Because too many Western educational theories were accepted when reading, it is believed that the best education in preschool is outdoor sports, not book knowledge, not literacy education.
I also strive to implement this idea in my son's educational practice.
In the case that parents are afraid that their children will lose at the starting line and that advanced learning has become a major trend, there is no doubt that their son has encountered some small setbacks when he first entered kindergarten and primary school, but fortunately it is harmless.
1. Play poker to recognize numbers
My son started kindergarten early. Because the couple both worked, no one helped with the children, and the son was sent to kindergarten when he turned 2 years old.
The boy himself developed late, went to kindergarten early, and was born in the summer, so the son was half a year younger than many children in the same class or even close to 1 year old. This age difference manifests itself more pronounced at a younger age.
When I first went to kindergarten, my son could just say a little simple sentence, and the words were not clear, intermittent, and could not even form sentences.
The colors were indistinguishable, red was said to be green, green or green, and I was once worried that he would be colorblind. Later, I learned that he just didn't know how to express it, and he didn't know how to say red.
At that time, the teacher taught numbers, 1 to 10. After school, I went to pick up my son. The teacher told me worriedly that this child could not teach anything.
Other children will be able to, and many children can even count to 100. The teacher said there was nothing he could do.
In the evening, I found a deck of playing cards and played with my son. Played a few times, 1-10 learned effortlessly.
2. A lot of outdoor sports
Since he was a child, his son has the habit of going to bed early and getting up early, and spends a lot of time outdoors playing every day. In the summer morning, it is already playing in the community at 5 o'clock.
I was exhausted from playing every day. When you get home at night, just turn off the lights and sleep for seconds. Sleep until dawn and then continue to hang out.
Before the fourth grade of elementary school, I went to bed before 8:30 p.m. every night.
Eating habits are also good, not picky eaters, we never chase after the rush to feed food.
On the first day of kindergarten, a group of children cried there and refused to eat. The teacher said that the son silently walked over and served two bowls of rice to eat.
When I was a child, eating and drinking Lasa was really worry-free.
3. The son said the diary, I helped record it, printed it into a diary
When my son came to kindergarten, I wrote a diary for a whole year on my computer. My son often looked at me with envy and said, "Mom, I have to keep a diary too."
I said, "Okay! ”
Since then, every night, he's told me about his day's experiences, about what he wanted to say, and then I used my computer to help him record it.
Every once in a while, I would organize and format it, pair it with photos, and print it out into a booklet. It is still kept at home.
My son was particularly happy to see the diary, as if he had published a book himself. So the diary is more active, and I hope that my diary is more and more and thicker.
It is a pity that there was a period of time when I was particularly busy at work, and I often worked overtime at night, so I did not insist on it.
4. Do not read books before school, and read in life
In kindergarten, I basically never bought a book for my son or told him a story. Of course, I was also lonely and ignorant, and I didn't know that there was such a beautiful book as a picture book.
Maybe you reject books in your heart and don't care about these things. This is also where I should reflect, a little more extreme.
Although I never take books to teach my son to read, in the outdoors, in the community, on the street, in the park, on the car, on the street, on the billboard, on the billboard, on the billboard, in the menu, etc., there are words everywhere.
He would ask me curiously, and I would go out of my way to teach him. The words learned in life are deeply remembered, and the son basically never forgets them.
It just so happened that the kindergarten he went to later did not teach much culture classes, and I always thought that he was not very literate.
Until one day in the kindergarten, I saw him take back a book from the kindergarten and look at it with a board and eyes. I thought he was just looking at the pictures.
I said, "Baby, do you know the words in this book?" ”
He said, "I know." ”
I picked a paragraph at random, and he actually read it skillfully, word for word. At the time, it stunned me.
Then I bought him two books of Hans Christian Andersen's fairy tales and the like, and he began to read me stories every night.
During the day, we still play outside every day as always, without literacy education and without early childhood connections.
In elementary school, the teacher tested literacy, and unexpectedly, he was actually the highest in the class, knowing thousands of words.
After going to school, he began to borrow a lot of books from the Hangzhou Municipal Library. At that time, we could only borrow 6 cards per person and 3 cards for a family of three, so we borrowed 18 books a week to come back.
Pay it back next week, borrow 18 more copies, and the cycle begins. I was fascinated by the world of books, read a large number of picture books, and the youth editions of the world's famous books.
5. From the first to last in each subject to the top
Because I did not learn cultural knowledge in advance before school, I could not pinyin, I could not do arithmetic, and I could not speak English, when I first went to primary school, the results of each subject were the first to last.
The teacher was surprised and said, "How come there are still children who are in elementary school in this era, and they can't even write 2", as if they saw a monster.
She said that many of the students in the class were very skilled in addition and subtraction within 100, and my son could not even add and subtract within 10, and even implicitly expressed that the child's IQ was somewhat low.
Then firmly believe that I am an irresponsible parent. I said, I believe he will get up soon, and I have confidence in my children.
At that time, every night with his son to do oral calculations, he cried while doing it, and said: "Mom, I will not be the last in my life, right?" ”
I said, "No! "Then tell him stories of his childhood." When I first started the first grade of elementary school, I didn't have a score of 0 or a score of 20, and many of my classmates called me stupid.
However, at the end of the first grade, I became the first place. I'm afraid I was the only one of my elementary school classmates to go to college.
Every day the timer does the oral calculation, when he does his best to finish, excitedly go to see the time on the timer, but it always increases unabated, and the moment is like a deflated leather ball.
At that time, the math teacher was good, telling me to occasionally use the timer to cheat and start the timer later, so that the child had some confidence.
After trying a few times, my son's confidence was doubled. Later, the son's speed became faster and faster, the first grade oral arithmetic competition was still the second prize, and then it was all the first prize.
The first grade is not over, and the results of all subjects are among the best.
In the first to third grades, many children have full marks in math. The son basically did not, each time will deduct one or two points, the little boy is careless, I think it is very normal, and there is no need to divide the points.
After the fourth grade, more and more children are not getting full marks, but his full scores are increasing. At the end of the midterm, it is basically a full score, and most of the time it is a full score.
In the fourth grade, without participating in the Olympic mathematics training, he first won the second prize of the Olympic Mathematics Hope Cup, and then after passing the examination, he was selected to enter the most famous Olympic mathematics institution in Hangzhou at that time to study the Olympic mathematics.
Because of this counterattack experience in elementary school, my son was always full of confidence no matter how badly he did in the test. He often said: "I have the ability to be the first in the penultimate test, and I have the ability to take the first place in the positive number."
How important it is to cultivate a child's confidence, especially the confidence to get up after falling, to his life!
6. My parenting experience
Sometimes, thinking back to my son's early childhood education, I wondered, if I were to do it all over again, would I still do it? My answer is still, yes.
I still want my son to have a happy, carefree childhood. Even if you can't have a relaxed childhood, you can keep a few years of free time at your infancy.
I have never liked to follow the trend, I don't like to go with the flow. While everyone was trying to buy a school district house, I sold the school district house after the birth of my child and moved from the city to the suburbs.
I have not heard the story of Meng Mu's three migrations, and although schools are important, they do not have to be exaggerated to such an extent. The primary school I attended later was not bad, and most of my classmates were the children of college teachers.
In the case of little difference in school conditions, the role of parents is even more important. Some parents are willing to spend a lot of money to buy school district houses, but may not be willing to spend energy to educate their children.
Regarding early childhood education, my experience is as follows:
(1) Do the right thing at the right age and do more with less
Because of the fear that their children will lose at the starting line, many parents fill their children with classes early and let their children learn various cultural classes early. Needless to say, this advantage is evident at the beginning of enrollment.
But how long can this advantage be maintained? How many children in the first to third grades of primary school will be able to continue to be excellent in their later learning careers?
For most ordinary children, learning ahead is much more costly. You put your child ahead of time to learn knowledge that exceeds his current level of mind, which requires more energy, but with little success.
In order to obtain this advanced knowledge, the child spent a lot of effort and was forced to sacrifice a lot of play time.
Compared to a child who has not learned, his advantage is a little, but for this short-term advantage, is the price paid worth it?
When those children who have not advanced learning begin to learn at the appropriate age stage, they can easily learn, or even easily surpass, with the effect of doubling the results with half the effort.
(2) Early childhood education is more suitable for playing middle school and learning in life
The form of thinking of children aged 2 to 6 and 7 is mainly specific image thinking. Concrete image thinking is the thinking of solving problems by using the image of things and the relationship between images.
At the end of childhood, abstract thinking begins to sprout.
Young children's cognition of the world depends on specific things, so children at this stage are suitable for learning in life and learning in play.
Knowledge needs to be connected to specific things, and children are more receptive to it. The effect of learning a lot of book knowledge at this stage is not good.
(3) Ensure sufficient play time at an early age, which not only strengthens the body, but also increases the wisdom
Ensuring sufficient play time at an early age, the child's hands-on ability, athletic ability, coordination ability, cooperation ability, etc. will be greatly enhanced, laying a solid foundation for good physical fitness in the future, and laying the foundation for the development of good interpersonal relationships.
Children play more, move more, practice more, observation, attention, memory, thinking, etc. will also be developed and enhanced.
Intelligence is enhanced, learning things is faster in the future, it is easier to overtake in curves, and the effect of doubling the results with half the effort is achieved.
Live to be old, learn to be old, rather than emphasizing winning at the starting line, it is better to emphasize having lasting learning ability.