Author | Inspector (1853 words, about 4 minutes to read)
The first thing the 4-year-old daughter did when she came home from school was to rush to the toilet to pull the toilet, once or twice, but the child did this every time she came home, which made her girlfriend Jiajia wonder: "Is the child not going to the toilet at school?" Why is it that every time I go home, my little face is red? ”
After waiting for her daughter to come out of the toilet this time, Jiajia was also a little anxious, and questioned her daughter on the spot: "Why don't you go to the toilet at school?" Isn't it uncomfortable to hold home every time? ”
Hearing the mother's question, the 4-year-old Yuanyuan also did not know how to answer, and finally under jiajia's patient inquiry, the child told the truth, and the truth behind it made Jiajia feel painful.
It turned out that it was due to the large number of kindergarten children and the toilet did not have a partition, so the daughter was "embarrassed" to go to the toilet every time.
As a result, in school, I can always hold back, especially when I pull the poop, the child's movements are somewhat slow, and the teacher has time regulations, so he will always endure until he comes home from school and then goes to the toilet.
Hearing her daughter's voice, Jiajia is distressed on the one hand, but also anxious, the child is embarrassed to go to the toilet at school, and she can't always hold it, what to do?
In fact, not only the children of jiajia's family are like this, but many children around them have had this situation, and according to a report by the Early Childhood Development Research Center, it is pointed out:
"80% of children, for various reasons, are reluctant to defecate at school, and only 20% are unaffected."
The reason why children do not defecate at school is actually very simple, mostly for these points:
I'm sorry, the child's "shame" is at work
In general, children around the age of three have gradually developed a "sense of privacy" and "shame". The poop is dirty and smelly, and there is no partition in the toilet, so many children do not want to pull the poop in front of other children.
And my nephew once told me that once when he was "pooping" at school, there were a lot of other children lining up around him, and they would say things like it smelled good. He felt very anxious and shy there, so he quickly got up and never had a bowel movement at school since.
The environment is not adapted, and the transition from sitting to squatting
Many children's bathrooms in the home are sitting poop, children can sit on the cane, and the environment is comfortable and hygienic, but also more relaxed. Compared with the bathroom in the home, the school toilet obviously does not have such good conditions.
First, there are more children, and the sanitary conditions may not be as good as at home;
Second, the squat is too tired, and the child's legs are likely to be sore and numb, and they are not used to it.
So, this is one of the reasons why many children prefer to hold back than go to the toilet at school.
School time limits, so that children do not have time to "free defecate"
Ten minutes between small classes, 20 minutes between large classes, sometimes ten minutes of small recesses, there is no end to the class, and there are more people in the big class, just waiting in line for a long time, so many children simply do not have enough time to defecate.
At noon, the kindergarten teacher quickly arranged for the child to have lunch and nap, and the child did not have his own free time, so many children did not have the intention of defecating at school even if they held back.
Although each child's thoughts and circumstances are different, the same thing is that they are reluctant to go to the toilet at school, and when they come home, they rush to the toilet like arrows and defecate vigorously in an instant. And this kind of behavior actually has certain drawbacks.
Children hold stool for a day or even two days, and feces accumulate in the intestine, which can easily cause flatulence and even form habitual constipation. And because the waste in the feces is not discharged in time, after reabsorption, it is easy to cause the stool to dry. Then the child's sudden defecation may lead to fissure and cause greater pain to the child.
In the face of this situation, what is the right thing for parents to do?
★ First of all, you can try to adjust your child's "defecation biological clock"
● If the body is healthy enough, the work and diet are stable enough, in fact, our "poop" time can be gradually fixed.
Try having your child get up every morning with a glass of warm water.
Completing the bowel movement at home before school helps the child eat more breakfast and can also avoid the child's defecation at school.
★ Parents should communicate more with teachers so that teachers pay attention to their children's defecation problems
Children may be embarrassed, or the speech is not clear, parents can communicate with the teacher more, let the teacher regularly supervise and guide the child to defecate, give the child enough time to defecate.
You also need to tell your children that you must not hold back when you have a poop, you can raise your hand at any time or find a teacher to help you create a better defecation environment for your child and let your child relax, which can also effectively improve the child's defecation situation.
★ Parents should psychologically and correctly guide their children
Many children are embarrassed to defecate at school, so even if they hold back for a day, they must insist on enduring it at home, which is not only not conducive to physical health, but also not conducive to children's psychological development.
Parents should clearly let their children know that row is the normal behavior of everyone, and there is no embarrassment, and they should not laugh at others because of other children's defecation.
It is necessary to respect the behavior of others and face up to their own physiological needs.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
Children at school and at home are two states, one is relaxed and free, the other is constrained, so children in these two environments, even if they do the same thing, will have different ways of dealing with it.
Many children have had a situation of holding back in school, once they encounter this situation, parents should not be in a hurry, they can try the above three methods to slowly guide their children. If the child is really unwilling to go to the toilet at school, then parents try to adjust the child's biological clock and let them solve it in advance at home, so that the child can be easier at school and reduce the psychological burden.
Parents, has your child ever behaved like this?
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