Recently, the Beijing Mother Circle was enthusiastically discussing a confirmed case of a primary school in Haidian, Beijing, and the crowd was indignant.
The health code is red, a 26-year-old Gauss education Olympiad teacher. She taught at the Renmin University Affiliated High School Experimental Primary School and the Double Elms Central Primary School, resulting in a cluster of close transmissions.
The key is that this teacher concealed the itinerary throughout the process, resulting in the current difficulty of close connection flow adjustment, and the districts had to start sealing and control prevention and control.
Since concealment is not a personal act, parents in other districts immediately guessed the clues:
Good fellow, what about the good double subtraction? The school went so far as to defy the wind and directly hired teachers from external institutions to come to the school to give the children extra meals!
Not only that, but this teacher has business in various areas, and her itinerary also includes a meal at The Huguo Temple in Xicheng District. This directly led to the suspension of classes in Xicheng District, while Haidian District has not yet announced a treatment plan.
The parents of Xicheng District are therefore very angry, why does Xicheng District have to be "really double-reduced", and the initiator Haidian District can continue to roll?
Some parents advocate: "We must stop together, we must not be biased!" ”
And some parents joked: "Can't stop!" If Haidian stops, then it will be directly at home and secretly rolled up until it takes off, right? ”
This tells the current situation of haidian bullfrogs: chickens are chickens all the time, and school is the resting place. Serious parents in the chicken baby, the rich of course take the personalized one-on-one tutoring, who can still look at the school's outsourced Math Classroom?
I have to say that the epidemic is really a "mirror" for the implementation of the double reduction policy in various places.
01 Epidemic situation, double reduction of chicken baby
In the TV series "Little Shed", Ziyou's mother, in order to let her child get the stepping stone of a famous school, did her best to participate in the Olympic number make-up class in the style of "tunnel warfare". This model of chicken babies, children are tired, adults are also exhausted.
The plot in the play is not exaggerated, in real life, the degree of seriousness of parents for their children's make-up lessons is even worse.
Just a few months ago, a 7-year-old child in a primary school in Beijing was diagnosed, and he also blew up a bunch of children who were in cram school. Its trajectory network is so complex that it is difficult to troubleshoot, which directly paralyzes the colleges in the two districts and announces the suspension of classes.
Following the tired pace of children, we will find that children not only blossom in style and style, but also one-on-one tutoring is not less "arranged".
And the children who honestly practice double subtraction, there are only five left in the class. These children have usually fallen behind the progress of their classmates, and when they are suspended, they also have a share...
It's really people sitting in the classroom, and the pot comes from heaven.
And whenever the suspension of classes stops at their heads, parents will always fight together, especially the competition between regions and regions.
When classes were suspended in Nanjing in March, parents in Jiangning District joined forces to demand that they not be treated differently and delay the progress of their children.
It can be seen that under the double reduction and the chicken baby under the epidemic, parents are obviously more sensitive, and secretly they have exerted a little more strength than before.
02 Premature overdraft
But then again, the purpose of our chicken baby is nothing more than to hope that the future of the child will be smoother and better than that of his peers. But from the early childhood connection, to the primary school entrance examination, the middle school entrance examination, the college entrance examination, all the way through the five levels and six generals, holding back the blush and neck thick, can you really provide a stable and successful child?
Everything pays attention to the law of two and eight. We desperately want to get our children to the top 20%, but even if it is at this stage, we may not be able to maintain this position in the future.
What's more, the assessment indicators of this road of life are not only achievements. Olympic champion Weng Shanwei is using the "anti-chicken baby" routine to cultivate children.
She herself repeatedly won the Olympic championship in elementary school and junior high school, crushing her peers all the way, but after becoming a mother, she refused to copy such a path.
Because Weng Shanwei personally experienced the emptiness and inferiority after becoming the Olympic champion: "I am very good at exams, but my life is too monotonous and boring. ”
After having her son jumping, Weng Shanwei, like most parents, enrolled her children in a variety of interest classes, including the Olympic number. As the son of an Olympic champion, his natural qualifications are not bad.
It's just that Weng Shanwei found that after her son made the question, he didn't have a sense of accomplishment in it. On the contrary, the child's athletic talent is good, and he always has a good time in sports such as basketball.
As a beneficiary of the Olympic numbers, she soberly realized: "If the child has an Olympic number advantage, he is very competitive at the beginning of the small ascension." But it is impossible for him to win the championship, in fact, most people are runners on this road. ”
Indeed, from the perspective of the Olympic number alone, the baby that spends a lot of money may still be reduced to the vast majority of 80%. And Weng Shanwei also decided to let the child choose independently, when he can work hard for the field he focuses on, how can it not be a success?
Moreover, parents have to admit a cruel educational truth: as children get older, the effect of chicken babies becomes more and more ineffective.
Psychologist Gesell did one such "twin experiment":
Let one of the twins have a 10-minute ladder climbing exercise every day from 48 weeks. By week 52, he was able to expertly climb 5 flights of stairs.
The other child, on the other hand, began training to climb stairs from week 53. The results showed that two weeks later, the second child was able to successfully complete this action without assistance.
This experiment shows that children's psychology and physiology are a natural process of maturation, and early chicken and late chicken are of little significance. Training in advance may see results in the short term, but the gap is not obvious in the long run.
What's more, the "chicken" is too much, and it may also bring about the problem of "hollow heart disease". In "The Feast of the Commoners", the Japanese writer Mariko Hayashi tells the anxiety of a middle-class family.
The heroine is the perfect middle-class housewife, she comes from a family of doctors, and both of them are excellent in academic qualifications and resumes. In order to let her children get a better education, she resigned to become a full-time mother and devoted all her efforts to raising her children.
Enrolling in classes, study tours, and all kinds of chicken baby must-have tricks in this family, even if not one has fallen. But under such an elite education, the son became loose and rebellious. He did not become an excellent social talent according to the established line, but dropped out of school to work and worked all his life.
Asked why, he replied bitterly: "I don't want to change my life now, and I don't want anything." "It is really lamentable that middle-class elite families have raised such "waste firewood" children.
The ambitions and desires of life, after all, come from their own driving force.
03 Self-chicken is the highest realm
In his book Perseverance, Professor Ducoworth said: "Successful people are very similar in two ways: the first is resilience, and the second is a clear goal. ”
A truly powerful child is able to work diligently on his own. This kind of self-driving force has nothing to do with doing problems and enrolling in classes, but is related to the daily conscious cultivation and support of parents.
Professor Du Coworth divides the parenting type of parenting into four types from the two dimensions of support and demand. Among them, the degree of support and the degree of demand are both high, which is called "wise parenting".
This type of parent understands the psychological needs of their children and can give their children the freedom to realize their potential. At the same time, they also set boundaries and rules for children, so that children can make their own decisions within a reasonable range.
Not only that, but the professor also mentioned that the role model of parents is also crucial. In families with a strong exemplary role, children can continuously optimize their growth path through imitation.
From the perspective of learning habits alone, in fact, in terms of concentration and re-examination thinking, parents can consciously set an example for their children. The setting of this example is not limited to the state of adult immersion in the study. Even if the child participates in a housework activity together, it can also affect the child's thinking habits in details.
There is no standard answer in life. From the birth of the child, every parent inevitably receives two messages: the good news is that "the child will be an ordinary person in the future", and the bad news is "to be an ordinary person, there is also a threshold".
But these two messages are not too bad. At least in the future, it will be remarkable that our children will be able to face life honestly and enthusiastically.