After lying flat, I found that my parents' anxiety was self-inflicted

Figure | Small give-up

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Did you find it? Chinese parents are particularly keen to show their chicken baby abilities in the field of mathematics.

For example, 3-year-old children can do 4th grade Olympiad problems in 8 months at a rapid pace; 5-year-olds will have simple rational number calculations and ternary equations in the first grade; and elementary school students will study linear algebra, calculus...

According to the speed of this group of parents to discover mathematical talents, this group of magical children, middle school should be able to prove the Goldbach conjecture, the future of mathematics is full of Hua Luogeng...

Obviously has been rolled into the sky, chicken blood parents still have a face of light wind: chicken baby math, easy and relaxed, simply too easy...

This once made my old mother, who raised mathematical scum, feel self-conscious for a while.

When my sister was in the first grade, she broke her finger to do ten digits of addition and subtraction; 3 minutes of quick calculation, always empty half of the problem; applied problems saw the numbers, and copied without thinking, not caring whether it was useful or not.

Receiving a death-defying series of calles from math teachers is even more commonplace. If the speed calculation score is no longer up to standard, it is a drag on the grades of the whole class, and parents should attach great importance to it and take the baby to study hard.

In order to show my attention, I specially bought a stack of quick calculation books, forcing the baby to brush 10 pages and 10 pages every day.

At first, children would rather die than follow, because brushing questions is too boring and tedious. The old mother had to do both soft and hard, sugar-coated shells and roaring threats, and finally she could only break her fingers while shedding tears, and there was a timer ticking next to her.

It was a hard time.

I spent a month practicing sparringly and ended up with my depression. Because I used up all the methods— from the Poker Speed Algorithm of the Stanford alumni to the small wooden stick number sense cultivation method passed to me by Dr. Fudan, I ran out, and her calculation speed was stagnant and very incompetent.

This is probably the natural mathematical scum of the legend.

I could only be forced to accept this fact and start planning for her everything that might bypass mathematics.

Even began to calculate, if the middle school entrance examination can not be divided into high school, am I looking for a friend who kneads clay, or a friend who weaves carpets, let her follow to learn a craft, and can I be the inheritor of an intangible cultural heritage project in the future?

In any case, I no longer had any illusions about mathematical newspapers, no longer used speed calculations and application problems to test my increasingly fragile heart, and focused my work on the development of language and English or comprehensives.

Because those 4-year-olds got the chicken and rabbit in the same cage, chased the problem, 5 years old to live into a low-speed calculator, the legendary child, is not out of the chicken, but a mathematical raw ore, just waiting for the parents to take a small shovel casually turned twice, the treasure will be like a spring gushing like endless ah...

And my child is a mine with exhausted mathematical thinking, what else is there to toss? It is better to see through it early and lie flat early. Cut off the brushing questions, stop the class, love it.

My sister's feud with math continued into the third grade.

In the third grade, known as the watershed between school bullies and scum, the most insurmountable mountain recognized by parents is not Everest, but the top of mathematics.

What is particularly incredible is that some children who have not scored less than 98 points in the first and second grades will suddenly become math scum in a certain exam and will never recover; and some children who have begun to learn Olympiad from the age of 3 will suddenly be unable to go down in the third grade...

But what I never expected was that the sister of the sheep who had been in mathematics for a year seemed to have suddenly opened the trick in the third grade, not only did the multi-digit multiplication and division method calculate quickly and accurately, but also knew how to think about the analysis and won several times all A.

The math teacher called me, not to sound the alarm for the backward parents, but to praise the math score...

It was definitely the highlight of my time as a parent.

Because I didn't do anything! She took the initiative to apply for the MK competition, although the difficulty can not be compared with Huashu Yingchun, but at least it is a competition for doing math problems. Before that, I couldn't have dreamed of it.

I really don't know how to describe my mood, at some point I was a little bloated... Start wondering if it is into the full set of examples, Gao Si guide let her brush down one by one to try, maybe the mathematical potential is hidden deeply so I did not see?

In fact, the reality is not as magical as everyone thinks.

My sister wasn't the brainchild of the sharp-minded, high-IQ Aoshuwa, she just happened to meet a patient math teacher, kept up with the progress, and became interested in math.

Just a little more interest than before, that's all.

Not even interested in math, just purely fond of math teachers?

Because in terms of logical thinking, she is still so ordinary and ordinary. Compared with those genius children who can stare at a topic for three hours at the age of four or five, and do not conquer and do not eat, her interest, concentration, thinking and perseverance are far behind.

However, Puwa is also good for Puwa, and she proves a truth with her own ordinary: even if you can't be a great mathematician, mathematics may not be bad.

As long as the way you learn it is right. that... What kind of method is properly called?

For me, it is that parents should interfere less and let the teacher teach. Even if you are a professor in Qingbei, will you know more about the professionalism of educating children than a primary school teacher?

But there are always unconvinced parents, thinking that they should have given birth to a prodigy - 5 years old can do junior high school arithmetic problems, 14 years old to enter Tsinghua Peking University... Hate that school education is too inefficient, and you have to do it yourself.

Thus, there are the beginning of a genius teenager, all of whom are rising dream stars in the mathematical world...

Xiao Hua Luogeng's parents will take the first and second grade 100 points of the roll everywhere to dry, and their proud faces will flash the glory of winning at the starting line.

What they don't actually know (and probably don't care about) is that a perfect score doesn't mean that math really needs to be learned well. When I was a child, the mathematical cow dolls that were forced out of the chicken were mostly spelled out of memory, rather than logical thinking.

You know, brushing more brushes, linear algebra can mechanically memorize the calculation process, not to mention a two-digit addition and subtraction? So stop pressing your baby's head and learning from the children who do it fast and slip up, because their real ability is mostly just "listening to their mothers."

Such well-behaved children, some third-graders will lose their armor, because they are too obedient and lose their ability to think, they will only brush up on problems and routines, and they do not know how to solve practical problems without leaving the routines.

A child who is too well-behaved is not necessarily the best, and this is deeply touched by a Tsinghua father.

He has recently been interrogated by a group of parents, how did he successfully send his child to Yale? So I tried to recall the whole process of raising a baby, and it seemed that all I remembered was a nightmare.

Children are particularly stubborn and have been fighting with their parents since childhood.

Did you know it was wrong? I'm not wrong.

That's right? Go to the penalty station now and stand until you know you're wrong.

Without saying a word, the child went to the door penalty station and stood for three hours without saying a word.

He said that when he raised a stubborn child, he almost didn't make his brain grow, and now he recalls that it smashed it a little bit, as if the secret of the success of climbing the vine is that the more disobedient the child, the more he becomes a tool?

From this point of view, if you want to raise a child, your parents really don't take yourself too seriously. Like my sister's math performance, the most direct relationship with me is probably that I chose to give up very early.

What really needs calculus, goldbach conjecture, and Fourier progression is not the curiosity of kindergarten children, but the expressive desire of parents who believe in prodigies.

It doesn't matter whether the child needs it or not, whether it is willing or not, anyway, when the parents are once, I must prove that I am capable, at least in picking up the child is successful.

Excessive educational anxiety mostly stems from the vanity of parents. Others have easily chickened to the first year of junior high school at the age of five, do I engage in a second grade mathematical physics and chemistry general department, in order to strengthen the respect?

As for where to buy a school district house, what school to attend, what class to attend, will children care? No. For most children, the days when they can dig up dirt and catch bugs are far more interesting than those illusory futures.

I've seen a story before.

When I was a child, my brother and I were in a hurry to eat, and when everyone had finished eating, he still counted the grains of rice on the table. I once thought that my brother was like this, but after he went to college, he was super able to eat, and now he is a meter and eight big, 160 pounds.

Every child has its own way of growing, so why force it?