#Read Notes##Daily Memorization##Weaknesses of Human Nature##Be Brave to Face Reality##笑对人生 #
Either be knocked down by the pain, or put the pain under your feet.
In our long lives, we will encounter some unpleasant things, and this is the end of the matter, what can we worry/worry/suffer? Worry/worry/pain can't change the facts that can't be changed, and we only have two options:
- Being knocked down by worry – letting worry ruin our lives and ultimately causing us to have a nervous breakdown.
- Put your worries under your feet – accept and adapt to facts that can't be changed.
If this is just a multiple-choice question, I believe that everyone will choose to "step on the worries under their feet".
However, in life, many people (including me in the past) always like to avoid things that make them powerless and painful, as if if they don't face them, things don't exist. But in fact, the vast majority of problems never disappear automatically, but become more serious because of your escape. As the saying goes: "Life is like this, you should bear it, you can't escape, you can't avoid it." ”
In this world, reality may be really harsh, but you have to understand:
- Dare to face it, although it will be temporarily painful, but it is the best attitude to solve the problem. Only if you face it bravely, you can better exercise yourself and gradually grow, so that your life can be expected in the future.
Read "The Weakness of Human Nature" - "How to Eliminate Worry" Chapter 9 Facing Reality Bravely (part 1 of 2)
"The most important thing you have to do when you embark on the journey of life is to accept reality." —Schopenhauer
"Accepting the facts willingly is the first step in overcoming all the difficulties that follow." —William James
Only a cheerful acceptance of reality is the only way to alleviate suffering.
It is not the environment itself that determines our happiness or not, it is our reaction to our surroundings that determines how we feel.
Worrying/suffering/failing is not terrible, what is terrible is that you can't stand the worry/pain/failure.
We can't change the facts that can't be changed, the only thing we can change is ourselves.
In the face of the impact of life, if we do not adapt but resist, retreat into the world of our own fantasies, what will be the consequences? The answer is simple: we will only be overwhelmed, becoming worried, nervous, irritable, and even towards collapse.
No matter what happens, as long as there is still a chance to save, we must work hard, but when common sense shows that things will not turn around, we must remain calm and stop asking for trouble.
Read "The Weakness of Human Nature" - "How to Eliminate Worry" Chapter 9 Facing Reality Bravely (part 2 of 2)
We might as well savor the prayers of the American pastor Dr. Niebull:
- Pray that God will give me peace of mind so that I can accept things that cannot be changed;
- And give me endless courage to change the things that can be changed;
- Give me enough wisdom to discern the nuances between the two.
Whether one is happy or not depends entirely on one's view of everything in the world.
Our state of mind determines our destiny:
- If we always think about sad things, we will be sad;
- If we are always thinking about terrible things, we will be afraid;
- If we always have bad thoughts, we can't be at ease;
- If we are always worried about failure, we will fail;
- If we are always self-pitying, everyone will eventually avoid us.
We must pay attention to our own problems, but not worry. What is the difference between valuing and worrying? Valuing/caring about a problem is about understanding where it is and then finding a way to solve it, and worrying can only drive people crazy and spin around.
Only by daring to face it can we regain a new life.
"Life is never a fairy tale, but a reality full of wind and rain and mud."
In life, no one will always be smooth sailing, no matter where you are, you will encounter some tricky, uncontrollable things, you must understand:
- Running away is never the best solution, and only by daring to face it can you regain your life.
There will always be a time in this world that will make you feel sad, depressed, and even desperate, you have to understand:
- There is no better choice than to carry it over, except to try my best to change a little bit.
Never shrink back in the face of difficulties, and don't sink in because of suffering, you must understand:
- Heaven will not tolerate you because of your grievances, nor will it be kind to you because of your escape, it will only care for those warriors who never give up and forge ahead.
- When you really pull out your sword and fight with your life, you will find that your life will become better and better.
Instead of escaping from reality, laugh at life.
Although life is not destined to be a smooth road, the problems in life will not be as difficult as we think. As long as you are brave enough and dare to face it, there is actually nothing to be afraid of, and there is no problem that cannot be solved.
"Every powerful person has gritted his teeth and spent a period of time when no one helped, no one supported, no one booed and asked for warmth, and in the past, this is your coming-of-age ceremony; if you can't go, please forgive me, this is your bottomless pit." 」 - Martin
"Life always makes us bruised, but later, those wounded places will become our strongest places." —Hemingway
Life is to smile in the face of reality, to look beyond obstacles to the future.
Instead of escaping from reality, it is better to laugh at life; instead of listening to the wind and rain, it is better to strike with your head held high.
May everyone who lives seriously, after experiencing the beating of life, be able to move forward without losing the courage to move forward and be able to move forward firmly. Only by doing so, then it is bound to be able to overcome the obstacles and better embrace the new day.