropriate and effective education for their children according to reality.