"Ass Mom", "Shit Mom", "Stinky Daddy"...
I don't know when, these wordless titles have become a mantra that children have to repeat to their families every day!
At home, even if you say it, what is even more terrible is to go out and shout "big ass aunt" to others.
No, it led to me and my children being isolated by the mom group!
You think that's the end of it? There are also violent words such as "cut off your hand" and "beat you up" that often come out of the baby's mouth.
Innocent and cute is not related to the baby, which is simply demonized!
How did the head-scratching "fart doll" learn this?
Or did Mom and Dad do something wrong? Cause the child to become like this!
In fact, after the child is 2 years old, self-awareness will slowly begin to awaken.
At this time, the child has a soft spot for some impolite, even vicious language.
They find those words funny, seem to carry power and magic, and can make others react strongly!
This is when the child reaches the sensitive period of curse, that is, the sensitive period of foul language.
Because in the eyes of parents, and urine is a flood beast, can't say!
As long as the child opens his mouth and carries these words, he will immediately stop or severely criticize.
Or be amused and think it's funny for kids to say this!
However, in the eyes of the child, these words are no different from other languages, and if we react too much to these words, the child will prefer to say them.
The more we stop it, the stronger the reaction, the more often the child speaks.
Especially cursed language like I hate you, I hate you, you go and die, and stinky.
Because, the child finds that saying this makes him feel very controlled and feels that he can manipulate your emotions!
Therefore, when encountering children saying "foul language", the least recommended thing to do is to block it strongly.
Of course, this sensitive period will come naturally and will pass quietly, and we don't need to worry too much.
Otherwise, apart from getting angry with yourself and pinching people to save yourself, there is no practical effect.
So how to deal with it correctly? Remember the following 3 points!
First of all, put away our little temper!
When the grumpy father and mother collide with the child's foul language period, the most important thing we should do is:
First: Ignore appropriately
The reaction of the parents must be calm, do not make a fuss, think that this is a very big problem.
In this way, the child slowly feels that his kind of language is ineffective for us, and naturally he will not say it.
But we can also respond in a positive way.
For example, if the child says: Stinky mother, hate you this kind of words, we can say:
I think you're a good baby, I like you a lot! Such words are used in response to the child.
In short, don't be easily swayed by "little farts".
Second: Tell your child how you feel
When a child says to you, "If you don't let me watch cartoons, I'll break your head," tell your child:
"Mom's so sad, don't you love Mom?" Or "Mom loves you very much, but I'm really sad that you say that" to deal with.
Guide your child to think differently, if others talk to you like this, will you also be sad?
Let the child know that these words will hurt others, and naturally the child will realize that it is not right to do so!
In this process, you need to adhere to the principle of "gentle and firm attitude", do not have a strong reaction, do not criticize the child.
But you have to be very clear, it is wrong to talk like this, it is not okay.
Third: Pay attention to your child's language environment
Psychologists point out that children observe the world from birth and are natural observers.
They grow by observing and imitating the behavior of others. Their first imitations were their own families.
This is also a kind of imitation behavior, do not give children a bad example at home, and try to keep children away from or less exposed to bad language environments.
For example, violent cartoons, children who love to talk dirty, or family members who love to talk dirty, we must stop or stay away!
Fourth: Guide the child
When the child enters the period of foul language and is full of and pee, parents can take the opportunity to tell the child about the knowledge of and pee fart.
For example, watching the picture book "Bodi who loves to fart", "Who is Mmmmm
It is difficult for children to spend this time for a while, we may wish to divert children's attention and pay more attention to children who love to talk about and piss!
Try to read the little emotions behind your child and give him gentle and powerful care